I need help

emilyclarke831 · #1 12-28-2004, 09:53 PM

Hello lady Pi Phis, I am having a problem. I am considering leaving Pi Phi the money has become an issue and I do not have the time anymore for it. I have missed the early alum date, but I really want to go early alum, i do not want to just drop out. I am just not sure whether dropping out is the best decision or what to do. Please, if any of you have any suggestions on this subject please reply to this thread. Thanks

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Emily

carnation · #2 12-28-2004, 11:57 PM

You ought to discuss it with women in your chapter who are closer to the situation! How about kellbell?

emilyclarke831 · #3 12-29-2004, 12:21 AM

I am afraid to discuss it with people in my chapter. I was hopeing to get an outside opinion from someone on maybe a situation similar that they had experienced.

Lady Pi Phi · #4 12-29-2004, 12:36 AM

I have think talking to someone in your chapter is probably the best. Do you have a standard's/Angel board member (or what ever you call yours) that you can speak to in confidence. What about an AAC member?

angelic1 · #5 12-29-2004, 09:44 AM

Im not sure how your chapter handles early alum status, but unless you were a fifth year senior or under extreme circumstances you didnt get early alum at my chapter. I know that sounds harsh, but most everyone struggled with money some and had many time commitments as well.

just like everyone else has said, you should talk to members of your chapter (standards board or the president).. i dont know why you would be afraid to discuss this with members of your chapter.

This is not something that is unique on your part either, we had girls struggle with financial and time situations as well. Some were able to work it out, bc it meant so much to them, but some couldn't just for various reasons.

I know that sometimes I didnt have as much time to put into the chapter as I would have liked, some semesters I had a lot of time-it changed as I got older.

All in all, Im not sure of your situation, or your chapters individual responsibilities for events, so it would be best if you talked with them on this.

angelove · #6 12-29-2004, 03:59 PM

Have you talked to your chapter treasurer or her AAC counterpart to see if you can make some kind of financial arrangements? You could let her know the situation and she could discuss it with exec, and they would keep it confidential if you're not comfortable with other members of your chapter knowing about it.

Good luck with everything!

emilyclarke831 · #7 12-29-2004, 05:35 PM

The only reason I am afraid to talk to my chapter memebers is because we have had a lot of people drop out and I do not want to upset anyone. I will figure something out, Thanks. I have to discuss it with my chapter president soon, so I don't think i need anymroe advice.

Speechpath · #8 12-29-2004, 06:35 PM

Ditto what most folks have said, you need to discuss it with your exec memeber who can keep it confidential and hopefully help you figure out a way you can keep active. As someone else said, I think many of us have/had the same concerns you are having about time/finances. Dropping out usually isn't the answer unless it's an extreme situation as it cuts short your college fraternity experience and cuts you out of any alum experience. Despite how hard it is to committ your time and money at this point, it is a committment you made when you were initiated. Best of luck!