Preference?

GtownGirl98 · #1 01-20-2004, 12:42 PM

Okay, I did a search on this topic, because I know that we had discussed it before, but I only got two things back.

I was wondering if there were any chapters that had found success when using a dramatic exit. Meaning, that you used the wishing well or something like that.

On my campus it seems like drama "sells" and we have a little drama but need something more!

PM me if you want to tell me in detail!

AGDee · #2 01-20-2004, 11:37 PM

Zeta Alpha at Eastern Michigan had major drama at their Preference this past fall. The women who were going to pref the PNMs wrote them heart felt, personal and emotional letters about how much they enjoyed getting to know them, what wonderful women they were, etc. The letters were rolled up like scrolls. They sat with the PNMs while the PNM read the letters to themselves but almost every woman in the room was in tears. The only awkward part was that they had to take the letters back as the women left because nothing could leave with the PNM. It was definitely drama though.

Dee

AGDAlum · #3 01-21-2004, 12:07 PM

Did they save the letters and give them to those PNMs who accepted AGD bids?

GtownGirl98 · #4 01-21-2004, 12:54 PM

For some reason I want to say that we can't do that anymore. I don't know why but a few years ago if we didn't pref a lady but we wanted to let her know something, then we could write a letter to her. I want to say that Panhell started to demained those letters be turned over to them because some groups had bid promising going on or something... don't know the whole story.

Do you know that you can't ask what parties a PNM is going to or has gone to, some sort of rush infraction? I didn't know this till this year, that was once a conversation piece.

Oh well!

AGDee · #5 01-21-2004, 04:24 PM

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Originally posted by AGDAlum
Did they save the letters and give them to those PNMs who accepted AGD bids?

Yes, they did.

They did have to be very careful about what was said, that there wasn't any bid promising in the letters.

I can see where a PNM might feel uncomfortable being asked straight out which other prefs they were attending. I do know that at this Pref at ZA, there were two PNMs who made a point to let them know that they weren't attending any other parties.

Dee

GtownGirl98 · #6 01-21-2004, 04:45 PM

Since GC only has 4 groups, I don't see asking that as such a big deal, especially because you are to know your guest fairly well. I always used it as an arguing block... meaning that if I know what I am up against I can say way we would be better for the guest. But I can also see why that might be not very nice... I always asked (if I even asked, most of the time they tell you) nicely. I.E. Did you have a nice time at your other party (s), which would lead into a discussion of the other party(s)... if we were the first of the evening, then I would say towards the end "Are you looking forward to your other party (s)?". Both types of questions are yes or no, and don't need expansion upon, but more likely than not the guest will say yes I did at such and such. I never ask out right for where they were going or where they had been.

Also, we never look down upon a guest if we were the only party because we like the guest enough one way or another.

I guess this isn't true for all the groups at GC, so I could see why it might not be something nice to share. Luckly I don't have to pref anymore! My edge would be gone!

agd4rie · #7 01-21-2004, 09:08 PM

What are the results ??? Can't wait to hear.

GtownGirl98 · #8 01-22-2004, 10:11 AM

Well I don't know the final after cob and snaps but quota was 27 (with +2 if met), only 16 came out of the chapel (bid matched) on Sunday. I haven't heard anything else, hopefully I will soon.

After last year and only being one short of quota we all felt that they would exceed quota this year. It was just very discouraging for the chapter because this year was the best year for all the nights. Don't know what happened, hopefully we'll figure it out before next year.

I do want to stress that those 16 women are the best. All of them have great plans for contributing to the chapter, just wish that 10 more had chosen to not follow the pack also. But it is quality that makes the chapter not quanity, right!

OH WELL... TU is awesome at COB and will continue to strive for the Purpose.