Boyfriend obligations

BabyP · #1 08-05-2004, 01:07 AM

Let me ask you something - just because the guy is your man now, doe that mean you should have sex everytime you see each other? They think you are obligated to have sex with them cuz they are your man now. Whenever my man tries that shit with me - i put him on no sex probation - he can just use his hand and lotion. I wonder if husbands try this same thing.

winneythepooh7 · #2 08-05-2004, 06:37 AM

You shouldn't ever be obligated to have sex. Ever. And if that appears to be all the guy is coming over for, then I suggest get out NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

steelepike · #3 08-05-2004, 11:23 AM

nope you are obligated to put out its written in the constitution's fine print.

i am kidding you are in control of that and you know it. And if thats all he is after you should send him packing.

chideltjen · #4 08-05-2004, 11:36 AM

I've been in that situation before.

It's not fun.

If you are in that situation, get out now. It won't go anywhere healthy.

bethany1982 · #5 08-05-2004, 01:57 PM

Obligated! Right....

AXO4Life · #6 08-05-2004, 02:00 PM

Any guy who even thinks that should be cut off ..... for at least a month! Like you said, they've got their lotion and tissues and you should only do what you wanna do!

Rio_Kohitsuji · #7 08-05-2004, 04:44 PM

Well, instead of "feeling obligated" shouldn't you want to anyway?

kateshort · #8 08-05-2004, 08:25 PM

Forget probation-- it sounds like you need to drop his ass. Now, if you only saw each other once every three weeks, I could see where he might be feeling the need every time he sees you.

But there's still no reason to feel obligated to do anything you both don't want to.

[After marriage? Same thing. (Sheesh, I'd think most people would get sore-- I mean, if you see each other every morning and every evening and all day on weekends.. that's a lot of hooking up!)]

James · #9 08-05-2004, 08:39 PM

Seriously. If the guy wants toi have sex a lot and you want to have sex drastically less, there is a problem. He will need something extra on the side

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Originally posted by Rio_Kohitsuji
Well, instead of "feeling obligated" shouldn't you want to anyway?

GMUBunny · #10 08-06-2004, 04:22 PM

I had this problem with my ex-fiance. I felt obligated after a while, and it eventually killed all sexual desire I had for him whatsoever. Definitely bail... NOW.

XOMichelle · #11 08-06-2004, 05:24 PM

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Originally posted by Rio_Kohitsuji
Well, instead of "feeling obligated" shouldn't you want to anyway?

No one (men or women) wants sex all the time. Sometimes you don't want to do it, and that is OK! Anyone that you are with who can't get over themselves enough to undestand that you don't always want to have sex needs a big reality check. That being said, men get really wierd when you aren't horny for extended peroids of time (like a week). It's like cosmic disorder to them. Somehow your stress (or other reason you aren't horny in the first place), becomes a personal thing you must have against them. Can you tell my ex never understood when I was having a hard time at school or work? He'd just say that more educated people have less sex. Go marry a high school dropout!

James · #12 08-06-2004, 08:44 PM

Uhm, speak for your own gender.

I would say that we (boys) don't exactly want sex all the time . . . more that we are poised on the verge of having sex every second of every day, we just need a partner.

ETA: An eternal state of readiness.

And if you expect us to stay loyal, we should have a reasonable expectation that are needs are being meant physically. Thats a major part of a romantic relationship after all.

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Originally posted by XOMichelle
No one (men or women) wants sex all the time. Sometimes you don't want to do it, and that is OK! Anyone that you are with who can't get over themselves enough to undestand that you don't always want to have sex needs a big reality check. That being said, men get really wierd when you aren't horny for extended peroids of time (like a week). It's like cosmic disorder to them. Somehow your stress (or other reason you aren't horny in the first place), becomes a personal thing you must have against them. Can you tell my ex never understood when I was having a hard time at school or work? He'd just say that more educated people have less sex. Go marry a high school dropout!

