Cheating husband......

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Ok so last night I received a call from my Best Friend and she was hysterical. She had just found out that her husband had been cheating on her. She was asking me for some advice but I honestly don't know what to tell her besides just being supportive of her decision. I know there have been many threads about what is considered cheating but I thought I would throw this question out there.

Here is the scenerio. They have been together for 8 years married for 2. This past year her brother moved in with them and things became tense. After a year her brother finally left (after lots of pushing and help from others). During that year things were not perfect but not terrible but the sex was not really there either. She found a text message on his cell phone about having kids with another woman. She confronted him and he he denied everything. Said that they were just friends and she helping him with marital advice. About a week later he left his e-mail open on their computer and she found a letter from him to his Best Friend about the affair that he had been having for a while. She printed it out and confronted him with it. Of course he couldn't deny it anymore because she had it in his words. Come to find out this other woman was someone that they had both been friends with and they had even had over for Thanksgiving and Christmas because she had gone through a nasty divorce where her husband cheated on her. (HUMMMMMMM)

She is at a loss as to what to do. They (she) wants to try and work it out but she doesn't know if she will ever get over the thought of this other woman. I keep trying to put myself in her shoes and think what I would do but I am torn. I would like to say I would kick him to the curb but I also would have a hard time throwing away an 8 year relationship.

She is trying to blame herself (like everyone does) and I am having a hard time explaining to her that this is absolutely not her fault, without making it sound like she should leave him (unless that is what she wants to do).

She has been my best friend for about 10 years and I have know her husband longer than I have known my own.

Any words of Wisdom? I want to be supportive for her but I am so shocked that all I can say is "Oh my Gosh"
Should she stay and try to make it work or is that not possible?
Can she ever trust him again?