Ghetto Girls

[Kimmie1913]

Hey Sorors and SF's-

I had to vent on this one- I HATE< HATE, HATE that son by Lil Bow Wow "Ghetto Girls." Besides the fact sometimes I think these little girls are totally out of control, I know the parents who encourage the out of control behavior and actually encourage their daughters to try and "get with" him with dollar signs in their eyes are straight off the meter. (And yes, I have seen it done) But now he is telling them the type of ghetto girl that he likes. And we all know they will all try to be that kind of girl who "talks more slang than he does" who "likes hot boys and runs with the best of them” And we all know if he said he liked fuchsia hair they would be begging for fuchsia hair. I think the images and messages we allow our children to be bombarded with are horrific. Lil Bow Wow is a mess to me. What type of image is he growing up with about women and girls? I pray his mother is actively trying to combat that or I fear women will always be nothing but screaming groupie chicks to him. Lil Kim is not a role model for anyone and certainly not someone under 18. (Who need not be listening to a single word that comes out of her mouth before then) Same goes for Foxy Brown and Trina in my opinion.

I am so tired of seeing my little sisters running around emulating video hoes, believing the only way to get a boy to be interested in them is through sex and their own self oversexualization. I am tired of clothes manufacturers who now make girls clothes nothing more than a smaller version of my CLUB clothes. I am tired of the parents who keep their nine-year-olds decked out in tube tops and acrylic finger and toe nails, getting their eyebrows waxed along side me. I am tired of the eight-year-olds that aspire to be teenaged moms. I am tired of the four generation families rolling around my city more concerned with section 8 than the future (meaning great grandma is 45, grandma is 30, mom is 15 and the baby is 1) I am tired of people believing that being poor ahs to mean being ignorant, buying into the negative stereotypes and perpetuating the worse of all the things we have to offer. Some days I wonder if we will ever help all our brothers and sisters see their own potential and to see out side of the box. Just because you live in the ghetto does not mean you have to be "ghetto". And I worry about the future of the generations coming behind me more than you could ever know.

Whew! Off my soapbox. What do you think? Is the song really okay and I am just over reacting? Maybe it is just me...or maybe it's not.


------------------
Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc.
Baltimore Metropolitan Alumnae Chapter
#3 of ER 30
Spring 1999

"No finer girls will you ever see, and I'm so glad I pledged- for what?
For DST!"

[sphinxpoet]

I agree with you.......but......Brothers go through the same thing as well! We are bombarded by images and songs telling us women want this and that and we transform ourselves into that.....I am tired of talking to my fellow man and he knows more about videos and clothes then he does about the civil rights movement, tired of Brothers thinking manhood = having a child, tired of Brothers acting thugged out saying how they are gangsta and the last fight the got into was in the 3rd grade.....I am tired of young brothers aspiring to be a thug instead of a millionare(the legal way).....I am tired of brothers walking around in designer clothes, smoking weed(nothing personal to those that do), drive a car and cannot even pay the note and are avoiding the Repo Man. I am tired of women saying they want a thug for a man and men thinking that means a thug does not need an education. I am tired of women chasing fraternity men just cause they have letters on their chest.......I am just tired......

The Sphinxpoet

[AKA2D '91]

How Come that girl that's is dancing has to do her mouth the way she does in the video?

Dat ain't cute at-tall! It works my last nerve. uggggghhhhhhh!

I feel you all though. It's a sad state of affairs.

[Kimmie1913]

Originally posted by sphinxpoet:

The Sphinxpoet

I feel ya, too. My boyfriend and I were just talking about that- the whole men fronting as this that or the other for the sole reason of getting women. He knows a guy who will spot any designer thing (real or fake) just to try and project a certain image. Now, I like expensive stuff, BUT I only buy what I can afford- I am not going broke for a look. And it is not so deep that I need to fake it. While I do not feel blaming the media is the end all on the topic, nor is it an adequate excuse, I do feel there is an undeniable influence from the media on our society, our people and our young people in particular.

------------------
Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc.
Baltimore Metropolitan Alumnae Chapter
#3 of ER 30
Spring 1999

"No finer girls will you ever see, and I'm so glad I pledged- for what?
For DST!"

[ChaosDST]

Yeah, the videos these days are ignorant. Lil Bow Wow is just another artist depicting most Black women as loud, hoochie-fied, and ghetto. The thing is that ghetto does not HAVE to have a negative connotation. It has been given a negative connotation...but the word "ghetto" is not intrinsically bad.
Another video that erks me: Lil Romeo and Silk the Shocka Remix of "That's Cool." Those little kids in that video are trying to act like short adults. Why do some adults think this is cute? It isn't cute when you have a fast a** little girl or boy to try to control---


Chaos