Hi. I am new to GreekChat but have lurked for a little while. I am in a bad situation and want some advice..
Let me start from the beginning:
I am a junior and rushed last year as a sophomore. I went into rush with my heart set on one sorority (ABC) as a lot of my friends were in that sorority and I felt like they were the best match for me. I also loved everything about ABC: their philanthropy, their local involvement -- everything -- I felt like it was perfect. ABC was sort of a "middle" tier house but I didn't care.
I went through rush and tried to keep an open mind, and while I liked a few of the other sororities I did not really feel completely comfortable anywhere but ABC.
I preffed three sororities including ABC. My Rho Gamma told my group that if we were invited back for prefs, it meant that the group really liked us it was now their job to convince us to pick THEM, not vice versa. When I went to ABC's pref ceremony I was so touched that I cried. I was preffed by a friend who told me I didn't really have anything to worry about.
I was debating whether or not to suicide ABC, but my Rho Gamma said that it's really bad to suicide and convinced me to keep all 3 sororities on my bid card.
When bid day came, I got a bid from my third choice, XYZ! I was shocked. I cried and thought about not accepting, but if you turn down a bid you can't rush for a year. I didn't think I could take going through formal rush again, esepcially as a junior. My choices were either to accept my bid or never be in a sorority. (My school doesnt really have any COB since all chapters pretty much meet quota except for maybe one, and we only have rush in the spring.) After rush I wanted to be in a sorority so badly that I decided to accept my bid and give the other sorority a chance.
For a little while I was happy and I eventually was initiated, but I still haven't gotten over not getting a bid from ABC. To make things worse, ABC got all of "the pretty girls" last year, and now is the top house on campus. Every time I see a girl in that sorority I can't stop thinking about how ABC wanted them and not me. I don't feel like I'm a good fit in my sorority and sometimes I wish I never joined. I also wonder what would have happened had I rushed as a freshman (when ABC wasn't a top house) because I wonder if I would have had a better chance of getting a bid.
I know that it's too late and I will never be an ABC, but I cant stop thinking about them. I don't know if I made the right decision by accepting a bid to XYZ when i didnt think it was the right match for me.
I know everyone here either accepted a bid to their top choice or went through rush again.. I wish it had been that easy. I dont know what to do ...
Any advice is welcome
Amanda
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