Internet Romance/Friendships?

PM_Mama00 · #1 08-10-2002, 11:14 AM

I have kind of a different story. I met this guy online 4 years ago, and it turned into a big thing. Several times we had "lost" each other, and then found each other online again. One night I decided to let him call me. He was in the army at Ft Bragg, but originally lived 5 minutes from me. We talked forever. From then on, we talked every day, sometimes 3 times a day on the phone. And one day we decided that we really liked each other, and that we wanted to be with each other. For 6 months we talk we talked on the phone and online, and then came the first I love you. It was the best feeling, considering he was my first boyfriend (yeah I know, I was 17). We broke up before he came home on leave, but we hung out and spend a few awesome days together. The first time we kissed, it was the best. It just worked. We lost contact so many times in the last 4 years, but in March he got a hold of me again, and we tried to be together for the second time, and it didn't work out.

We've gotten into a few fights, and stopped talking, but I became really close to his best friend, so I still had that connection to him. He got jumped and put in the hospital, and I've been hanging out with him every day for the last week or so. I still love him after 4 years, but he says that we're better as friends. I can't stand listening to him talk about other girls! Oh yeah, and his kisses are still the best! But.... him and his best friend consider me one of the guys and that really sucks.

Has anyone else ever made a friend or a romance online? Did you ever meet in person? What has happened or how is it going?

#2 08-10-2002, 03:20 PM

A few months ago, I met Kent, then a first-class Cadet at West Point. He had found me on CollegeClub and decided to Instant Message me. He just found out that he had been selected as a Fellow at the East West Center here at UH. He wanted to know how it was like going to school in Hawaii since he'd be living here for two years.

And then we found out that we had so many things in common--including our birthday. So, we decided to finally meet each other on the phone last Sunday. He called me from his home in TX while I was on Waikiki Beach and we each took a shot at the same time.

He's off to Ranger School at Fort Benning, GA for a few months, but we'll finally be able to meet each other in person when he moves out here on January 5th.

He's a great guy so far, and I know it's too early to think anything, but I think things will turn out just fine. I'll keep y'all posted.

PM_Mama00 · #3 08-10-2002, 04:20 PM

AHhhhh!! What is it with the military boys? I love "mine", and I just got off the phone with him. Thank god he lives back in town now. Well he has for like 2 1/2 years. Anyways, thats so cool. Coincidence: I met Jerry the 2nd week of January!

cougar15 · #4 08-10-2002, 04:53 PM

Thought I'd jump in on this one since I'm kind of doing a little bit of the online military relationship as well. It's a little different since I didn't meet him online and knew him before he decided to go into the military, but we go to different schools so it is all pretty much online based except for parts of the summer. When he goes active after graduation it will all be online/phone.

So anyway, like PM_Mama's situation we keep gravitating back towards each other despite being apart and it is pretty much impossible for me to think of being with anyone else even if does mean that he'll be shipped off to some far off base.

I just love to talk about him, I am very proud!

SATX*APhi · #5 08-10-2002, 04:56 PM

Okay, I have "met" several people so here are a few....

Friends #1, 2 and 3 -- I've known all for almost 5 years
During my sophomore high school I "met" Friend #1 in a chat room for my city. I found out that she went to my high school for a year and that we knew some of the same people. Her and I became good friends. We've only met in person a few times, and even though we don't talk all of the time, we are still really good friends.

A few months after I met Friend #1, she "introduced" me to Friend #2. (Friends #1 and #2 met each other on the internet some how and had known each other for a year or something) Friend #2 and I have become really close and talk almost every day!! I consider her one of my really close friends. She lives in Houston, which is four hours from me. I've met up with her quite a few times when I have been up in Houston. In fact, I am planning on going over to visit in October - November of this year. (I am going to be 21 in October and she just turned 21 a week ago...yay!!!)

About a week after Friend #1 introduced me to Friend #2, she "introduced" me to another friend, Friend #3. Friend #1 and Friend #3 also met online somehow and had known each other for a while before we were introduced. Friend #3 is from a small town in Ohio, so we've never met, although we have known each other for so long. We've also become really close, but haven't talked all that much lately because she has been working two jobs this summer to save for school. I keep saying I am going to go up there and she keeps saying that she is going to come down here, but we are both poor college students.

One day, one day.

So that is my "on-line group of friends." We all chat with each other, although I am the only one who really chats with Friend #3. Back when I first met them all, we would all go into a private chat room and spend all night just talking away. Keep in mind that this was back in high school, of course, and we had nothing better to do.

We send each other gifts for b-days and Christmas. Friend #1 got married a few years back (during my junior year of HS -- her senior year) and Friend #2 and I went to the wedding. Things didn't work out for the couple so they quickly divorced and now Friend #1 has found her true love and the wedding is set for March of 2004. Friend #2 and I will definitely be there. Maybe this will be the day that we all get to meet Friend #3.

