This is kind of a hypothetical and rambling. . .
But how do we know how good our relationships really are?
If you shovel shit for a living making 5 dollars an hour . . . A job at Mcdonalds is a step up.
Standards are about comparisons. Most people don't date that much at all before getting married, especially those that marry young. How can they know they are getting the best possible relationship? Or just the best of a limited field?
Ever talk to one of your friends that has had only one or two sexual partners, and they talk about how good that partner is . . . and mentally you have to be thinking . . what the hell do they know? Speaking personally, there are girls where fire literally shoots out of their ass. . . and others with the sexual posturing of a dead fish.
Experience and variety give the reference points we need to judge the quality of our life and our relationships . . what happens when we have neither much experience or variety?
Are we doomed to potential mediocrity becuse we don't know better? And worse, might later realize what we have doomed ourselves to? You only get one turn on the wheel.
I can honestly say that having dated a lot, extreme dating, has given me a much more mature grasp of what I want and what constitutes a "good" relationship.
That is something I would not have had simply from getting older, it took the experience of actually changing partners to do it
So what standards do we use to judge our relationships?
And for those of us with more experience . . are we obligated to share with our friends how much they are limiting themselves? Or how little they know, or realize that they know?
Chew on that for a while
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