Is it really worth it?

AKA2D '91 · #1 05-07-2001, 10:59 PM

Let's see how many responses this one pulls.

Okay, you have been wanting membership into your ORGANIZATION OF CHOICE for a long time. You have been eating, sleeping, bathing, craving this for soooooo long! (dayum

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Anyway, you have done what you can. You have taken measures to GET WHAT YOU WANT, by doing WHAT YOU WANT to get it. You have researched, searched and searched ALL over for EVERYTHING that you need.

The time comes, you are accepted, you become a member of YOUR ORGANIZATION OF CHOICE. Yet, in the process you have some how

ostricized yourself from your Sorors/Frat brothers. For this sake, let's say its within your chapter. Some how, this has happened. What is one to do?

After all that drama, time, effort, etc. you have done to get this. Then, no one wants to call you their "Soror" or "Frat". How would you handle this situation? What would you do? Is there anything that you can do?

[This message has been edited by AKA2D '91 (edited May 07, 2001).]

AKA2D '91 · #2 05-08-2001, 07:37 AM

BTW, this post goes out to the SISTERFRIENDS AND BROTHERFRIENDS who have NOT received their "papers". LOL

buterscotch1 · #3 05-08-2001, 01:48 PM

I would request to hold a "chapter meeting" to speak to with the Ladies and hopefully rectify the issue. However if this fails I would continue to serve my Organization and Chapter with the utmost respect and excellence according to it's principles. If time truly heals all wounds, I would just have to "wait it out"

lastpoetnsite · #4 05-08-2001, 09:03 PM

much respect...

this question is str8 out of "As the Sands Burn" so i believe the obvious thing is that one must as buterscotch1 said ask to hold a chapter meeting and get things all out in the open.
have an all out b**chin session to make sure that the air is clear of all dissention.

the thing is if all of you are now "brothers or sisters" and you understand the true meaning of that in the context of your organization then there should not be a lingering atmosphere of "hating" on one another.

my questions, which might be the companions to the original are:
--what did this individual do to arouse the bitterness of all the members of their chapter?
--if that individual did something so horrendous that they are now scorned by the chapter how does that look to those on the outside looking in?
--finally, when its all said and done...the act of treason...or whatever this may be has happened...what does it say about the bond of sister/brotherhood if people are willing to be vicious and vindictive against one another?

the reality of all this is that someone might not want to call you brother or sister when its all over with. that is the shadiness of the individual. but the hope is that one can put all that aside and work towards the goal of the organization which is...serving the community.
if while we are cooking at Ronald McDonald House or cleaning up our highway we can talk and be civil and when we get on the yard we can respect one another then whether one choses to call each other brother and sister might be irrelevant in the larger scope of things because there are x thousands of other individuals who will be there for you in the long run.

i said all this to say.

if you are truly about the business of brother/sisterhood then no matter what the fault, indiscretion, or whatever the individuals involved will want to talk it out and reunite.

i hope i didn't disrespect.

peace

AKA2D '91 · #5 05-08-2001, 09:10 PM

I don't even read as the sand burns...it was strait out of AKA2D'S head.

Diva7401 · #6 05-08-2001, 09:16 PM

I would quote my boy "Rodney King"

"CAN WE ALL JUST GET ALONG?"

Seriously, I would remind my "sisters" that all else aside, I AM a sister and we should be able to overcome ANYTHING. I would discuss with them and find out "just WHAT is the REAL PROBLEM? Alot of "issues" arise from lack of communication, lastly I would WORK HARDER...seeing is beliving, when all is said and done, I might not be the most "popular" sister, but I will know in my heart that I am UPHOLDING that in which WE have worked so hard for.

NYMinute · #7 05-08-2001, 11:31 PM

I would think that that type of devisive behavior is prohibited in BGLO's. Anyhow, I would call a meeting to try and find the root of the matter. I would definitely NOT let it fester and threaten the unity of the organization.

lastpoetnsite · #8 05-09-2001, 09:20 AM

much respect...

AKA2D '91 when i mentioned in my post that this question was str8 out of As the Sands Burn i was saying that it sounds like it is something that is currently happening on the online soap which i'm sure you know is located at skeephi.com and bet.com.

On the soap Mona who is an AKA is ostricized by her sorority sisters because she did not get "made" the "correct way". she used her position as a legacy to get in.

So that was the reason for me making the comment. i meant no disrespect.

peace

VctoriasSecrt3 · #9 05-09-2001, 10:13 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Diva7401:
I would quote my boy "Rodney King"

"CAN WE ALL JUST GET ALONG?"

Seriously, I would remind my "sisters" that all else aside, I AM a sister and we should be able to overcome ANYTHING. I would discuss with them and find out "just WHAT is the REAL PROBLEM? Alot of "issues" arise from lack of communication, lastly I would WORK HARDER...seeing is beliving, when all is said and done, I might not be the most "popular" sister, but I will know in my heart that I am UPHOLDING that in which WE have worked so hard for.

ditto...

quietstorm23 · #10 05-09-2001, 11:30 AM

lastpoet, that is not the WHOLE reason why mona is ostracized, you need to read a little more
(now off the soap opera)

Me, being who I am, would try to find out why my 'sisters' are not being 'sisterly'. Many know that even in our natural families, we don't always get along, but there is a common bond that keeps us together and working together, depsite the differences.

quietstorm23 · #11 05-09-2001, 01:12 PM

I wasn't being rude......

Just an avid fan

lastpoetnsite · #12 05-10-2001, 12:21 AM

much respect...

quietstorm...*smile* there is no need to be rude sista...i was giving a "brief" of the reason why mona is ostricized by her sisters. i am an avid AS THE SANDS BURN fan so i have read the episodes over and over. but thanks for pointing that out. i just didn't want AKA2D '91 to think i was implying that she got the idea from the soap. the question just reminded me of the situation thats all. no harm intended.

peace