Good at sex? How do you truly know?

James · #1 08-06-2004, 10:05 PM

No one thinks they are bad at sex.

But how can we know how good we are? Have you studied sex? Learned techniques? Watched Videos? Become a student of the masters?

Most people just kind of do what seems natural, but is there a better way? Source material? Maybe men should study oral sex with lesbians?

Maybe really experienced partners think less experienced partners suck?

It must really be rough for people with like only one or two partners, they will think they are awesome with them, but maybe no one else would.

AKA_Monet speaks of Tantra, which shows she is on a whole different level than the average sexual initiate.

Maybe we should strive in our personal relationships to reach that level of knowledge and spiritual tie-ins.

Share your rated PG-13 thoughts if you dare.

BobbyTheDon · #2 08-06-2004, 11:06 PM

one of my best friends in the world is a lesbian. she has taught me alot as far as techniques with girls ( oral sex). my only complaint with her is that she barely came out 3 years ago. so for all i know, i might have sucked ass three years prior.

i recommend everyone go get yourself a lesbian best friend. they can do wonders for you, however just watch out cuz they will try to cockblock you.

BabyP · #3 08-07-2004, 05:06 AM

Porn movies, Karma Sutra, and my fave of all..........HBO's Real Sex Documentary!! its so informative. YOU know you are good when your partner can barely walk or is passed out afterwards lol......... dont believe the words look at the BODY LANGUAGE.

kateshort · #4 08-07-2004, 09:31 AM

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Originally posted by James
No one thinks they are bad at sex.

It must really be rough for people with like only one or two partners, they will think they are awesome with them, but maybe no one else would.

Feh. With only one partner, you know how *bad* it was when you started, and how much better it's gotten since then. And as long as you are happy, and have sex often enough for you that's good enough for you, that's pretty much enough.

I never have to whine or worry that my husband isn't as good as my first couple of boyfriends. I don't have anything to compare it with. That's fine with me.

We're probably average. Which is nice, because I don't feel like I need to perform like a slut to keep him around-- he's already mine, and if I want to perform like a slut (or he like a stud) that's just a bonus, not something that you need to live up to every time.

Real Sex is a great documentary, btw-- Thursdays on HBO. Which I'll be able to watch again when my father-in-law moves out of the house. [He's not a prude-- he used to *tape* it-- but I just don't want to be in the same room with him when anything sexual is on.] As long as you don't mind seeing "average" naked people going at it as well as the hot young things going at it....

cashmoney · #5 08-07-2004, 09:42 AM

I think perfection comes with experience. The more you do it with more people...the better you get. Practice does make perfect. For me, there's too many coincidences for me not to be good. I've had way too many girls tell me they started to really enjoy sex after they've had it with me and I've turned way too many girls in to nympho-sluts (sex crazed slut). I got to where I am through practice (lots of it) and plenty of porn. Combine that with the right girl who's crazy about you and then throw in a couple of MILFs here and there.....next thing you know you're a stud. See, older women can teach a young man lots of tricks. First Milf I ever had was when I was 20...she was 30. I think that crapp changed my life in the bedroom. I swear, I havent been right since. Ever since that little stint....I havent ever been able to get enough ass to sastify my cravings. It doesnt matter if I get it 4 or 5 times a day....the very next day I want it just as much all over again. The only restraint is there's not enough time to lay around all day and bang.

Baby P made a good point about the K-sutra. Ex-miss-cashmoney bought the book...or a smaller version of it I think. Anyhow, once she started wanting to have sex everyday and all the time...she bought the book and said she wanted to try all the positions.

GMUBunny · #6 08-07-2004, 02:10 PM

I have to second a lot of what cashmoney said. That's all I have time for right now.

I like "Family Business," too. Quality television right there

cashmoney · #7 08-08-2004, 08:34 AM

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Originally posted by GMUBunny
I have to second a lot of what cashmoney said. That's all I have time for right now.

