Need some sisterly love

[AlphaFrog]

My boyfriend bought a house in Veracruz, Mexico (SOMEDAY I will make down there to live...) about 6 months ago from his brother. Last night the boy's dad called and told him that someone had found out that he had purchased the house and apparently something about Mexican law makes it absolutly critical that the deed and all paperwork is compleated/transfered to the new owners names ASAP. SO I thought maybe his dad would be mailing him paperwork to sign, but apparently you have to be there in person with a photo ID to sign the paperwork. So, he has to leave for Mexico next week to go sign papers. He was planning on going for a visit in Dec-Jan-Feb, but I guess the trip's going to be moved up a little (like NOW)...and all this when we are supposed to be moving to Charlotte, NC this weekend. And since his papers aren't through the system, it's going to be hard for him to come back, so it's not practical for him to just go down there for a few days, if he's going to go, he might as well stay for awhile. Like I said, he's planning on leaving the begining of next week, and he will start the trip back the 1st of October. The thing that scares me is I don't want him to miss the baby being born (it's due Oct. 21, and last time he came it took him 15 days, so he technically SHOULD be back in time, but due dates aren't exact and neither are sneaking across the border dates (which is also teriffying to me, what if he gets caught?!?!?)). I AM really glad that he will get to see his family, and actually, as long as he makes it back in time, this is probably a better time for him to go...I'm moving in with my parents in Charlotte, so they can take care of me (because I won't be able to work much longer) while I'm a giant pregnant whale, and he won't miss the baby's first Christmas, and my b-day in Jan and his in Feb, so it probably is all for the best that he's going right now, but I'm just in shock. I was starting now preparing (emotionally) for him leaving in Dec, and now it's immediate, no prep time. I cried like crazy last night...and he actually cried too, which broke my heart even more because Mexican men DON'T cry...they just don't...

So anyway, I'm just upset right now and I needed to vent...

[33girl]

Here is a big hug for you Jess! ****HUG****

I have a rather dumb question though, he's been working up here, hasn't he? Can't he get some sort of visa so the back & forthing isn't so hard? You can PM me if you want - I've just never had to deal w/ this sort of stuff.

[AlphaFrog]

He CAN, but the paperwork bullsh*t takes forever. His brother got married in Dec and sent in his paperwork the next day. His wife (the receptical) called about a month ago to figure out where the papers were in the process and the person told her that they were still working on paperwork from March 2002. So yes, he can and will get papers, but it will probably take years.

People look down on Mexicans because they're "illegal" (How can a person be illegal?? Drugs are illegal, certain guns are illegal, vandalism is illegal...not people... ), but most/all of them would go through the system if the system worked. And people argure that if they can't get in legally, they should just stay out. I bet that same person would change their tune if they worked 60 a week in a hot kitchen for $450, instead of in an air condtioned plush office, work when they feel like it and pull down a six figure salary.