Who pays for friends?

_Lisa_ · #1 03-31-2004, 05:40 PM

I am so freaking angry right now! I was speaking with some co-workers about sororities & some random man from my department tried to tell me that joining a Greek organization is just paying for your friends! He walked off before any of us could retort! What do you say to people who insist that you are just paying for friends?

nauadpi · #2 03-31-2004, 05:46 PM

If I pay for my friends, I am sure not paying enough.

Lady Pi Phi · #3 03-31-2004, 05:48 PM

I don't think you can say anything to people like that. They are stubborn and won't listen to anyone about anything. Those people always think they are right.
You know when I hear people say this I have to say it's not different then paying activities fees with your tuition so you can join on campus clubs. Even some organizations on campus (other than GLO's) have fees. So why are GLO's different? I don't know.
Honestly I try to ignore people like this because they will never have anything postive to say, no matter what you tell them.
For lack of a better word...they're just stupid.

Sahara27 · #4 03-31-2004, 05:49 PM

If I pay for my friends, I just got the best deal ever!

sairose · #5 03-31-2004, 05:50 PM

Point out that nearly all organizations/clubs pay SOME sort of dues. Point out the costs of insurance, property, etc etc and other costs with sororities/fraternities.

PhiPsiRuss · #6 03-31-2004, 05:54 PM

Anyone who has ever bought a drink at a bar to hang out with people, has paid for friends.

Everyone pays for friends, but some people are too stupid to see that their criticism applies to their life as well.

I would guess that this co-worker leads a miserable life, and needs to channel his bitterness somewhere.

Tom Earp · #7 03-31-2004, 05:55 PM

Do MORON, ASS sound like reasonable Terms!

My friends for over 39 years mean more to me than can ever be expressed!

1 to 635! Yes, they are not only my Friends but Brothers in diferent degrees of being close!

Oh, that does not cound on the many Brothers of LXA and All of The other Greek Organizations go!

Why dont you Give an Award for Ass Wipe of the Year! A Roll Of Toilet Paper German style, with splinters or English Like wax Paper, DA!

XOMichelle · #8 03-31-2004, 06:03 PM

Here's the way I explain it to people:
Our chapers would do away with fees if we could, but unfortunately, we want to put on programs, have formals, and do things together as a group. So if everyone pitches in $20 for a barbecue, and $20 for composites, and another $5 for bowling.... Suddenly you realize its easier and cheaper to have everyone "chip in" on a regular baisis. Ta-da! Dues are born. You don't buy friends, you buy things to do with your friends, just like you do when you go out.

Glitter650 · #9 03-31-2004, 06:18 PM

My attitude about "paying for friends" is similar to XOmichelle... I mean basically we pay to "do stuff" just like any other group of people does... you go bowling... you pitch in ... we have a lot of people..it requries insurance... hence we pitch in... we want a place to hang out.. ( a house) we all pitch in. EVERYONE does this in their daily life.... this co-worker just didn't get a bid back in college...

AOII_LB93 · #10 03-31-2004, 07:15 PM

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Originally posted by crzychx
I am so freaking angry right now! I was speaking with some co-workers about sororities & some random man from my department tried to tell me that joining a Greek organization is just paying for your friends! He walked off before any of us could retort! What do you say to people who insist that you are just paying for friends?

To be quite honest, there isn't a whole lot you can say to change anyone's mind on the matter. If the guy is a bitter butt-head let him remain one. He's so set in his opinion that all he could think of to say was that you pay for your friends? Please, we've all heard it. Let the people who don't understand come up with something original.

Yes, that's right I paid for some great activities that we had! I'd pay double! What did he do with his college experience? Fritter it away critiquing greeks? How sad is that?

CatStarESP4 · #11 03-31-2004, 10:55 PM

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Originally posted by XOMichelle
Here's the way I explain it to people:
Our chapers would do away with fees if we could, but unfortunately, we want to put on programs, have formals, and do things together as a group. So if everyone pitches in $20 for a barbecue, and $20 for composites, and another $5 for bowling.... Suddenly you realize its easier and cheaper to have everyone "chip in" on a regular baisis. Ta-da! Dues are born. You don't buy friends, you buy things to do with your friends, just like you do when you go out.

Excellent point!

Also, tell them that there are many non-GL organizations out there that charge dues/fees that people belong to. Where do the dues go towards? Programs, formals, events, philanthropy and to keep the organization functioning. Without dues/fees, nothing happens and the organization collapses.

James · #12 03-31-2004, 11:16 PM

Be Real.

We do pay for friends. In fact, we pay for a ready made social set-up. And a pretty damn cool one.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it.

But it would be lying to obfustacate the issue with sophistry.

#13 04-01-2004, 12:13 AM

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Originally posted by James
Be Real.

We do pay for friends. In fact, we pay for a ready made social set-up. And a pretty damn cool one.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it.

But it would be lying to obfustacate the issue with sophistry.

word.

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deuika · #14 04-01-2004, 12:15 AM

I was discussing Greek Life with a fellow GDI and she said the same thing, "The Greeks pay for friends."

I simply stated, "Well, you pay to be a member of the Chemistry Club, you pay to join Civil Rights Groups, attend Political Functions, you pay for everything; Does that makes the Chemistry Club a haven for people who want to buy friends who like Science, or the Civil Rights group a place for friends who like to Protest?"

No, it doesn't. One pays dues not to "buy friends" but in order to be a part of anything in this society, to contribute, you must pay. You don't join these organizations for friendship, but to serve some other purpose, whatever that may be. Of course you make friends during the process, but that is not WHY one pays dues. You join the Math, Chemistry, whatever club not to hang out together, but for assistance, collaboration, people with common goals and interest performing under one banner.

You go to a specific college because this college is the one you feel suits you, you are comfortable there, the same as with a GLO. This organization professes things you believe in, people you have seen become members are successful in your eyes, you respect them, you pay for THAT!

You don't pay for friends, but eh, what's wrong with getting a few while you're at it?

CutiePie2000 · #15 04-01-2004, 12:58 AM

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Originally posted by crzychx
What do you say to people who insist that you are just paying for friends?

Tell him that ANYTHING which allows to network with a high volume of people, will potentially yield benefits. The vast majority of things that you make "happen" in your life are due to networking and WHO YOU KNOW. People want to do business with people that they know and like.

And FWIW, I'm sure that Knights of Columbus, Shriners, Rotarians (Rotary Club) Lion Club...I'm sure that they all have dues and no one seems to kvetch about that. Yeesh......