Is it rude?

96sweet · #1 03-02-2004, 09:09 PM

My fiance has a huge family and lots of friends (70+ of whom were in attendance when he proposed). How do we tactfully invite everyone to the wedding but NOT the reception? I have gone to lots of sites about it, but they say to just not put the card with the info in the invitation, but I know people.... they will call or email, and ask for directions and times.

What do I do?

AKA2D '91 · #2 03-02-2004, 09:48 PM

What do you do?

Check our Wedding Etiquette #s 1-whatever number of thread from days gone by.

darling1 · #3 03-02-2004, 09:49 PM

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Originally posted by 96sweet
My fiance has a huge family and lots of friends (70+ of whom were in attendance when he proposed). How do we tactfully invite everyone to the wedding but NOT the reception? I have gone to lots of sites about it, but they say to just not put the card with the info in the invitation, but I know people.... they will call or email, and ask for directions and times.

What do I do?

it is not rude to not want to invite everyone to the reception. if you are attempting to keep the reception to intimate family and friends, i think honesty is best. do some additional research on the various wedding sites because i am certain there is a protocal for that. i think it would make sense that those you wish to invite to the shower should have a card indicating that information. good luck.