sex before marriage

God's child · #1 06-14-2001, 12:15 AM

I recently decided that my life wasn't going the right way and I did a lot of thinking about what was going wrong in my life. I have always loved God, but I could not keep one of his commands. I didn't want to give up my sex life. One day God took the person who I was sinning with out of my life. That person didn't want to have anything to do with me pertaining to a relationship. From then on I decided that I was going to do right by God and "seek FIRST the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all things will be added unto me." Since I have made my change, God has kept His promise to me. My life has never been better! How many of you have decided to turn your life around and do what is right by God? And how do you all feel about marrying someone without having sex with them first.

AKA2D '91 · #2 06-14-2001, 10:33 AM

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Originally posted by God's child:
I recently decided that my life wasn't going the right way and I did a lot of thinking about what was going wrong in my life. I have always loved God, but I could not keep one of his commands. I didn't want to give up my sex life. One day God took the person who I was sinning with out of my life. That person didn't want to have anything to do with me pertaining to a relationship. From then on I decided that I was going to do right by God and "seek FIRST the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all things will be added unto me." Since I have made my change, God has kept His promise to me. My life has never been better! How many of you have decided to turn your life around and do what is right by God? And how do you all feel about marrying someone without having sex with them first.

My comment is this.

We ALL fall short of the GLORY, even when we attempt to "turn our lives around" and "do what is right". NO ONE IS EXEMPT FROM SIN!

I will marry someone I have or have NOT had sex with if I chose to do so. Hopefully, it will be someone I have engaged in relations with!

And trust me, I am not going to get into a debate about what is "right" and what is "wrong". What it says here or there.

Cause whatever I do is between ME AND MY SAVIOR, ONLY!

BTW, I have been SEEKING and HE has been ADDING!

[This message has been edited by AKA2D '91 (edited June 14, 2001).]

Ideal08 · #3 06-14-2001, 11:44 AM

Well, first, I would have to say, it would take a lot more than becoming celibate to do right by God. So I'ma hafta leave that one alone.

As far as sex before marriage, I (clearly and evidently, lol) have no problem with that. I, personally, would rather make sure of what I'm getting (and I don't just mean size) before I get got. The fact of the matter is, sex plays an important part in a relationship and a marriage. If one or both parties are unsatisfied and unfulfilled, somebody is going to cheat. Whether that's right or wrong is irrelevant. To avoid all that (because marriage is forever), I need to find out first.

I look at it like this. If I'm at the mall, and I'm in a store, and it says ALL SALES ARE FINAL, you can best BELIEVE that I'm going to try on WHATEVER I'm planning to buy, because I wouldn't be able to take it back if it didn't "fit" right.

Marriage is the same way.

As far as the spiritual aspect of it, like my dude Tupac said, "Only God, Only God, Only God can judge me."

Soulful Soror · #4 06-15-2001, 06:42 PM

This has been a difficult one for me too...I mean, I've seemed to have improved substantially in not getting an attitude w/ people so easily, curtailing my lies (I use to call in sick w/ NO regrets-stuff like that)...but, I just can't seem to not want a little sumthin' B4 marriage..and, I feel so guilty about it (fa real)..I tried the whole celibacy thing, but it just doesn't seem to take on a permanent & consistent basis

..I mean, there's no better feeling than when God is smiling on you & you KNOW He's smiling on you..but, it's a heavy heavy weight when you KNOW you're doing something that He doesn't approve of...yet, you can't seem to resist continueing to do it..believe me, I've tried...

AKA_Monet · #5 06-17-2001, 10:16 PM

Soror Ideal, I agree with you on some respects with the sales are final, but what if the man you marry becomes impotent where not even Viagra is gonna work? Just asking...

IMHO, if a "chile" is young: teenage, 18ish or barely 22ish, in this day and age, they need to slow down or hold off on the sexcapes. There is no need to rush into broken hearts, useless pain and mindless pleasure. I only know this because been there, done that... Had to learn my lesson and it's a bitter pill to swallow where I am paying for it til this day! God still loves me as his child, prodigal, but still his child and blesses me everyday by his forgiveness he has shown me. However, when I made the mistake that I made at a young age, God kept telling me to stop, but I wasn't hearing Him...

Today, I've live to learn with it. Know that I'm not the only one that went thru what I have endured in my life. What did Sarah say when God said she will be with child at a late age? Who was the mother of John the Baptist? Moreover, what did Mary Magdelene do before Christ entered her heart... So, Christ has paid our ransome from sin... He's the pen-ultimate stain remover...