Feeling underappreciated

annice22 · #1 03-19-2003, 01:34 PM

Hi Ladies,

Do you ever feel underappreciated within your sorority? Well, I do. I work really hard but I still don't get appreciated for anything. I'm also on E-board and hold a chair and co-chair committees. I feel as though it's favorism or bias among alot of the sister's because some of them don't do anything but everyone loves them. For example one sister was PR chair last semester and did not do anything for the whole semester such as put up flyer, press releases, any type of pr opportunities and did not get sent to j-board. But last school year Fall 2001 when I was pr chair I did everything except for get our wooden sign up and I get sent to j-board for that. I think that's a bunch of crap, also now the girl who was pr chair is now president and she still doesn't do anything but they love. I feel as though our vice president should have been president she works so much harder. Our vp ran for president but I think it was also favortism on how the vp won the election. The prior president thinks she controls the sorority, yes she has been in the sorority the longest but it is still our sorority too. She's always saying that "This is my sorority and I don't want anyone bringing it down or ruining my sorority". I just feel as though it's not fair to say such things because we work hard on e-board for her to say were not doing a good job.

Besides feeling resentment is then anything that I can do to feel better about being in the organization. I feel as though all my efforts are overlooked because of cliques and basis in the sorority.

SapphireSphinx9 · #2 03-19-2003, 05:28 PM

Well the only thing I can say is to not worry about it. Really though, it may seem like a mountain right now... But it's really just a lil itsy bitsy teeny tiny ant hill.

Keep doing your own thing, and don't let the small stuff get to you.

For the whole appreciation bit... WE APPRECIATE YOU!!!

Hope that helps a little bit.

PSLAM~Beth

PrincessHeather · #3 03-19-2003, 11:15 PM

annice,
Check your pm box.
~Heather

MooseGirl · #4 03-19-2003, 11:49 PM

Hey Annice,
Like SS9 said, WE appreciate you.

You just got get past the resentment and stop doing your work for them and do it for YOURSELF and YOUR chapter... Appreciate yourself! I'm sure there are sisters there that appreciate you, but they just forget to say so!

I know how it feels, ppl sometimes take it for granted, thats why now I try my best to say my thank you's for jobs well done and if they don"t thank me or acknowledge me then poo poo to them!

Cheer up, we love you!

(maybe when i'm home for summer i'll take a road trip up to see ya

and cheer ya up in person )

PSLAM

annice22 · #5 03-20-2003, 12:13 AM

Thank you

I thought about this a lot. I pretty much has decided to just continue to work hard. I'm going to continue to give my 100% and just enjoy myself and not sweat this small stuff.

I appeciate all of you very much.

I'm really glad that we have Greekchat.

Love
Annice

PhiSigAngelVJC · #6 03-20-2003, 12:58 AM

Annice,

I TOTALLY feel the same way that you are feeling right now. We just had elections and they did not go so well for me. Just like you, I feel like I do so much and no one notices and/or cares. Most of what I do people never really see (for example helping other people with their positions) It is not that I care about doing things for my sisters, but like everyone else I wish that I would just get half of what I put into things.

When elections were over, I was talking to my dad (he always seems to know what to say to me

). He basically said that I should just do what I feel needs to be done, and I will eventually get the appreciation that I deserve. I am sure that the same will happen to you. I know that these things are easier said than done, but just remember that ALL of your sisters are here for you.

I hope that things get better soon, just keep your chin up!!!!!!

Phi Sig Love And Mine,

Nicole

Phi Sigma Sigma
Zeta Chi Chapter
Villa Julie College

Jadey28 · #7 03-20-2003, 10:13 PM

PhiSigAngelVJC...

check your PM box!

Jadey

annice22 · #8 03-26-2004, 09:05 AM

How do you make yourself feel better when you feel as though no one notices all of you hard work?

I am trying to appreciate myself for all the hard work but it gets a little hard because I am tired of pating myself on the back and trying to smile and see the big picture all I would like if for someone in my chapter to say Thank You. I guess you have to be the "pretty and popular" person for that to happen.

Sorry if I sound a little down

PhiSigCoco · #9 03-26-2004, 03:13 PM

Sometimes it just doesn't happen. Some people don't understand manners and respect. They are here for their own reasons and don't care what happens as long as their needs are fufilled. That is a problem with the age group of most members... they are just on their own and think it is all about them. Granted, there are definately some ladies who have maturity and give respect, but they rarely get it in return.

I'm sorry that you feel like this. I've been there and know that somethings change and some do not. It may or may not, but you just have to try to let it not bother you... I realize now how much time I spent asking for respect and thanks, but no one did it. It is hard to move on. No one likes to be disrespected.

But we need you and love you and appreciate you! So try for us... we are always here.