It's What I/He/She Wanted...

AKA2D '91 · #1 11-03-2005, 01:20 PM

Have you ever thought about or had the discussion about your "homegoing" service or celebration?

While driving, my mother told me what she did not want. She told me who she did not want on the program. I LOL and

, then I said, "okay."

I really haven't discussed my plans. I do know I want my pin with me.

NUPE4LIFE · #2 11-03-2005, 01:23 PM

Good topic!

I was speaking with a friend this morning about the Rosa Parks funeral and we both agreed that we thought it was a bit too much. He then says to me how he wants his funeral to be no more than an hour and if people show with all the carrying on, the ushers will have his directive to remove people. It was funny at the time but it got me to thinking about the need for me to plan my funeral so that I can go out the way I want to. Now if my family wants to cry and carry on at the house or at the viewing they can. But my funeral will be a celebration of my life!

skeeliteful · #3 11-03-2005, 03:00 PM

My mom has said several times that she wants her homegoing celebration during the week and not on the weekend. She said her real friends will take off work. And she wants everyone to wear white and shades of blue (her favorite color).

southernelle25 · #4 11-03-2005, 03:04 PM

I have thought about it, somewhat, but I haven't discussed it in detail. I also want the service to be short and sweet, a celebration of my life, but also a celebration of the fact that I'll be going HOME.

luminarysoul · #5 11-03-2005, 03:54 PM

I have never really discussed my preferences for my "Homegoing". I think one of my biggest fears is death. Which branches from numerous events in my life.
But my father has made it clear he wishes to be buried w/ my mother which I think is so beautiful.

FeeFee · #6 11-03-2005, 05:47 PM

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Originally posted by skeeliteful
My mom has said several times that she wants her homegoing celebration during the week and not on the weekend. She said her real friends will take off work. And she wants everyone to wear white and shades of blue (her favorite color).

I have an aunt who said that she would want her homegoing celebration to take place on a Sunday b/c she's usually at church on that day.

Exquisite5 · #7 11-03-2005, 05:50 PM

I think I want everyone to wear yellow. I think it is a cheerful color and I would like a cheerful service.

#8 11-03-2005, 06:01 PM

My mom says she doesn't want us to spend a whole bunch of money on her service, to keep it for ourselves. She even said that if we could bury her in the ground (w/out a casket) we should do it

Of course I WILL NOT but I think its kinda amusing. She wants us to have as much as possible and the govt/strangers as little as possible. I can feel her on that one!

Exquisite5 · #9 11-03-2005, 06:51 PM

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Originally posted by MsSweetness
My mom says she doesn't want us to spend a whole bunch of money on her service, to keep it for ourselves. She even said that if we could bury her in the ground (w/out a casket) we should do it Of course I WILL NOT but I think its kinda amusing. She wants us to have as much as possible and the govt/strangers as little as possible. I can feel her on that one!

I never thought about that, but I like it! Maybe I want to be cremated so my survivors will not spend tons on funerlization expenses.

emeraldAKA99 · #10 11-03-2005, 08:19 PM

I kinda want to be cremated too. I don't like the idea of my corpse decaying in the ground...

futurestar1 · #11 11-03-2005, 09:50 PM

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Originally posted by Exquisite5
I never thought about that, but I like it! Maybe I want to be cremated so my survivors will not spend tons on funerlization expenses.

I think I want to be cremated too, because I do not want people looking over me and crying. I want my homegoing ceremony to be joyous. I want everyone to wear bright and cheerful colors, sing my favorite songs, think of the funny things we did together and laugh and reminisce.

NinjaPoodle · #12 11-03-2005, 10:36 PM

Cremate me. No pomp, no circumstance, just spread my ashes to sea.

ETA
I don’t want a memorial or any type of organized ceremony. Have a party

and remember the good things.

AKA_Monet · #13 11-03-2005, 11:29 PM

My mom and my husband have both stated that they want to be creamated.

I think my mom wants a "floattilla out to sea".

My husband wants his ashes spread either on one of the Galapagos Islands or the Austrialian Great Barrier Reef...

I have been told and I have read that many African cultures do not "believe" in creamation unless you want to make sure that a "soul" does not "comeback". I don't know how very much about that, but I think it has to do with one's "chi" or "spirit" and the belief in reincarnation--or recycling of souls--so as to not deplete the "Guf" in Heaven...

I saw a nice pink and green casket one day when my folks decided to purchase plots...

Anyhoo, my paternal grandfather is "relatively famous" and his is buried in a "public location" with a huge memorial devoted to all his works throughout his life.

My maternal grandmother was extremely poor and it took pulling "hen's teeth" to get one of my uncles to cover the expenses of an appropriate headstone...

Either way, I want a proper funeral. Not some hospital muck in the morgue...

Tickled Pink 2 · #14 11-04-2005, 01:28 AM

I don't want a wake the day before. If necessary, do it about an hour or 2 before.

I used to want cremation, but I think I change my mind. One of my old co-workers used to say that her ex teased her about her weight once saying "If they cremated you, the fat would be poppin' & cracklin'!"

*I don't want no poppin' & cracklin'.

UpPinkies · #15 11-06-2005, 01:27 PM

Burn me, put me in crown royal bag, throw me in nearest river.

Go to church, have quick service, then go home and party to my favorite music, drinks, dance, stroll, party hop, whatever you like to do. I told my parents I don't want a tearful down black service, I want a party, because I know I will be in the clouds somewhere doing my thing. They have one day to get everything arranged, then next day service and ash launch in the river and then the party. I told them I wanted to be launched from one of those t-shirt launchers that they use at sport games so they can launch shirts to fan way up high in the stands.

My dad was like

, but if that is what you want then...

I want to be remembered as a person who lived life.

My mom said we have three days to bury her. If the family member cannot make, so be it, it was not meant for you to come.