Something Blue...

[HBADPi]

Hey ladies

I dont know if you have seen my posts on chitchat about the wedding that I am in this summer but it's an HB sister who is getting married and I am in need of an idea or two on how to incorporate adpi into the wedding. I know she doesnt want it to be something obvious but subtle that will have meaning to her. I know when adpiucf had a sister get married someone mentioned letting the bride borrow the pin as the "something borrowed." I was thinking of incorporating adpi into the "something blue" aspect, you know with our colors being azure blue and white .

I'd love to hear if you guys have heard of sisters do this or if you have your own ideas.

Thanks a million!
~hb

[Tggrsluv2bnce]

This is something really minor, but when I got married, I had the Pi Diamond charm sewn onto my garter. The ribbon on it was, of course, azure blue.

I always thought it'd be cool to have my adpi bridesmaids have violets somewhere, like a small clump in their boquets (sp??) or something like that, and wear their pins.

[WLFEO]

Man, those are both great ideas! I wish I would have thought of those!!!! My ADPi bridesmaids sang me some sort of ADPi song they made up but my mom made the videographer turn off the camera due to the lyrics (I can't remember one word of it now, though- too bad!). hee hee It was worth it to see my mom get so flustered!

The garter's an easy way to work in azure blue, like tigger... said.

[honeychile]

Do y'all want the ideas of a divorced ADPi? I did have violets in our bouquets (they were all spring flowers), and my sisters did a friendship circle around us. My headdress was flowers with the veil, and there were violets in it, too.

I had an equal number of ADPi & Phi Mu bridesmaids (a cute trick, as there wasn't a Phi Mu chapter at my school!), so they were all happy to be wearing either pink or blue. It sounds awful, but it really did work nicely! Except the groom.

[skerbow]

I've had my share of ADPi weddings already. here are some ideas I will pass on to y'all:

1. Make and give each attending ADPi a violet coursage to wear.
2. Take a formal picture with all sisters attending.
3. Wear your blue and white "Diamond Days" ribbons pinned to your dress by a sisters badge.
4. Create a friendship cirlce and sing some of your favorite ADPi songs.
5. Read Psalm 15 at your wedding or print it in your program.
6. Drop Violet petals instead of rose petals.
7. Include the Diamond or Violets everywhere you can, cake, invitations, napkins, etc.
8. Do a candle pass during a Sister luncheon the day off, or day before for those attending the wedding.
9. Make t-shirts..like those that say Bride, Groom, MofB, etc...Sister of Bride. who doesn't want another tshirt!
10. Have special seeting in church or at the reception for your attending sisters.


Just some ideas

[adpi1030787]

At one of my sister's weddings she gave all sisters atttending white roses (violets were too hard to find bc it was winter). At my chapter, we have a tradition of making a circle around the bride while she sits on hubby's lap and sang a song to her, "Pal." It is a song some sisters wrote in our chapter a long time ago and is a chapter fav. It is very beautiful. I could send the words to anyone who is interested in them.

[lyssard]

Well... i was at a wonderful greek store in Columbia, Missouri this past summer and i picked up a really cute white handkerchief with ADPi letters emboridered in blue on a corner. I am planning on possibly giving it to an HB sister for her wedding that is coming up in two summers which i am a part of. That is just what i plan to do for her. (it could be something new, or blue)
By the way, who's getting married?! I love weddings!! And at least the name might be familiar to me!!
~Lys~

[jh124]

I like the handkerchef, garter, and violet ideas. I got married at age 29, after being out of the active chapter for seven years. Two of my BMs were ADPis and two weren't. We didn't do anything at our wedding to signify ADPi. DH is former military (different band of brothers), and three of his GM were army buddies. Our wedding was a reflection of our lives together and he would have been very uncomfortable if he were suddenly serenaded by some sisters at his wedding.

Ask the bride how she wants to honor ADPi. Don't spring any surprises on her unless you are positive that she wants them. If the bride wants violets in the flowers, then she can have them. But don't show up with flowers on the day of and expect the bride to love them (flower arrangements are expensive and I would have been incredibly angry if someone tried to mess with mine on my wedding day).

My point is, everyone has their own vision of their wedding day. I think you're a great sister for getting ideas for the bride, but make sure you suggest them to her first. What you think is fantastic and wonderful and can't-live-without-it for a wedding may be very different from what the bride imagines.

