Uggh

DGqueen17 · #1 01-27-2004, 12:26 AM

This annoys me to no end......

I hate people who complain about others whose parents support them through college by paying tuition, buying them cars, etc. I've heard so many people say that these kids are spoiled and that they can't wait until they get in the real world and see what it's like.

Well what is so bad about someone's parents saving money and supporting their kids so they can get an education? I certainly hope I can give my kids everything that my parents have provided me. I'm not spoiled. At least not to me. My parents bought my car, but I have a job and I pay for my sorority expenses and things that I want.

I think it's very admirable that some people go to college and work and do things completely independent....but I don't think it's fair for those people to look down on others because their parents saved for the future.

What do you guys think? Anyone?

rainbowbrightCS · #2 01-27-2004, 12:53 AM

Oh I agree. My parents do not pay for school or my car, but they pay for a great deal of many other things which I am grateful for.

I think people are very lucky to have their family pay for school. That means the person can have a job if they want, not beucase they have too. They then can put more time/energy/effort into school then I can (sometimes).

what does piss me off is people whose parents pay for everything and they just waste their time getting high/wasted and not even going to class!!!! Do you think you parents are going to keep supporting you and your habits when you are 40!!!

To me I will know when I am successfull when I do not have to live pay check to pay check and I can buy my (future) child a new car (not expensive, just something with a warrenty)

AXJules · #3 01-27-2004, 01:15 AM

This is a huge pet peeve of mine.

The idea of parenting is to provide for your children and do what you can to give them the best life they can have. BEFORE ANYONE GETS HYSTERICAL, there are parents who are amazing parents, and feel that although they are capable of paying for college, they want their children to do it themselves. More power to them. That is a personal choice and God knows I wouldn't knock it- their kids will be much more ready for "the real world" and doing things on their own than someone who lives in a dorm for 4 years.

But on the other hand, if I'm not judging you for working your ass off to put yourself through school, how dare you make assumptions about me and assume that I'm spoiled because my parents are financing my education. Guess what? My father and mother have both worked my entire childhood to have my college paid for. They pay my rent, they pay my utilities, and I have a monthly stipend to pay for all of this with. I am still responsible to get the checks in on time, budget my money and make sure that I have enough covered for food, entertainment, school supplies, etc.

Over breaks I work at home, save up all that money, and use it to pay my credit card bills over breaks.

(This is like Jules finances 101....my apologies.)

It's a mutual respect thing. I admire my parents for their unbelievable work ethic and selflessness- they have never left me wanting anything. In return I go to class everyday and work so that my degree actually means something.

We're all given what we're given, you do the best with what you have. Anyone who wants to call me spoiled can kiss my ass because they have no idea just how much I appreciate it.

smiley21 · #4 01-27-2004, 01:20 AM

i definitely agree. people think that i am stuck up and spoiled cause my dad bought and is paying for my brand new car and insurance. he just says that as long as i stay in school, he will take care of my car. also, what financial aid doesnt cover, he will take care of. what is wrong with that?

mullet81 · #5 01-27-2004, 01:22 AM

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Originally posted by AXJules
This is a huge pet peeve of mine.

The idea of parenting is to provide for your children and do what you can to give them the best life they can have. BEFORE ANYONE GETS HYSTERICAL, there are parents who are amazing parents, and feel that although they are capable of paying for college, they want their children to do it themselves. More power to them. That is a personal choice and God knows I wouldn't knock it- their kids will be much more ready for "the real world" and doing things on their own than someone who lives in a dorm for 4 years.

But on the other hand, if I'm not judging you for working your ass off to put yourself through school, how dare you make assumptions about me and assume that I'm spoiled because my parents are financing my education. Guess what? My father and mother have both worked my entire childhood to have my college paid for. They pay my rent, they pay my utilities, and I have a monthly stipend to pay for all of this with. I am still responsible to get the checks in on time, budget my money and make sure that I have enough covered for food, entertainment, school supplies, etc.

Over breaks I work at home, save up all that money, and use it to pay my credit card bills over breaks.

(This is like Jules finances 101....my apologies.)

It's a mutual respect thing. I admire my parents for their unbelievable work ethic and selflessness- they have never left me wanting anything. In return I go to class everyday and work so that my degree actually means something.

We're all given what we're given, you do the best with what you have. Anyone who wants to call me spoiled can kiss my ass because they have no idea just how much I appreciate it.

cheering!!! bravo!! exactly what i would have said only better!! i totally agree!!

AXJules · #6 01-27-2004, 01:28 AM

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Originally posted by mullet81
cheering!!! bravo!! exactly what i would have said only better!! i totally agree!!

**curtsies** Well thanks. I'm surprised it came out that calm.

DGqueen17 · #7 01-27-2004, 01:32 AM

Thank god...FINALLY people who get where I'm coming from!!!

