guy troubles.....help!

alphaiota · #1 08-08-2004, 07:52 PM

ok, so there is this guy, john, who i've known for a month or so. we met at the club we both go to on the weekend. so until last week it was the casual he knows my friend who knows a friend type thing. we talked, but nothing major.
so last sat. we were chatting and then later on in the night i asked him if he'd take me for a ride on his motorcycle. he said yes, but in a bit. i said no problem and just kept drinking. well i was completely plastered and ended up puking before i went for the ride. while we were on the ride, i was flirting with him hardcore. and in return he asked if he could see my chest. well, i'm not so proud to say it, but i did let him. i won't give details, but yeah, use your imagination here. now i know he's a huge flirt and a bit of a hoe, but for some odd reason i'm still attracted to him. and i know that we'd never really have anything serious. oh and did i mention he's the deputy chief of police around here and a bit older than me. yeah.
anyhow, i called him on monday at work and just left a message not really expecting a call back. well he called back within 10 minutes. we flirted more and he promised me another ride and that he'd give me a call. also, we both said we weren't going to be going to the club this weekend.
so i called him on wed. as well, but that was just to tell him my friend and i were going to be in his area if he wanted to come out for a drink. never got a call back. didn't worry about it.
so yesterday (sat.) i ended up going to the club and who rides up with his girlfriend on the back of the bike? oh yeah, john.
i play it cool and not go talk to him since i know he was a bit surprised to see me there and basically felt caught. well my friend, some other friends and i end up going over and saying hi to him and everyone he was sitting with. we chatted for a few minutes and then i went inside the club. no biggy. well, we ended up sitting by the window that looks out over the patio where he was sitting. i caught his eye and motioned for him to come in and talk to me for a sec. he didn't. he wouldn't come in. when he finally did come in, it was with his gf and still wouldn't come talk to me.
well by this point i'm pissed off. didn't have a problem that he was there with his gf. i had a problem with the fact he wouldn't come talk to me. i wanted to tell him it was no big deal and to give me a call and we'd get together another time. but no. wouldn't come talk to me so i couldn't tell him that.
so i grabbed my friends keys and went to the car right out front and waited for her to come out. i was fuming. he and his girlfriend were getting ready to leave. i just sat back until he brought out the breathalizer test. i just wanted to see what my level was so i asked if he would test me. so he tested me, i was at .02. so my friend and i left, she took me back to my car. i was still very very pissed. so i drove back over to the club and as i was walking in, he and his gf were walking out. i got his attention and told him to call me b/c i needed to talk to him. he agreed and left. i proceeded to go in and pound a few more drinks and left. tried to act like i wasn't coming back for him. don't know if it worked.
so now i'm regretting how i acted and the fact that i let it get to me. what are your thoughts? guys can ring in too. i need some serious help. i went momentarily psycho and i'm so sorry.

shelley j
sigma k

alphaiota · #2 08-10-2004, 07:32 PM

so nobody has any advice for me?
by the way, he hasn't called. i pretty much figured he wouldn't though.

shelley j
sigma k

CASIGKAP · #3 08-10-2004, 08:33 PM

I have now read your post. I wouldn't worry too much about it b/c every woman has at one point in time done some pretty psycho things like stalking, the phone calls, messages, etc. However, if he still hasn't called you, it's best to just write him off & start looking for other fish to fry. In the event that you run into him again, just play it cool & let him come to you.
Good-Luck!
Keep us updated b/c I'm incurably nosy.

winneythepooh7 · #4 08-10-2004, 08:39 PM

Sounds like the syndrome of being attracted to the boy you can't have who is a typical bad boy~. I wouldn't worry about him. It sounds like you are out to just have a good time anyways so continue doing that. I'm sure you are not the only one who has not been his "girlfriend" on the back of his motorcycle showing him, well, you know............LOL

alphaiota · #5 08-10-2004, 09:48 PM

see that's what's so frustrating. he totally put it to me that we would get together again. saturday was just a mess. i've been somewhat tempted to call him, but there is no way i'd really do it. i probably will see him on saturday and i won't be approaching him (except maybe for in a group going to say hello to his group type thing).

shelley j
sigma k

ps - heck yeah i'll be updating yall!!!

