I missed out.

JustaGDI · #1 10-24-2004, 05:22 PM

I went to a school with no Greek life as a freshman, then attended community college one semester and took the following one off. When I started at my university I was already 20, and I pledged a sorority to meet people, but I didn't like it for a lot of reasons (I lived too far away from campus, I was older than most of the sisters I met, and they did some pretty stupid, obnoxious semi-hazing type things, and I made a really bad choice when I picked a big sister.) I will not mention the name of the sorority since I had a bad experience with them.

Now I'm a 22 year old senior in my second to final semester and I really wish I had the opportunity to join Alpha Phi at my university. I feel so bad about it. Is there any hope for my situation? I guess my chance has passed.

Some background: my mom was in AEPhi at Queens College, and my big sis was in AXO at MIT a couple years ago.

AlphaPhiBubbles · #2 10-24-2004, 06:47 PM

it depends on your campus, but there isn't an official Alpha Phi rule stating you are "too old" or its "too late" to rush. However, I know that many sorority chapters hesitate to take seniors because of many reasons - mostly that women in their fourth year are usually focusing on graduating and pledging takes up a lot of time and effort. I also fear that you will come across the same issues perhaps, being older than your pledge class can sometimes isolate you.

Alpha Phi does do Alumna Initiations that you could look into after you graduate college. It's a great opportunity to still be involved with Alpha Phi, although its different than the collegiate experience but just as rewarding I'm sure.

James · #3 10-24-2004, 07:16 PM

Try to join alpha phi now. . . who knows, they might take you.

If not, well, it is a collegiate activity. Would you want to join your School Paper post graduation?

Move on and chock it up to experience.

aephi alum · #4 10-24-2004, 08:44 PM

It's never too late. I've seen seniors rush and get bids. Alternatively, Alpha Phi is among several NPC sororities that actively encourage alumna initiation, so you may want to look into that once you've graduated.

Don't give up.

aphibeach · #5 10-24-2004, 08:47 PM

AlphaPhiBubbles is right......go ahead and go through recruitment! They CANNOT discriminate against age. I am friends with a girl who is in Phi Mu and she said that when they took a senior last year, it was the best thing they could have ever done. The girl ended up becoming a wonderful sister and an awesome alumni.

good luck!

Sistermadly · #6 10-24-2004, 10:17 PM

If the campus hasn't had informal recruitment/COB, I'd probably pursue that route rather than formal recruitment.

33girl · #7 10-24-2004, 11:14 PM

Are all the sororities at your school at total, or do they always have to COB?

How formal is formal rush?

Definitely try now (especially since I'm guessing you are somewhere in the northeast...things are not as competitive here as in the south). Don't say "I'm too old" and deny yourself a chance at collegiate membership.

astroAPhi · #8 10-24-2004, 11:26 PM

As long as you weren't initiated into the original sorority, I would try to go through Recruitment again if you can. It will all depend on your school's atmosphere about younger students, but it can't hurt to try. At my school, my chapter gave a bid to a senior this semester. But at other schools, I know it's really hard for a sophomore to get a bid.

Good luck. While alumnae initiation is a great thing, it is very different than the collegiate experience.

Erik P Conard · #9 10-25-2004, 03:41 AM

we pledged a retired army guy, and he was a scratch golfer.
He was 58 years old. Unfortunately, he had a heart attack
and we lost him on the eve of initiation.
he was an inspiration to all of us.

SigPhiSunshine · #10 10-25-2004, 04:48 AM

have you already been intiated into the other sorority? i might be wrong but i am under the assumption that once you are initiated into a sorority, you can never join another national. i might be wrong though

JustaGDI · #11 10-25-2004, 08:17 AM

I did drop before initation, and yes my school has COB. I just don't know how long it lasts. Thank you for the encouragement, I will consider the advice. I am in the mid-Atlantic area, not quite the north east.

aphibeach · #12 10-25-2004, 08:47 AM

well i'm located in the SE region so if you need any help, let me know!