Rush gives me panic attacks

Amalia17 · #1 02-01-2004, 11:29 PM

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tinydancer · #2 02-01-2004, 11:54 PM

Hon, please try not to stress too much about it. It sounds like they like you and you like them. Sometimes you just have to make the first move and talk to people. I have to do that, and sometimes I feel awkward at first. Be yourself and be pleasant and relaxed. I think it will work out for you.

James · #3 02-02-2004, 03:23 AM

Prince Valium can save the day

mmcat · #4 02-02-2004, 09:19 AM

just try to relax and just see what happens. show your charming self and things may well take care of themselves.

Amalia17 · #5 02-02-2004, 11:38 PM

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Amalia17 · #6 02-03-2004, 12:22 AM

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AchtungBaby80 · #7 02-03-2004, 12:24 AM

I'm sorry.

AXWhoah · #8 02-03-2004, 12:27 AM

How old is too old?

sageofages · #9 02-03-2004, 12:29 AM

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Originally posted by Amalia17
Well, they said no. Because I am too old. They said I was really nice and sweet but I am too old. That really sucks.

Ok, that REALLY SUCKS. But maybe again, it is just because they haven't gotten to know you. Either way, you know you are ok...so they realize it eventually.

Keep being yourself, stay in contact with friends in that chapter, don't close the door on other GLO's at your school.

33girl · #10 02-03-2004, 12:38 AM

Amalia,

Don't bring up your age or dwell on it.

If you are asked your age, you should tell the truth...but then go on to the next subject. Don't get hung up on it or ask sisters if it will hurt your chances of receiving a bid. That will make them feel more uncomfortable than your actual age. Saying "Yeah, I'm 25" shouldn't be stated with any more or less gravity than saying "I'm from Butler."

I know it is a hard line to walk but if you come in saying "I know I have a giant huge terrible handicap" - which you really don't - it just makes people want to push you away because they don't know how to deal with it.

Amalia17 · #11 02-03-2004, 12:59 AM

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AXORissa · #12 02-03-2004, 05:29 PM

You know, I'm (almost) 24, and I am an alumna. I went back to my chapter for Pref last semester, and while it was beautiful, and I know a lot of the graduating seniors, I can't see myself fitting in with the PMN. These girls are 18 and 19! I have nothing in common with them. I am still in school (law school) so its not like I am in the working world (perhaps its a different story when you are a 25 year old undergraduate)... but I can see why the women wouldn't want to give a bid to an older girl. They're afraid you might drop because you may not have anyting in common with your pledge class. You're older than the seniors! I wouldn't take it personally AT ALL.

im not trying to make you feel bad, but I am around your age and I really think there is a big difference between our age and freshmen/sophomores. They can't drink legally!

have you thought about AI?

FSUZeta · #13 02-03-2004, 06:13 PM

your feelings were not out of line at that cob event. i would've felt funny too had someone been handed a bid in front of me and there wasn't one for me too. now we etiquettized gcers know that the proper thing would have been to have taken each girl they wanted to bid to a separate room and handed out the bid in private. unfortunately that didn't happen.and i hope that you can find it in your heart to forgive the members for being excited to have new pledges and momentarily forgetting their good manners and their other party guest. i know that it might be hard ,but you just need to shake it off. keep your chin and up and have fun. best wishes to you! lisa

Amalia17 · #14 02-03-2004, 07:43 PM

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AGDee · #15 02-03-2004, 11:34 PM

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Originally posted by Amalia17
They are afraid I am going to quit, well they had a pledge class of 14 last semester and all quit but 2, people do depledge.

Personally I would really question why they would lose so many new members and I think that just knowing that might deter me from joining that group. That is extreme.

Dee