Friend # 4
At the end of my sophomore year of high school I met this guy online who is from Houston. He is a year younger than me, so he had just ended his freshman year of high school. Anyway, we talked all day, every day that summer. Towards the end of the summer we began talking on the phone and then that turned into an every day thing. (We both had cell phones so the long distance thing wasn't a problem) We became very, very close and knew that if we had been in the same city, we would already have been a couple. We always sent cards and random gifts to each other through the mail. Anyway, a year and a half after we "met" on-line I get a card from him in the mail that reveals to me that he is falling in love with me. I felt the same way, so there we were, two people who had never met in person before in love with each other. Three months after that card we met in person. It was so awesome, felt so perfect. A few months after that, he actually went to my high school prom with me!!!!!!

I have family in Houston so I went up to visit a few times and got to hang out with my "friend." I ended up going to college in Houston the first semester of my college life, so him and I got to hang out quite a bit the week before school started for us both. (He is a smart kid, so he started college two years early. The school he went to was in Dallas) We ended up becoming a couple although we both knew what it would entail, being apart from each other an all. We managed for a few months and on our "official" six month anniversary I broke up with him because things weren't working out. (I say "official" because we were already a couple, just w/o the label) It was hard afterward, but him and I were able to remain friends just as we were before. We haven't talked in a couple of months but for some other reason you all don't care to hear.

Him and I have known each other for 4 1/2 years now.

sairose · #6 08-10-2002, 07:49 PM

I had an online relationship once...

His name was JOnLuke and he saw my Yahoo profile and e-mailed me. We started talking and before long we were "going out". I was 16 at the time. After a while we began to call each other and he ended up coming to my college. Unfortunately though, when I was with him in person, I quickly fell OUT of love with him. I dunno...he wasn't a weirdo or anything, but once I was actually WITH him, the "love" I thought I had for him just kinda vanished. We broke up a few months after that. So, mine didn't work out.

But, to this day we are close friends, so my story isn't totally negative.

PiKA2001 · #7 08-11-2002, 04:28 AM

I used to have a few online relationships. They were very steamy and quite fun. Unfortunately my credit card got maxed out and I lost my memberships. Online porn can be sooo expensive.

SATX*APhi · #8 08-11-2002, 04:37 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by PM_Mama00
Coincidence: I met Jerry the 2nd week of January!

I just thought about this.....

I met Friend #4 from my prior post in person at the beginning of January. I was out on winter break my senior year of high school and instead of going back to school in January, I played hooky (sp?) that first week of school and went to Houston to meet him.

What is it with January??? Hmmmm....

Rudey · #9 08-11-2002, 05:07 AM

Now when these relationships become intimate, do you have...cyber sex?

-Rudey
--Ooooh Baby I like the way this mouse feels!

PM_Mama00 · #10 08-11-2002, 10:27 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by PiKA2001
I used to have a few online relationships. They were very steamy and quite fun. Unfortunately my credit card got maxed out and I lost my memberships. Online porn can be sooo expensive.

That is awesome! What was her name? Kara? Did she have an adult playground?

Rudey... no we don't have cyber sex! If you feel u truly like/love the other person, you can hold off on sex until you see them. If not, you can always go on a date with Miss Michigan.

Online relationships are fun. The mystery adds to the relationship. However, you have to be careful of who you're talking to. Jerry knew a few of the same people that I did (Downriver isn't THAT big), so I felt safe with him.

Eirene_DGP · #11 08-11-2002, 10:56 AM

I don't think there is really anything wrong with internet relationships, but a LOT of people that go looking on the net for a relationship are already in one or even married and are using the net to avoid being caught. Just keep that in mind.....

sairose · #12 08-11-2002, 02:32 PM

Although my one online relationship didn't work out, I LOVE online friendships! I have a few cyberpals that I've "known" for 6 years now. Are we close? You betcha! It's not the same as having a face-to-face friendship, but I love it.

Rudey · #13 08-11-2002, 02:39 PM

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Originally posted by PM_Mama00

Rudey... no we don't have cyber sex! If you feel u truly like/love the other person, you can hold off on sex until you see them. If not, you can always go on a date with Miss Michigan.

Wow. Isn't that a crock of shit if I ever heard one. You know all the while you're typing you want to be having sex with him. Your body doesn't become abnormal and you don't all of a sudden believe in some holy love where you want to wait for sex.

-Rudey
--I prefer a Miss Florida if you have any to spare

#14 08-11-2002, 04:22 PM

Just an update:

As I was shopping at Macy's yesterday, Kent called me from somewhere in Mississippi. If he can go through Ranger School without screwing up, the Army's willing to get him out here in mid-November instead of January like we thought.

I got home at 3AM this morning and he was just leaving Mississippi. I thought that it was so cute that he called so I could keep him company on that drive.

Tom Earp · #15 08-11-2002, 04:47 PM

OH OTW, I thought I was your true luv!

Have a good heart as I know you do and the very best for you!!!!

You know I love you truely as you are the bestest!!!
LUV YA SWEETY!