Married Prospective Members

anonymous20 · #1 04-21-2004, 10:47 AM

I f your "orientation"/"pledging" process included sleepovers and one of your pledges is married, would you make an exception for her?

TheEpitome1920 · #2 04-21-2004, 10:51 AM

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Originally posted by anonymous20
I f your "orientation"/"pledging" process included sleepovers and one of your pledges is married, would you make an exception for her?

What is the purpose of a sleepover? And if she is married why would that stop her from being able to sleepover?

anonymous20 · #3 04-21-2004, 10:54 AM

The purpose of the sleepover would be to get to know the sisters. I guess she would be able to sleep over because of her duties to her husband

kddani · #4 04-21-2004, 10:58 AM

LMAO at "duties to her husband"

paging Stepford wife..... lol

xyz333 · #5 04-21-2004, 10:59 AM

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Originally posted by anonymous20
The purpose of the sleepover would be to get to know the sisters. I guess she would be able to sleep over because of her duties to her husband

Yeah "duties to her husband" what the hell is that about? Do you think married women are sex slaves or something? LOL. Get real.

anonymous20 · #6 04-21-2004, 11:02 AM

sorry about that phrase I just meant, that he might not approve of the sleepove (macho attitude).

Lady Pi Phi · #7 04-21-2004, 11:07 AM

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Originally posted by anonymous20
sorry about that phrase I just meant, that he might not approve of the sleepove (macho attitude).

What, is he upset that he'll be missing out on the naked pillow fights

AchtungBaby80 · #8 04-21-2004, 11:10 AM

We didn't have any married members in my chapter. If a member got married, she just went alum.

WCUgirl · #9 04-21-2004, 11:28 AM

One of our new members a few years ago was married. It caused no problems. She even went out to mixers at all hours of the night. He dealt with it.

If ANY man has a problem with his wife staying away from him for a night or two (or heck, a week!), then he needs to get over himself. I just spent the entire weekend away from my husband (Thursday-Sunday). He didn't care.

Either you aren't married, or you're a guy...because 1-after being married for a while, you WANT to spend time away from each other, and 2-only a guy would think of something like that.

anonymous20 · #10 04-21-2004, 11:30 AM

Actually I am Married (2yrs this october), and I am female

WCUgirl · #11 04-21-2004, 11:38 AM

Sorry, with the above comment I just assumed too much I guess. Are you in this situation? Is that why you asked? Not trying to be too nosy...

I guess I just don't understand why the new member in this situation would be seeking to be excused from the sleepover. It sounds like she just doesn't want to do the sleepover and is using her husband as an excuse. Being married shouldn't affect the pledging process in any way, really.

ambición6 · #12 04-21-2004, 11:41 AM

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I absolutely agree. why would any husband have a prob if his wife was away for one night or more? doesnt he trust her? But I guess if he was macho crazy well no, i would not make an exception. if everyone else has to go to the sleepover then you should too and if you can't then you should reconsider pledging that org. sounds harsh, but if ur husband has issues now, whats going to change when youre a member and have to go to required events like rituals and comm. service?

AOII*Azra-elle · #13 04-21-2004, 12:21 PM

If a member gets married or is married in our chapter they usually go alumna, but they do have the choice of staying active. I don't know how the process works, if it's an internationals thing.

adpiucf · #14 04-21-2004, 12:36 PM

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Originally posted by anonymous20
I f your "orientation"/"pledging" process included sleepovers and one of your pledges is married, would you make an exception for her?

No.

And, as with someone who is pregnant/has children, I don't feel that being an active member of a collegiate sorority is an appropriate activity for a married woman.

WCUgirl · #15 04-21-2004, 12:41 PM

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No.

And, as with someone who is pregnant/has children, I don't feel that being an active member of a collegiate sorority is an appropriate activity for a married woman.

Do you mean a married woman who is pregnant or already has children, or do you mean a married woman in general?

I think on many campuses sorority life is major a social outlet for the campus women...which obviously is something that a married woman isn't going to be able to identify with, and she may miss out on some of the social aspects of the sorority. She may also feel a bit ostracized as many of her sisters and pledge sisters may not be able to identify with her. But that really shouldn't detract from her sorority experience. I also think it depends on what type of greek system there is on the campus.