Soul Mates . . . Do they exist?

[Ideal08]

Hello Sorors and SF's!! I hope everyone had a happy holiday!! I have a question for everyone. Do you believe in soul mates? If your soul mate does exist, does that mean that you will inevitably end up with him/her? Is it possible that your soul mate could die before the two of you meet? If it's your soul mate, and you let them pass you by, will they be back into your life, or did you miss out on your soul mate forever?

I have been bitter (for lack of a better word) this past year about men and relationships and whatnot. I used to believe that there was a such thing as soul mates, I think that my parents were soul mates. But lately, I just don't know. So I thought I'd take a poll! Tell me what yall think!!!

[PositivelyAKA]

i think there are soul mates, but they may not always come in the package that you were looking for, so often we miss out on the gift.

[exquizit]

Originally posted by PositivelyAKA:
i think there are soul mates, but they may not always come in the package that you were looking for, so often we miss out on the gift.

I couldn't agree more!

[Inquisitive]

Originally posted by PositivelyAKA:
i think there are soul mates, but they may not always come in the package that you were looking for, so often we miss out on the gift.

I couldn't have said it any better!

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[darling1]

I am in total agreement with you Positively AKA. I believe that we all have soulmates. I am an avid watcher of the Oprah Winfrey Show and frequently she has Gary Zukav on her program talking about this very same thing. On one show he discussed the idea of soulmates saying that we just don't have one soulmate but "on the this earth school we have many soulmates." He says that because we are all souls (our bodies being the vessels) each of us are soulmates. He also mentioned that we can meet many soulmates in our lifetime and our spouses who we equate as soulmates are not necessarily going to 'it'. I thought about that concept for a while and I think I see what he is saying. There are people that we meet daily in various cicumstances that we 'connect' with. Whether it is male or female there is a bond shared and many instances it is like you knew that person for a long time. I believe that 'soulmate' came into your life for a time to show you something about your path in life or to help lead you onto the Divine path.

Ideal I believe that the question that you are actually asking is whether or not there is someone out there for you. The answer is yes. I think that each person in this lifetime that you meet teaches you more about yourself and prepares you for the soulmate that you will ultimately connect with and build a family with.

I know that you didn't ask for advice but I would like to offer this to you: always look at each bad relationship in a reflective mode. Look at what you could have done better so the next time you can improve. There also maybe instances that the man just wasn't ready to receive the goodness within you and in that case you have to let go. I hope this helps .

[Classy_Diva5]

Happy Holidays to you as well Ideal08. Here are my opinions on this topic...

1) Yes, I do believe that there is a such thing as a soul mate.
2) I think that just because you have a soul mate, it does not mean that you will end up with this person. Example: if your sould mate turns out to be a good friend (but you don't know that this is your "soul mate" and you two end up in an argument that ends the friendship-then there is a strong chance that you two won't be together unless you mend the relationship and move past the "friendship" level to the "couples" level. There are a lot of "ifs", "whats", "hows", etc. involved.
3) Yes I think that this person could die before you meet him. With soul mates, we should remember that there could be age differences, geographical differences, etc. involved.
4) I believe in second chances, so if you let them pass by, I think that they will come back into your life, but not necessarily under the terms that you would like it to be.

Good luck on your quest for a good man and a great relationship. I was once in the same boat, but it turns out that the one that I'm with now is my best friend! Talk about coincidences. But I know that it'll all work out.

Peace and God Bless
Classy_Diva5

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by Classy_Diva5:
Happy Holidays to you as well Ideal08. Here are my opinions on this topic...

1) Yes, I do believe that there is a such thing as a soul mate.
2) I think that just because you have a soul mate, it does not mean that you will end up with this person. Example: if your sould mate turns out to be a good friend (but you don't know that this is your "soul mate" and you two end up in an argument that ends the friendship-then there is a strong chance that you two won't be together unless you mend the relationship and move past the "friendship" level to the "couples" level. There are a lot of "ifs", "whats", "hows", etc. involved.
3) Yes I think that this person could die before you meet him. With soul mates, we should remember that there could be age differences, geographical differences, etc. involved.
4) I believe in second chances, so if you let them pass by, I think that they will come back into your life, but not necessarily under the terms that you would like it to be.