Yea well, there was a lot more i wanted to write but i didnt have the time either...

Rio_Kohitsuji · #8 08-08-2004, 11:54 AM

kate--Ditto.

I've only had one partner and I'm happy about that, my boyfriend however, he was a little whore before I came along

He's told me about numerous times that I'm the best he's ever had and that I'm a naturall

Plus it doesn't hurt when you can make your bf come to the brink of blacking out in the good way

Lindz928 · #9 08-08-2004, 11:32 PM

Ok, so I totally understand that watching the body language thing. But, do you think if you've heard from like 3 or 4 different people that you give the best head ever that maybe it's true? Or are they all lying?

I kinda figure if it's ok but not the greatest, you just don't say anything, right?

cashmoney · #10 08-09-2004, 11:01 AM

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Originally posted by Lindz928
Ok, so I totally understand that watching the body language thing. But, do you think if you've heard from like 3 or 4 different people that you give the best head ever that maybe it's true? Or are they all lying?

I kinda figure if it's ok but not the greatest, you just don't say anything, right?

Once you really think about it....When have you never liked head? In my view there's really no such thing as bad head. I don't know one guy, who's straight, that doesnt like his penis being in a girls mouth period...regardless whether or not she knows how do it up right. The thing is, you have some women that were born to suck a good penis. They have the right lips, the right mouth shape, the right teeth...everything. Then you have girls that werent born to give head and it doesnt come naturally. Those you have to teach but more often than not become the best at the job once you teach them.

Still, you're not going to find a guy who doesnt like head.

James · #11 08-09-2004, 11:11 AM

It depends on whether you asked or not. And how polite they are . . .

Wow, thats the best Tex Mex I ever had would be an obligatory compliment if you cooked.

Plus there is always the posibility that they are saying it because it was actually terrible . . a kind of cover

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Not that I think thats true. I am just teasing.

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Originally posted by Lindz928
Ok, so I totally understand that watching the body language thing. But, do you think if you've heard from like 3 or 4 different people that you give the best head ever that maybe it's true? Or are they all lying?

I kinda figure if it's ok but not the greatest, you just don't say anything, right?

Lindz928 · #12 08-09-2004, 11:16 AM

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Originally posted by James
It depends on whether you asked or not. And how polite they are . . .

Wow, thats the best Tex Mex I ever had would be an obligatory compliment if you cooked.

Plus there is always the posibility that they are saying it because it was actually terrible . . a kind of cover _

Not that I think thats true. I am just teasing.

I would NEVER ask a guy that unless I had been with him a long time and thought I was doing something wrong.

I guess I would just think the best thing is to assume you're the best until told otherwise.... Shows confidence, and guys like that, right?

James · #13 08-09-2004, 11:26 AM

Thats right.

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Originally posted by Lindz928
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I guess I would just think the best thing is to assume you're the best until told otherwise.... Shows confidence, and guys like that, right?

KSig RC · #14 08-09-2004, 02:35 PM

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Originally posted by Lindz928
Ok, so I totally understand that watching the body language thing. But, do you think if you've heard from like 3 or 4 different people that you give the best head ever that maybe it's true? Or are they all lying?

I kinda figure if it's ok but not the greatest, you just don't say anything, right?

strangely enough, there's been a strange pattern throughout my life where the best head i've ever received was always the last head i've received . . . hm, i wonder . . .

Rudey · #15 08-09-2004, 02:48 PM

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Originally posted by cashmoney
Once you really think about it....When have you never liked head? In my view there's really no such thing as bad head. I don't know one guy, who's straight, that doesnt like his penis being in a girls mouth period...regardless whether or not she knows how do it up right. The thing is, you have some women that were born to suck a good penis. They have the right lips, the right mouth shape, the right teeth...everything. Then you have girls that werent born to give head and it doesnt come naturally. Those you have to teach but more often than not become the best at the job once you teach them.

Still, you're not going to find a guy who doesnt like head.

One word will change all that: teeth.

-Rudey