(p.s. IMHO, the last thing you want to do is have the bride borrow badge on her wedding day. She's got a million things going through her mind and keeping track of a badge isn't one of them. A wedding (at least mine) was like a wonderful, slightly stressful, surreal dream. I had no idea where I put anything - lost many glasses of champagne and tubes of borrowed lipstick - and I was getting pulled from place to place, person to person. There is no way I could have kept track of a badge. It was hard enough with a wedding ring and husband )

[HBADPi]

Originally posted by jh124
I like the handkerchef, garter, and violet ideas. I got married at age 29, after being out of the active chapter for seven years. Two of my BMs were ADPis and two weren't. We didn't do anything at our wedding to signify ADPi. DH is former military (different band of brothers), and three of his GM were army buddies. Our wedding was a reflection of our lives together and he would have been very uncomfortable if he were suddenly serenaded by some sisters at his wedding.

Ask the bride how she wants to honor ADPi. Don't spring any surprises on her unless you are positive that she wants them. If the bride wants violets in the flowers, then she can have them. But don't show up with flowers on the day of and expect the bride to love them (flower arrangements are expensive and I would have been incredibly angry if someone tried to mess with mine on my wedding day).

My point is, everyone has their own vision of their wedding day. I think you're a great sister for getting ideas for the bride, but make sure you suggest them to her first. What you think is fantastic and wonderful and can't-live-without-it for a wedding may be very different from what the bride imagines.

(p.s. IMHO, the last thing you want to do is have the bride borrow badge on her wedding day. She's got a million things going through her mind and keeping track of a badge isn't one of them. A wedding (at least mine) was like a wonderful, slightly stressful, surreal dream. I had no idea where I put anything - lost many glasses of champagne and tubes of borrowed lipstick - and I was getting pulled from place to place, person to person. There is no way I could have kept track of a badge. It was hard enough with a wedding ring and husband )

I had no intention of springing anything on her the morning of the wedding and I would be stepping over my boundaries if I was to redo the flower arrangements or add something to the reception that she did not know about. Sereanding was definitely not on the agenda or even something I would consider, this is not an adpi event and adpi was not why they met so I know she would not want something like that. I was just looking for something simple that would be something she would understand, not something public at all. The wedding party is not entirely adpis so I do not want the focus of anything we do to be adpi. But I like the hankerchief idea. And lyssard, she was a sister who graduated with me in 2003 and has the same name as you . Who's getting married and whos wedding are you in? PM me the name

[adpiucf]

Here's a story.

My best friend got engaged on Christmas Eve. She and her family live in Florida, and I'm in LA. I was flying in to spend Christmas Day with them, so as soon as I heard the news, I decorated a candle right before I jumped on the plane. That night, at Christmas dinner, the bride's mom (an ADPi) and younger sister (also an ADPi!) and I turned down the lights, and walked into the dining room, singing "Little ADPi" while her oldest sister (a Kappa) walked in front of us holding the candle. The bride blew it out when got to her, and there were hugs all around. She loved it and keeps the candle in her room. It was really subtle, and sweet, and we involved non-ADPi's, too.

I love the idea of the handkerchief, or a garter as a shower gift. She can opt whether or not to use it at her wedding. herself.

Having diamond shaped cakes at the shower would be a cute, touch, too, and again,subtle! Frosted with violets, naturally!

[jh124]

HBADPi - I wasn't trying to demean you or insult you in any way, so don't take what I wrote personally (since it seems I offended you).

YOU may not have intended to spring something on the bride, but believe me, it happens all the time. And since I'm sure others are reading this thread, since it is full of great ideas, I wanted to throw the warning out there. Until you have planned a wedding, you have no idea what it's like to have other people try to push you or bully you into having things their way. And while I speak from experience, I had a pretty easy time of it (except for the bum-ugly decorated wooden letters of our initials that my MIL sprung on me the morning of my wedding as a "gift" and demanded that they be displayed )

Friends now?

[honeychile]

This is going to sound goofy, but one of my bridal showers was for my bridesmaids & ADPi sisters, and the bridesmaid who held it was a Phi Mu. She decorated everything in azure blue & white - but with pink touches (I love pink!). The comment was made that it looked more like a baby shower than a wedding shower!

[HBADPi]

Originally posted by jh124
HBADPi - I wasn't trying to demean you or insult you in any way, so don't take what I wrote personally (since it seems I offended you).

YOU may not have intended to spring something on the bride, but believe me, it happens all the time. And since I'm sure others are reading this thread, since it is full of great ideas, I wanted to throw the warning out there. Until you have planned a wedding, you have no idea what it's like to have other people try to push you or bully you into having things their way. And while I speak from experience, I had a pretty easy time of it (except for the bum-ugly decorated wooden letters of our initials that my MIL sprung on me the morning of my wedding as a "gift" and demanded that they be displayed )

Friends now?

**blushing** so embarrased! that post definitely came out the wrong way...sorry! jh124 i PMed you

[honeychile]

HB, so what did the bride decide?