AKA_Monet · #13 08-06-2004, 09:00 PM

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Originally posted by BabyP
Let me ask you something - just because the guy is your man now, doe that mean you should have sex everytime you see each other? They think you are obligated to have sex with them cuz they are your man now. Whenever my man tries that shit with me - i put him on no sex probation - he can just use his hand and lotion. I wonder if husbands try this same thing.

Gwirlfriend... Do you want to keep this man? If you don't, then do what everyone else here is telling you and drop his ass...

But if you do want to keep this man, then, well, sweetheart, your performance ain't up to snuff... Basically, you ain't layin' IT on him to tire his ass owt... He has to KNOW that if he's dealing with you then he's gonna havta be pullin' an all nighter (sookie-sookie, naw) with deep drilling for new (Kama Sutra) positions...

Besides, he's probably leaving the room and you are feeling robbed and abandoned of affection...

Hey, if you don't want to give it up, just 'cuz you want to keep your wits about yourself, then lay limp and he might give up...

But, probably since both of y'all are youngin's and can actually go all night looonnnngggg, then, you may want to do some "slow motion" with him... One idea is called the "Sets of Nine"... Kinna like a "reps"... Takes some concentration... But, it will keep the sticky spunk in him longer and keep him "stronger"... It works like this, "One deep, 9 short"... "2 deep, 8 short"... "3 deep, 7 short"... Dumbassed boys are incapable of getting to "9 deep, 1 short"...

Also, practice top motions with him. Such as the "spin moves" in quarter turns with some agitation... For some reason, it works wonders... He might slow his roll then...

Margot Anand's books are rather interesting as well as Tantra.com...

These kinds of things should affect ALL the senses... Sight, sound, touch, smell and taste...

Think about it... Practice makes perfect...

And yeah, my husband tried that chit when we first married, then I did some spin moves on his ass, he had to lock me outta the bathroom!!!

James · #14 08-06-2004, 09:15 PM

CTHU . . Nicely said AKA_Monet.

If your man is fed and sexually exhausted he is not going anywhere.

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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Gwirlfriend... Do you want to keep this man? If you don't, then do what everyone else here is telling you and drop his ass...

But if you do want to keep this man, then, well, sweetheart, your performance ain't up to snuff... Basically, you ain't layin' IT on him to tire his ass owt... He has to KNOW that if he's dealing with you then he's gonna havta be pullin' an all nighter (sookie-sookie, naw) with deep drilling for new (Kama Sutra) positions...

Besides, he's probably leaving the room and you are feeling robbed and abandoned of affection...

Hey, if you don't want to give it up, just 'cuz you want to keep your wits about yourself, then lay limp and he might give up...

But, probably since both of y'all are youngin's and can actually go all night looonnnngggg, then, you may want to do some "slow motion" with him... One idea is called the "Sets of Nine"... Kinna like a "reps"... Takes some concentration... But, it will keep the sticky spunk in him longer and keep him "stronger"... It works like this, "One deep, 9 short"... "2 deep, 8 short"... "3 deep, 7 short"... Dumbassed boys are incapable of getting to "9 deep, 1 short"...

Also, practice top motions with him. Such as the "spin moves" in quarter turns with some agitation... For some reason, it works wonders... He might slow his roll then...

Margot Anand's books are rather interesting as well as Tantra.com...

These kinds of things should affect ALL the senses... Sight, sound, touch, smell and taste...

Think about it... Practice makes perfect...

And yeah, my husband tried that chit when we first married, then I did some spin moves on his ass, he had to lock me outta the bathroom!!!

Shima-Mizu · #15 08-07-2004, 02:57 AM

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Originally posted by winneythepooh7
You shouldn't ever be obligated to have sex. Ever. And if that appears to be all the guy is coming over for, then I suggest get out NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeah, if you feel obligated, then the priorities of the relationship itself are all messed up. Relationships should have nothing to do with an "obligation" to have sex. It's just not about that.