Is it better to be single or attached?

winneythepooh7 · #1 06-01-2004, 07:15 AM

I am sure there are going to be some fun and interesting comments to this topic, especially from the "boys" LOL.

Munchkin03 · #2 06-01-2004, 08:51 AM

I think it's better to be happy with yourself and your status. On one hand, it is nice to have a sig. other...you always have someone to go out with, and :ahem: stay IN with

, but being single allows you to do things without worrying about another person. It's all about your station in life and what you want out of it.

winneythepooh7 · #3 06-01-2004, 10:34 AM

You know I am so single now, and for the first time in what seems like years?! I think I've always had a boyfriend! It is kind of a really cool feeling to have absolutely no committments to anyone else. I like coming and going as I please and my only major responsibility now is taking care of my new puppy

I've found that also now I am more pickier about who I want to be with. I think now that I am getting older, I have a lot higher standards and don't want to deal with stuff I would have overlooked before. My new motto is "What are you going to offer ME in the relationship?" and "If you don't have______, ______, and _________ (whatever standards those may be) don't bother me".

LeslieAGD · #4 06-01-2004, 11:25 AM

Looking back, it was good being single through most of high school and college. I got to figure out who I was and what I really wanted. Now that I'm out of school and attached, I really enjoy having a boyfriend. He's in the same profession and we enjoy similar things. It's wonderful to have that connection with someone (other than just your friends/family).

sigtau305 · #5 06-01-2004, 01:44 PM

I have been single for the longest time, so it doesn't really bother me. It has allow me to go and take care of my business without any distractions. somewhere down the line, maybe I'll find that special one, but right now, I'm happy being single.

sugar and spice · #6 06-01-2004, 02:17 PM

After this weekend, I'm going to have to say that I very much enjoy being single and it would take a lot to get me into a relationship at this point in time.

I think that ultimately it's better to be in a relationship, as long as it's with the right person. But there's a time and place for everything, and right now I just feel like it's so refreshing to only have to deal with me and my issues and not anybody else's.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #7 06-01-2004, 04:32 PM

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Originally posted by Munchkin03
I think it's better to be happy with yourself and your status. On one hand, it is nice to have a sig. other...you always have someone to go out with, and :ahem: stay IN with , but being single allows you to do things without worrying about another person. It's all about your station in life and what you want out of it.

Agreed

MTSUGURL · #8 06-01-2004, 05:16 PM

Normally I'd say in a relationship, but I'm leaving in a week for camp and want to be purely single so I can focus on my work instead of a guy.

WCUgirl · #9 06-01-2004, 05:21 PM

Hmmm...

My perspective on marriage is this: while you've got more security (even though nothing is a guarantee), you give up freedom. It's a trade off.

Which is more important to you?

edited b/c of drama

decadence · #10 06-01-2004, 05:29 PM

You asking whether it's better to be alone or with someone?
Or whether it's better to be in a long term relationship with one person versus not?

sororitygirl2 · #11 06-01-2004, 08:41 PM

I would say each has its merits at different points in your life and it is important to experience both to decide which is best for you in the long run. But for me right now - single and loving it! It's the first time I've been single in awhile, and I'm just realizing how much fun it can be.

AKA_Monet · #12 06-01-2004, 09:06 PM

You can be married and boring...

OR

Single and lonely...

James · #13 06-01-2004, 09:10 PM

I think most people are so dysfunctional that it might not much matter.

You can either be single and pine away for a fantasy relationship.

OR

You can be withe your methadone like significant other. Where after the first flush of romance fades the most you can see is, well I am never lonely and I have dates for all major holidays

Luckily most people don't know that there might be something better.

polarpi · #14 06-01-2004, 09:27 PM

I actually got into this discussion this past weekend....

I think it all depends. Yes, I'd love to be in a relationship, because I think that each relationship teaches you something that you might not learn without having that connection with that person. However, being single has its benefits, too. My mindset right now is that I'd prefer being in a relationship, but it has to be with a person that I respect and who respects me as well.

*The guy I was talking about this with last weekend is of the mindset that it's always better to be single

AKA_Monet · #15 06-01-2004, 09:27 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by James
I think most people are so dysfunctional that it might not much matter.

You can either be single and pine away for a fantasy relationship.

OR

You can be withe your methadone like significant other. Where after the first flush of romance fades the most you can see is, well I am never lonely and I have dates for all major holidays

Luckily most people don't know that there might be something better.

You could be wishing for that special someone and sit at the Kiddie Table on major holidays...

OR

You can be wishing for that other special someone and sit at the Kiddie Table on major holidays...

Either way, single or married, you will be sitting at the kiddie table at your folks' house...