I handled this the wrong way....

Lovely · #1 07-31-2001, 06:11 PM

I was caught off guard. Someone much older is in xyz sorority and said today " By the way you know I'm a member of xyz sorority and I was talking to the Basileus today, by the way are you a member of a sorority" or interested in joining?." I kind of knew where it was headed, but I am not interested
in xyz, so I said "No I'm not a member, but I would love to join one but they haven't had a line in a longg time". I said this much so she'll know it's not xyz, cause they had a line not long ago and she was on it. She then goes "oh, tmg" I go "no, abc". the minute I said it I wanted to take it back-no discretion. Every time somebody asks me if I'm in a sorority or thought about pledging why do they always guess tmg? I have to fight hard not to feel that if they feel I'm tmg, then I'll never be abc.
A similar thing happened to me.A loud mouthed grad neophyte said in a room full of tmgs and abcs - "Oh I know you are going to pledge tmg". I stammered saying "I'm too old to pledge" I was so embarassed. Everybody stopped eating and looked at me, or at least it felt that way. When i spoke to one of the abcs later about my interest, she kind of looked at me like " Oh I thought you were interested in tmg". Or at least that's how I felt.However, she was very supportive.
What's a good response?

AKA2D '91 · #2 07-31-2001, 09:22 PM

The infamous...NO COMMENT!

Keep your mouth S-H-U-T!That way, no one will know if you are interested in MNO, PQR, TUV, 123, 456...LOL.

all those tmgs, sags, had me going there...

pointNclick · #3 08-01-2001, 10:47 AM

Lovely--

I recently had lunch with two very powerful women, one is a lobbyist and another is a SES-level executive.

Well I was discussing an upcoming trip to visit some friends and I commented on how I met them. Now I did not reveal the name of the site (S & S), but I stated the site's purpose in a matter-of-fact tone.

Later on, they both asked me if I was intersted in pursuing a sorority and which one. I politely told them I regarded my choice as personal and I did not share that information. While a bit "shocked", they completely understood and left it alone. One of the ladies smiled, as if she could understand where I was comimg from.

I usually say NOTHING to anyone except those who have known me and my pursuit for some time OR SF that I closely interact with that share the same pursuit.

Otherwise, its none of their business!

Lovely · #4 08-01-2001, 11:14 PM

Thanks for the advice.

CelestialBlu1 · #5 08-02-2001, 02:02 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by AKA2D '91:
The infamous...NO COMMENT!

Keep your mouth S-H-U-T!That way, no one will know if you are interested in MNO, PQR, TUV, 123, 456...LOL.

all those tmgs, sags, had me going there...

ditto...NOOOOOOOOOO COMMMMENTO!!! i'll never tell you boo

aaaaaahhhhhh! or you could just say..."that is highly classified information"...then they'll look at you crazy and just walk away...it works...really