Question for the GC Boys...

AlphaFrog · #1 06-12-2004, 01:40 PM

When you go to the store/mall with you sig other (girlfriend/wife) do you push the cart/hold clothes for her to try on/carry the stuff through the store/carry the bags to the car....that kind of stuff....???

This past Wed. I went to the mall with my boyfriend and when going through JC Penny he starts handing me pants he wants to buy, then a shirt...meanwhile I had found ONE pair of cotton maternity pants...Than after he paid for it he just walked away, assuming I'd get the bag (which I did)....we walked through the mall and went to Sam Goody, he picked out 3 CDs, I got 1, and again, I got the bag (which I just stuck in the other, but that's besides the point). The last store we went to I found a cute skirt and bought it and grabbed the bag and started toward the car. He remarked that the bags looked heavy, and he'd help carry...so he takes the bag with just the skirt.
And then at walmart last night he bought shampoo, razors and gum...and guess who carried the isht through the store....and to the car...he DID carry it into the house (which was a good thing for him caz otherwise it'd still be in the car right now)....

My point...I think it's sweet when a guy carries my stuff for me, but I don't expect him to...BUT I definetly don't expect to carry HIS stuff.....especially when I'm pregnant with his child...I don't have any restrictions on what I can do yet, but still...

PS...it might have something to do wiuth the fact that he's Mexican...I'm still not in tune with all the cultural differences yet, but I wouldn't think this is one of them....

lifesaver · #2 06-12-2004, 02:27 PM

Its cause your not in the south. I was raised from an early age to carry the ladies packages. Its a respect thing. I also hold open doors.

Its not casue hes Mexican. Its cause hes lazy.

AlphaFrog · #3 06-12-2004, 02:33 PM

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Originally posted by lifesaver

Its not casue hes Mexican. Its cause hes lazy.

I couldn't ever really accuse him of that consitering (I'm not working right now, not that that has anything to do with it, and)he works 60+ hours a week in a hot kitchen and he works his @$$ off....

lifesaver · #4 06-12-2004, 02:51 PM

Then I dont know what it is, but its not a cultural thing.

Rudey · #5 06-12-2004, 02:57 PM

I figure if the girl is strong enough to keep her maiden name after marriage, she is strong enough to carry heavy things.

-Rudey

#6 06-13-2004, 01:40 AM

Did you try askin him?

Maybe he's not aware of it cuz you don't say anything.

Kevin · #7 06-13-2004, 01:51 AM

I carry the stuff if it's heavy, I usually offer to carry it anyhow.

Don't know about your guy though. I'll bet if you asked him he'd carry the stuff (basically what everyone else is saying).

starang21 · #8 06-13-2004, 01:10 PM

i carry everything, if she lets me.

Tom Earp · #9 06-13-2004, 02:54 PM

I always did, especially when I was married back then.. Less problems at home.

Guys should be gentlemen, but I always had a problem with the purse thing.

labeachgrl · #10 06-13-2004, 03:24 PM

Sorry for barging in on a question directed toward the guys, but....

Just give the packages to him, or say something. Why let it fester? It's not a big deal, but I think other things in your life (your other thread about the nightmare babysitting) makes this seem like a big deal.

sororitygirl2 · #11 06-13-2004, 04:27 PM

Yeah, really... why make a big deal out of something so trivial? Just ask him if he would mind carrying the bags next time. He probably didn't even notice and doesn't know it bugs you.

James · #12 06-13-2004, 05:55 PM

Good advice here.

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Originally posted by labeachgrl
Sorry for barging in on a question directed toward the guys, but....

Just give the packages to him, or say something. Why let it fester? It's not a big deal, but I think other things in your life (your other thread about the nightmare babysitting) makes this seem like a big deal.

AlphaFrog · #13 06-13-2004, 09:21 PM

I tried handing them to him...and he said "You can carry them" and I said "But, it's your stuff" and he replied "What, it's bad if you carry my stuff??" (sorry, it's kinda hard to translate EXACTLY what was said because we speak in Spanish, but this is kind of it). I was thinking, "Well it's not BAD, but come on it's your freakin stuff." I said that here in America guys usually carry the stuff, just like guys usually take out the trash (we had had that discussion earlier this week...it's the only think I ask him to do around the house). And he asked why. I was like "...??" (I have no idea, it's just what is...)

I think whoever said that it has to do with the babysitting is right...everything is seeming like a big deal right now. I about flipped when I found out that he's been using my $30/tube Perscrpitivs exfoliant as body wash...and he doesn't know any better...if it's in the shower, he figures it's fair game. Also I'm worried about my mom and her surgery and what's going to happen is that I'm going down to North Carolina (and moving all my stuff to a storage shed for now) for 2 months to help her and he's staying up here with his cousins. When my mom is better, I'm coming back to get him and he's moving down. (He's not coming at first because he wants me to focus on my mom, not him and findind an apartment and a job for him, etc.) I'm just worried because alot can happen in two months. What happens if Immigration comes through while I'm gone (his papers haven't come through yet)??? What happens if the boss gets pissed and fired them and throws them out of the apartment? (Highly unlikely, but hey, ANYTHING could happen).

I think things will be better when I get away and see that everything will be alright. Until then I think I'm just stressed to the last inch of my being.

BobbyTheDon · #14 06-13-2004, 09:26 PM

interesting. dump him.

#15 06-13-2004, 09:52 PM

I'm thinkin you need a hug and a time out.

For real, for real.