So Sad

[CASIGKAP]

Just feeling a little blue. As the first member of my family to join a sorority, I am seriously finding a distinct lack of support from them. They keep teasing me & making fun of me. Calling me a loser & just overall making negative and/or deragatory comments about sorority girls even though they don't know what it's all about.

I wish I could get them to understand but at least I know all of you do.

[SigkapAlumWSU]

You know, my parents did the same thing. Neither of them were greek, and the only image they had to relate to was the stereotypes from the media. It took a long time for them to accept that Sigma Kappa is a part of who I am. Once they realized how much support I got from my sisters, and the kind of skills I was gaining as a member (time management, leadership, general people skills....) it got a little better. The still don't fully understand and to this day my mom thinks that it is somehting that I can just drop, even though I have explained that it is not a possibility. Just know that your sisters are here for you, and eventually, it's just something that they will accept.

[33girl]

Make fun of their bowling league, their job, their clothing or whatever else. Turnabout is fair play. Sorry if this isn't a PC response, but sometimes when people are being ignorant you have to fight fire w/ fire.

[CASIGKAP]

Hmmmm... Well, all of them are pretty boring people whose lives revolve around work & their kids. I'm starting to belive that they are jealous b/c when they were my age, they were married and some of them starting families. Most of my sisters married right out of high school. I think that they are realizing what they missed out on. YAY!

[_Lisa_]

Take comfort in the fact that they are only jealous of something you have & will not (or cannot) share w/ them. And you've got a whole nation of sisters that can either empathize or sympathize w/ your situation!

My sister has done the same thing to me, when I rushed she asked me "why do you need 'sisters' when you've got me?" and then once I pledged Sigma Kappa she asked me "are you satisfied now that you've got a sorority sticker for your car?" I found her comments to be incredibly painful because she just doesn't understand! But after years of trying to help her understand I've completely given up on her.

[Old Snakey K]

My sister was a Sigma Kappa (since died), and was thrilled that I even signed up for rush. Going through rush, she didn't want to tell me what sorority to join, only saying "Go with your heart." My mother didn't understand but never said anything negative.
I have daughters in different sororities and I have always given support. It is wonderful to meet their "sisters" and have them visit.
Perhaps, if your family had the chance to visit with them ( at your home or on Parents, Mother's and Father's Day at school ) your family would "get it." Also, have your sister visit for a weekend and include her in events (pre-rushing??)
Also try leaving your Triangle out on the table so your family can see.. this isn't just for your college days!!

One Heart one Way !!
Old Snakey K