Misread!

[AlphaSigLana]

I am a pretty quiet person until I am comfortable around people and I think this often gets misread. I think people assume I am a snob. I am really nice usually-haha! Anyone else been misread?

[InquiringMind]

I am the exact same way.....but people that know me will definitely tell you differently.

[purpleturtle]

I am the exact opposite! Because I am naturally very outgoing, and can be somewhat crazy and random, people think I am an airhead or immature. People who know me know how smart and mature I really am. Just because I will walk up and talk to you doesn't make me an idiot! I'm just ME!!

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[AngelPhiSig]

Yeah, I am quiet when I first meet someone, so they think Im stuck up... and then, once people know Im a crazy and silly, and then they take me as immature, I cant win.

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[juniorgrrl]

There's a difference in my mind between stuck up and just shy/quiet. I can be quiet when I first meet people. I'm still nice though - I may just not have tons to say.

But when I try to be outgoing to someone and they just kinda stare with that look on their face of "why are YOU talking to me??" THEN I can write them off as snobby.

[BlueReign]

I have been wrestling with this issue all of my life. People tell me that when they first met me they thought I was stuck-up or mean. But then they found out that I was just the opposite. My sister and most of my cousins on my father's side have the same personality which my Mom can't stand because she is very talkative and outgoing. I have just learned to just be me and know that when people take the time to get to know me I am loyal and there is nothing I wouldn't do for someone in need.

[AXiD Sweetie]

I am just like this! I just don't talk But I'm really nice actually, I've been told I'm TOO nice... Is that one of those backhanded complement? (Is that even the word I'm looking for? You know what I mean, right? Like if you meet a celebrity and say "you're so much taller/shorter/skinnier in person...) Oh, never mind! :P

[norcalchick]

I'm really quiet and shy around new people. But when I'm around my friends and family, I'm a goof ball. With my friends, I'm really nice. In high school, people probably thought I was a bitch because I would walk around to my classes quietly and being a cheerleader didn't help. I wasn't smiling or anything, but why would I?! I'm by myself walking. If I laughed to myself, people would probably think I was crazy.

[PM_Mama00]

A friend and I were talking about this last night. I'm always quiet when I first meet people because I don't know how to act around them. I'm a very weird person, and I don't like scaring people away. Other times that I'm misread, is when I'm at a bar or party or somewhere social. I just sit there, not smiling or anything, and people think I'm having a bad time. I just like sitting there people watching. You'll know if I'm having a bad time.

[_Opi_]

Oh yeah, I'm misread all the time. I'm usually quite reserved but friendly..I try to feel 'em out first, see what their about before I could open up to them. People used to tell me that they thought I had an attitude when they met me first But that was before they got to know me..


I'm misread on this forum as well.....I don't really know what it could be...???

[SSS1365]

I'm the same way. I also have trouble with eye contact in a one-on-one situation. I think I feel intimidated just staring at someone and they're staring back at me. However, a friend of mine told me that my lack of eye contact is probably a factor in why people misread me. So I've been working on both being more outgoing and having better eye contact

[PM_Mama00]

Originally posted by SSS1365
I'm the same way. I also have trouble with eye contact in a one-on-one situation. I think I feel intimidated just staring at someone and they're staring back at me. However, a friend of mine told me that my lack of eye contact is probably a factor in why people misread me. So I've been working on both being more outgoing and having better eye contact

My friends think I'm not paying attention to them when I don't look them in the eye. I can't. If I'm sitting across a table I can, but if we're sitting close, I duno I just can't. I like to look around too. Everyone thinks I have a slight ADD problem, which I guess if I do, it could add to what people think of me.

[honeychile]

I tend to be more outgoing in public than shy, but trust me, it was a learned characteristic.

Because I know how it feels on both sides, when I am in a shy or reflective mood, I may stand on the sidelines, but I try to remember to keep a smile on my face, and not to cross my arms (a defensive mood). I'm not talking a Chesire Cat smile, more of a Mona Lisa type - slight smile, and open. That way, there's no confusion that I'm stuck up, as opposed to low key.

So... the next time you don't feel like being the belle of the ball, just remember not to frown, and not to cross your arms (holding a empty cup usually helps), and you might find similarly low key people coming over to talk.

[Susan_Renee]

i know exactly what you're talking about. i get the same reaction from people. getting called stuck up, a snob, and all those other names gets old, but i try not to let it bother me because after people get to know me, they usually like me. i'm assuming its they same way for all of you as well.

[PhoenixAzul]

When I'm in a group of people I don't know, I'm super super shy! We had a pre-rush ice cream social, and I couldn't bring myself to talk to the girls! But once I've talked to you once, I'm super loud/weird/wacky/crazy.