In desperate need for advice!

fsu24DZ · #1 05-21-2004, 12:41 AM

So, I know that this isn't really the best place to come for advice on realationships. But, i figured why not when i can get advice on everything else in life. Besides we are all Greeks and in college for the most part.>>>

Anyways, I hang out with the Sigma Pi's at my School all the time. They are super amazing guys, i would say that i am really good friends with about 50% of the chapter, the rest i'm on a hello howa re you doing basis. Anyways, there's this guy i've always thought was such a sweetheart but never gave him much of a thought about dating. Then all of a sudden after knowing each other for over a year, this lil romance starts. It was the most amazing 2 weeks of my entire life, then he left for internship in New York. Which is like 15 hours away from me. We talked in this 2 weeks about how he wanted me to move there, but i sitll have a year and a half left of college, and how when he got done with his internship he would look for a job in SC where is eventually where i want to go when i graduate. I have never felt something so strong in my whole entire life, or been so upset when someone left me. I just feel so shorted, because we had all this time together before and noithing happened until right before he left and it all happened so quickley. It's been almost 2 weeks and he hasn't left my head yet, i can't stop thinking about him. I've talked to hima couple times and even e-mailed him. He has horrible service out there though and is exstremly busy. Working 11 hour days, he made the comment that when i asked if he was homesick..he made the comment that he doens't even have the time to think about it.

So, my question is have any of you ever been in situations like htis? How did you know it was right, or didn't you?

I just really am confused right now, i would like any advice anyone would like to Give. Thankyou so much!

steelepike · #2 05-21-2004, 01:11 AM

ok well i am not in the exact situation but a similar one.

I met this girl in Feb. and since then we have hung out alot and went on dates and such. Well this leads to the us being an official couple or whatever. We start the official relationship with about a month left in school in which i was going home for the summer and she was staying in town but leaving for italy for most of the summer. We both know that this is the closest we have ever been to another person and we both want to make it work through the summer.

well its been two weeks of me being home and she leaves for italy in 5? days. but we try and talk every day even if its just for a few minutes. and i am going to see her this weekend. And we have had a long conversation about how this is very tough not being together and not seeing each other but we both know that after this summer our relationship will have been tested through something. This makes us both really anxious because we have never done anything like this. ANd yes doubts are there but when we do talk it makes everything seem right.

This isn't advice but i am in a similar situation right now. Just keep listening to your gut many times it knows best. well you need any more listening or advice i could try.

fsu24DZ · #3 05-21-2004, 01:20 AM

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Originally posted by steelepike
ok well i am not in the exact situation but a similar one.

I met this girl in Feb. and since then we have hung out alot and went on dates and such. Well this leads to the us being an official couple or whatever. We start the official relationship with about a month left in school in which i was going home for the summer and she was staying in town but leaving for italy for most of the summer. We both know that this is the closest we have ever been to another person and we both want to make it work through the summer.

well its been two weeks of me being home and she leaves for italy in 5? days. but we try and talk every day even if its just for a few minutes. and i am going to see her this weekend. And we have had a long conversation about how this is very tough not being together and not seeing each other but we both know that after this summer our relationship will have been tested through something. This makes us both really anxious because we have never done anything like this. ANd yes doubts are there but when we do talk it makes everything seem right.

This isn't advice but i am in a similar situation right now. Just keep listening to your gut many times it knows best. well you need any more listening or advice i could try.

Yeah, your situation is quite similar to mine. It's funny what you are saying about trusting your gut....cuz mine has never been so at ease. I am exstremly confident that things will work out, yet when i stop to think aobut the situation and what most ppl would think of it.. I tend to scare myself, then i think that i may be just setting myself up. I guess you Just have to trust your heart. and anything worth having is worth the fight~ so i'm giving it my all right now!

But I do wish you the best of luck with your situation! I do realize how tuff it is!! Just spend as much time with her as possible before she leaves, that will give you the base to grow from and something to hold on to while she's away. and If you ever are board and need someone to chat to, feel free to give me an e-mail. Since we are in similar situations!~

Rudey · #4 05-21-2004, 01:40 AM

Truthfully it's not going to work out. Do you come from money? Do you even know how to sail?? No to both of those means no to any meaningful relationships for you.

-Rudey
--If I could play poker, sail, and golf all day I would be the happiest boy ever!