AXO_MOM_3 · #8 01-27-2004, 01:49 AM

I intend to pay for my daughter's tuition, housing, car, sorority and daily expenses AS LONG as they are going to class, making good grades and handling finances appropriately. I'll pay for it as long as they uphold their end of the deal. If they want more than the month allowance provides for, then at that point they can work during breaks and summer vacation!

AUDeltaGam · #9 01-27-2004, 01:57 AM

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Originally posted by AXO_MOM_3
I intend to pay for my daughter's tuition, housing, car, sorority and daily expenses AS LONG as they are going to class, making good grades and handling finances appropriately. I'll pay for it as long as they uphold their end of the deal. If they want more than the month allowance provides for, then at that point they can work during breaks and summer vacation!

That's exactly how my parents are with me

aurora_borealis · #10 01-27-2004, 10:19 AM

I don't care for the people that make snide comments about my finances.
1) I have a J-O-B check into it
2) I have money for school because my father and grandmother died. I would give back every damn cent for one minute with them, so stop being a jealous selfish money whoring cow, THANKS.
I buy everything on sale and am a cheap ass, oh and my new car? I will drive it for more than ten years, GET OVER IT.

(someone not involved in GreekChat keeps making nasty comments, I know them from CHURCH)

kappaloo · #11 01-27-2004, 10:38 AM

Most people who bitch are just jealous.

As long as you don't complain about how poor you are it's all cool with me.

tri-d · #12 01-27-2004, 10:47 AM

I would have to agree that most people that complain about it are complaining about the people who take it for granted. I am all for supporting your kids thru school, though I had a roommate that made me a little disgusted b/c she WAS spoiled--made good grades and all, but she could never have enough and her parents never told her no--as a parent, you have to draw a line somewhere.

I do want to help my kids--I don't want them to have to work their way thru school. Their job IS school.

mu_agd · #13 01-27-2004, 10:48 AM

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Originally posted by AXO_MOM_3
I intend to pay for my daughter's tuition, housing, car, sorority and daily expenses AS LONG as they are going to class, making good grades and handling finances appropriately. I'll pay for it as long as they uphold their end of the deal. If they want more than the month allowance provides for, then at that point they can work during breaks and summer vacation!

that is how my parents were with both my sister and me when we were in school. my father didn't get to go away to school. he had to live at home and work and put himself through school. my mom did get to away though. but, he always felt that he missed out on the college experience and therefore him and my mom worked real hard and started saving when both my sister and i were babies so that way we could have the college experience he had wanted, and he did tend to live vicariously through us when they came to visit and stuff. and i am forever grateful to them that i didn't have to worry about money/job when i was in school. and i don't think that i was any less prepared for the real world when i graduated because they raised me right, plus as AXJules said, they provided the money, but i still had to manage my expenses and checking account and pay my bills on time.

ZTAngel · #14 01-27-2004, 10:48 AM

A friend of mine worked 40+ a week while in college and he always gave me a hard time because I never had to work while in college. While I think it's admirable that he worked that hard to pay his tuition, I would always get offended when he thought of me as spoiled and unthankful for what my parents did for me. My parents did Florida Prepaid. For anyone unfamiliar with Florida Prepaid, it is a system that allows parents, grandparents, or whoever to lock in a future student to the cost of tuition, dorms, etc. for that year. You then invest your money throughout the years into the Florida Prepaid system. My parents invested the day I was born in 1981 so my tuition was completely covered and my parents only had to pay the 1981 tuition price. (Unfortunately, the state of Florida did away with this last year) On top of Florida Prepaid, I had 4 scholarships. Since my tuition was paid for, I used my scholarship money for my books, rent, utilities and sorority. I managed my own finances. My parents didn't mail in a rent check to my landlord and they didn't pay my credit card bills. It was my responsibility to make sure all these expenses were paid on time. It was my responsibility to budget how much money I had for the semester after my scholarship checks came through. My parents wouldn't give me more money if I decided to blow all my money on partying every night or buying a bunch of clothes.
I will never take for granted that I never had to work while in school. It gave me more time to study for my classes, do an internship, and hang out with my friends. I worked during the summer or during winter break.
To show my thanks to my parents for all they've given me, I completed my degree in 4 years and I got really good grades.
My parents worked very hard to give me a good home and a great lifestyle. If that means I'm spoiled, then so be it. I only hope that one day I can give to my kids what my parents were able to provide to me.

Lady Pi Phi · #15 01-27-2004, 11:14 AM

I am so gratefule to my parents for putting me through school.
While I don't have a car...and it's something my parents would never buy for me, I could care less. The fact that they put me through school is plenty, not to mention all that they have done for me on top of that.

My parents, especially my dad look at it as paying it forward. My dad's grandparents were very generous to him and instead of paying them back, he's helping me with the things I want and need and in turn I am do do the same for my kinds, and I have every intention of them out as much as I can.