Good luck on your quest for a good man and a great relationship. I was once in the same boat, but it turns out that the one that I'm with now is my best friend! Talk about coincidences. But I know that it'll all work out.

Peace and God Bless
Classy_Diva5

AMEN, ESPECIALLY #3

[lovesupreme08]

I believe that there is a person that is a complete and exact fit for me. Someone that will understand me to the depths of my spirit. However, I do believe that it is so very easy to miss your soul mate because you are not in a position to recieve that person. God might have already sent my soul mate however I was not ready to recieve him.

Peace and Love

[scivy1908]

I am afraid that I won't know my soulmate when I meet him. I have decided what qualities my soulmate should have. When my real soulmate comes along without those qualities, I will probably ignore him.

[1savvydiva]

A friend of mine and I were speaking about this a few weeks ago, here is what I have concluded:

I believe in soulmates! I just don't believe that there is ONE person out there in this WHOLE WIDE WORLD that is roaming around waiting for some chance encounter and that the moment will be right and we will fall deeply in love. No, I don't believe that. I believe that there a thousands, if not millions of people that you can become compatible with, the question basically is whether or not it is a mutual attraction. I think that the term 'soulmate' is so romanticized that people think that that means that this person is MEANT solely for them, for noone else, and when they meet this person, there will bells/whistles/fireworks. I think that throughout life, we may have SEVERAL soulmates, and that circumstances (read=God) decide(s) whether or not that person will become your life partner. You know how many times I have thought that 'he is the right one'? Ya know what, I have come to the realization that each time, I was right! He was the right one for me at that time, and when it was time for us to part ways, it ended.

I think that when I meet the person that I will spend my life with, it might not possibly be the one that I envisioned, but that he will "complete me", if you will, and I will know that this is my 'soulmate'. This doesn't necessarily mean that we have everything in common, etc. etc. but that we click and grow together.

[Jorrie96]

I definitely think that there is one person with whom you can be supremely happy. I would call that person my "soul mate".

However, I think that there are several people besides this "soul mate" that you can be with and still lead a happy, fulfilled, complete life. Just because you can't find your ideal person, doesn't mean that you can't be happy. Relationships involve give and take and what you thought was a "deal-breaker" a couple of years ago may not seem so important at the present.

With that being said, I also think that sometimes two people who never would have considered each other can grow to be soul mates. Sometimes sharing the challenges of life with someone can cause your eyes to open and see that your "soul mate" is the one right beside you.

[Conskeeted7]

After years of dating and mediocre relationships, I am happy to say that I found my soulmate. It was my high school sweetheart. We had been apart for a few years when we reunited. But it was like we had never spent a day apart. We still knew each other in ways that my recent dates had not even come close.

He knew how I ordered my sandwiches and to take his shoes off when he entered my house. He knew where I kept my lip gloss in the car and how long it took me to get ready for a date.

I have to admit that I'd thought about him a few times while I was dating others, but I never thought that we would have a chance to get back together. But it happened, and we were married on March 15, 2003.

So, believe me, soulmates exist, and although you can succeed with another, there is no one who will ever know you like that one person who you are destined to be with.

[delph998]

I believe in soul mates, I just think mine died or something! Just kidding...I do believe in soul mates!

[Bamboozled]

Originally posted by delph998
I believe in soul mates, I just think mine died or something!

That was just too funny to me. LMAO.

[delph998]

Originally posted by Bamboozled
That was just too funny to me. LMAO.

That's how I feel sometimes, but I know that the Lord is going to bless me with someone eventually. It's just not my time yet!