KellyB369 · #5 05-21-2004, 11:20 AM

My roommate is going through a similar thing as well. She was introduced to a guy who goes to V Tech by one of our sisters and they clicked instantly. She wants it to work but isn't sure if she can handle the long distance. And she is always saying how she hates telling people about him because she thinks they'll be like, "you have known this guy for 2 months yet you've only seen each other a couple of times? y'all can't be that serious." I tell her though that it doesn't matter what other people think and no one else can even understand unless they've been in a similar situation.
I was in a long distance relationship all 4 years of college (it was only 1.5 hours instead of 15 but it was still hard). You can make it work if you really want to. But it's going to take a lot of hard work on both your parts. Try writing him letters since you can't talk to him much on the phone and even though he's really busy, try to email each other every day even if it's just to say hi. In the end it will work out however it is supposed to but if you're really into this guy don't give up without a fight.

Rudey, what in the world are you talking about?

AlethiaSi · #6 05-21-2004, 12:12 PM

I was in a similar situation- i met trevor a week before I was leaving London- and i don't think i've ever been so happy with anyone in my life- we were amazing together- and I miss him so much. We text and email each other all the time- and try to call but calls from london to new york are not cheap. He's coming out here in october... but thats a looong ways away... I know that i really care about him and thats all that matters...

my advice is to listen to your heart (lol or your gut) you obviously really like this guy and things will turn out the way they are supposed to- in the meantime- don't limit yourself but keep him in mind and how much he means to you. It is not easy but take it one step at a time- email definately helps even text messaging helps when you just want to say hi- it shows him that you care and are thinking about him. If you need to vent or anything- please pm me or email me- alethiasi@yahoo.com i know it can be really difficult but stay true to yourself- it will be ok

p.s. same goes for you steelpike

Rudey · #7 05-21-2004, 01:22 PM

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Originally posted by KellyB369
Rudey, what in the world are you talking about?

If you're poor, relationships never work out for you. Do you know any wealthy people who are suffering heart break? I think not.

-Rudey

fsu24DZ · #8 05-21-2004, 01:42 PM

Money does not buy happiness~ There are all kinds of ppl who suffer heart break, where
have you been?! and who are you to go judging ppl if they are poor or not, you have no
idea who I am. It's funny to me ppl who like to rain on other ppl's parades, just for their
own amusement! Obviously you are not happy yourself. I hope things start looking up
for you~

AlethiaSi · #9 05-21-2004, 02:21 PM

don't bother trying to console or refute rudey- you'll always be wrong...

(but its nice that you tried lol)

adpiucf · #10 05-21-2004, 02:22 PM

Cosign. We always learn the hard way. Rudey is always right.

Dionysus · #11 05-21-2004, 02:27 PM

This thread is funny, eventhough I didn't read the first post....it was toooooo long.

Rudey · #12 05-21-2004, 02:31 PM

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Originally posted by fsu24DZ
Money does not buy happiness~ There are all kinds of ppl who suffer heart break, where
have you been?! and who are you to go judging ppl if they are poor or not, you have no
idea who I am. It's funny to me ppl who like to rain on other ppl's parades, just for their
own amusement! Obviously you are not happy yourself. I hope things start looking up
for you~

You're right, all poor people are happy. They might only eat like once every two days but boy do they glow pink when they think about how they have that special significant other that ran out on them. Let's face it, he will leave you because you're not old money or blue blood. I bet you go to a driving range and think you're playing golf don't you.

-Rudey

Rudey · #13 05-21-2004, 02:34 PM

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Originally posted by Lady Pi Phi
Yes. All the wealthy people I know have shitty relationships.

No you don't because you don't know what wealthy is.

-Rudey

Rudey · #14 05-21-2004, 02:41 PM

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Originally posted by Lady Pi Phi
What as much as I love you. You have no idea what wealthy is. I'm not getting into a pissing contest with you. Because I would win!

I guarantee you I would win but OK.

-Rudey

Rudey · #15 05-21-2004, 02:48 PM

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Originally posted by Lady Pi Phi
Well Rudy, God off all. Smartest man I know.
Why don't you educate on what wealthy is??

You are one stupid idiot. I created my post as a joke but there are always retards who can't tell how ridiculous a post is and can't understand it's a joke. These are the same people who ask what ingredients are in water.

-Rudey
--And it's "Rudey" and "of".