PSUSigKap · #6 08-11-2004, 11:51 PM

i think don't wait around for him. . .find someone better. . .he sounds a little sketch to me

alphaiota · #7 08-12-2004, 11:58 AM

lol, irony is that he's the deputy chief of police. yet he's a player, but doesn't play very well.
i have decided what i'm going to say to him if the timing should present itself. i'm basically going to tell him it's his loss, not mine. that all i wanted was "relations" not a "relationship". and if he had any brain, he wouldn't have been a dick to me cuz i didn't earn my college nickname without warrant. (pornstar)

shelley j
sigma k

Aquastar · #8 08-12-2004, 01:15 PM

YEAH SHELLEY!!

DigitalAngel126 · #9 08-12-2004, 02:47 PM

I knew you'd come to the right conclusion!!! Not that I have much room to talk (think: Joe), but I was hoping that's the decision you'd come to!!

YAY!

alphaiota · #10 08-12-2004, 07:52 PM

trouble is, he's so stinkin' hot! it will be difficult, but i'm a pretty strong willed sister.

shelley j
sigma k

ps - so if i come on here and post a drunken reply on sunday morning/sat. night yall will understand. and if it goes well then i won't be posting til much much later on sunday.

alphaiota · #11 08-15-2004, 10:54 PM

okay.......i'm just confused at this point.

he came to the club last night and i was the first person he came up to talk to. i was just sitting and having a drink with my cousin and he comes up and starts talking to me. "how are you? what are you up to tonight? how's the job hunt?"

so later that evening i was talking to him and the conversation turned pretty sexual. we were touching and all (like his hands on my hips, me kissing his neck. nothing major)
i finally decided to leave and i went over to say bye. when i told him i was leaving he asked where i was heading, i said home. he nodded. i asked if he was going to give me a reason to stay. he said "not tonight. i have to get up early and go into work". but he came outside and said bye to me and then got paged from work and had to leave (supposedly)

so i've decided i'm just going to call him tomorrow and ask him straight out what is going on between us. i hate playing these games. grandma's mind can't keep up anymore.

shelley j
sigma k

alphaiota · #12 08-16-2004, 01:41 PM

*sigh*
ok, i just talked to him. i left him a message this morning and he called me back. (so he does know how to use a phone

!)

we chatted for about ten minutes. i told him that i wanted to know what was going on between us or if there was anything even going on to speak of. he said yes there was. honestly, i think he might be taking things slow, but i don't understand that. i know this is a far fetch, but maybe he doesn't want to jump into anything too quickly here.........yeah, doubtful.
i'm still somewhat confused, but whatever. i'll just go along for the ride and see what happens.

shelley j
sigma k

alphaiota · #13 08-31-2004, 08:26 PM

ok, quick update.
so i didn't call him at all last week and he didn't call me either. i thought i would see him this weekend at the club, but he didn't show up. well i broke down and called him yesterday to see if he wanted to get together. no call back......yet. and this weekend i most likely won't be going to the club b/c i have stuff to do on sunday all day.
*sigh* frustration........i'm moving on.

shelley j
sigma k

DigitalAngel126 · #14 09-29-2004, 11:40 AM

Okay, a month later . . .. . . Did you move on?? Did he call?? What happened?

alphaiota · #15 09-29-2004, 08:19 PM

i moved on. i called him once, but it was about legal stuff. saw him at the club with the same "non-girlfriend" that i saw him with before. whatever. i'm done with him. there are so many more men that are actually worthy of being around me, let alone with me.
(can't say i don't want to still hit that isht sometime, but ya know)

shelley j
sigma k