Best of the Best

There is a certain BGLO that i have been raised within and revered as long as I can remember, my aunt is an illustrious and very published member where we come from, For a while i've been anticipating one day being a member but now as a senior in highschool with tons of college friends, ranging from ages 18 and up i have become extremely aware of this certain sorority that seems to be extremely for the most part talked about (badly) with an edge of jealousy in whom ever seems to be speaking to me at the time. Phrases like "they think they're all that" , "they act like they're God's gift to the fellas" have been shot and it increasingly makes me interested in seeing what they're all about and experiencing if there is true sisterhood behind the org. i am a serious over achiever and if these girls are so on cue that they're criticized in tones of jealousy i'm wondering if a change would be in order i'm very loyal to the sorority i was raised around but second best is not good enough for me....and i'm wondering what to do

[Miss Lady]

Do some research of your own, and find out what is best for you. Don't listen to all the ugly things people say, because HATERS do exist.

i'm not focusing on the negative the people's negative attitudes seemed to be from jealousy and if all this jealousy is aimed towards them i think these girls are aspiring close to excellence

I mean to say this other BGLO must be on the ball.

[MIDWESTDIVA]

I am not a member of a sorority yet, but I do know you do not want to make a lifetime commitment to any sorority based on hearsay. Go to college and form your OWN opinions. I don't believe that any sorority wants members that are unable to think for themselves. (I'm not saying that you can't think for yourself). I'm just encouraging you to research all four sororities. The bottom line is, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Your greek experience will be what you make of it.

[Shelacious]

Zaedra,
I'm not sure that I understand your issue totally, but it sounds like you were exposed to one sorority within your family, and now you have heard of another, spoken of in tones of "jealousy", that has pique your interest because they may have more "prestige" than the sorority you were exposed to initially.

If that's about right, then I would suggest you wait until you are actually at a university, and view all the organizations that are at your disposal. You may find out that you appreciate and feel a kinship with yet another sorority that may not even be the two you are aware of now. Most sororities, and certainly the ones in the NPHC, have a web site. Review them.

As to your second point about "best of the best": a sorority cannot make you. You make the sorority. If I met a person (not saying this is you) who was looking for an organization because they thought it would "lend its prestige" to an “all ready impressive resume,” I would question whether that person is actually ready for sorority membership, as these are the types who are usually the first to jump ship during the hard times. It's not about what organization is the "best of the best", but which one is the "best of the best" for YOU. All the sororities I am aware of have more than their share of both good and bad points--you have to match your core beliefs, values, personality and even (or especially) your deficiencies with theirs and see if there is a match. The worse situation you can find yourself in is to join a sorority because of what you thought, or what you heard, and be unhappy and inactive, FOR LIFE. When you pick what's best for YOU, you will never regret your decision.

Hope this helps,
Shela