Question For Those Who Are Married

[bgsugirlie]

Do you think that after you've been married for a long time (like 25 years) that it sort of turns into a friendship more than an in love kind of thing?

[kappaloo]

Originally posted by bgsugirlie
Do you think that after you've been married for a long time (like 25 years) that it sort of turns into a friendship more than an in love kind of thing?

My parents have been married 25+ and are most definately still in love. They are still very affectionate to each other. I used to be embarassed by it, but really - I should be happy to have parents who are so committed to their relationship.

[absolutuscchick]

My parents have been married for almost thirty years. Yet, even as much as they act like friends, I notice every once in a while my dad buying my mom flowers, them kissing, and I know that they are still in love. I can just pray that I find someone who I will still be in love with in thirty years.

[SATX*APhi]

My parents' story is the same as everyone else's. They've been married almost 28 years and are still very much in love. As with any relationship, though, you ARE friends. I think we all want the fairy tale romance and seeing what our parents have, we are able to maintain hope.

[honeychile]

My parents were married 55 years! The day my daddy died, he doodled my mom's name on a phone pad, with a heart.

That's not to say that there weren't "friend" patches over the years, just that they had a sense of commitment and love that transcended worldly ways.

I often wonder if I'll ever have that...

[ZTAngel]

I've never seen my parents get all lovey-dovey and I am very, very thankful for that. It'll be 28 years for them this July. They still do little cutesy things with each other. Dad will buy mom flowers, they'll go out for dinner together, go on vacations together, and they'll hug and kiss each other hello and goodbye. They're definitely still in love but, after 28 years, they're way past that "I want you so bad" stage which works out great for me because I don't want to see my parents all up on each other. BLEH! I'm a firm believer that my parents have had sex only twice...once to conceive me and the other time to conceive my sister.

[G8Ralphaxi]

Originally posted by ZTAngel
I'm a firm believer that my parents have had sex only twice...once to conceive me and the other time to conceive my sister.

Haha! One of my friends is an only child and she always said that her parents had sex just once and then decided they didn't like it and never did it again.

[justamom]

We just celebrated our 23rd BUT we dated apx 10 yrs before we got married.

Yes, it is a deep friendship, but an even deeper love.
It's just different-actually better. There is a level of trust that
you just can't have in those early years. We know each other inside out. For us, it's more about making love than having sex. He still grabs my butt.

[astroAPhi]

Originally posted by G8Ralphaxi
Haha! One of my friends is an only child and she always said that her parents had sex just once and then decided they didn't like it and never did it again.

HAHA, I'm adopted so I claim that my parents NEVER did it.

justamom, call me sick but I think that's really cute that he still likes your butt.

[rainbowbrightCS]

my parents are about to celebrate the big 30... I asked my mom if they plan on renewing their vows... she said "I was an idiot 30 years ago, I am not that dumb" but then she was just joking. My parents love each other but they are not very lovey dovey... its more about respect and trust with them.

I do not question that they love each other very much.

Chris

[justamom]

Originally posted by astroAPhi
HAHA, I'm adopted so I claim that my parents NEVER did it.

justamom, call me sick but I think that's really cute that he still likes your butt.

I'm waiting for my little sex machine now. He's pumping his heart (running) so we can have a long life together!

[carnation]

Originally posted by justamom
We just celebrated our 23rd BUT we dated apx 10 yrs before we got married.

Yes, it is a deep friendship, but an even deeper love.
It's just different-actually better. There is a level of trust that
you just can't have in those early years. We know each other inside out. For us, it's more about making love than having sex. He still grabs my butt.

ROTFLMBO!!!! OMG!!! We just celebrated our 23rd--and what you said about the deep friendship/deeper love is sooo true--and...
My husband still grabs my butt too!!!!

I am not married but my grandparents have been married for 50 years this past October and they're very much still in love. My grandfather still buys my grandma a bouquet of 2 dozen red and white roses for Valentine's day. He also does what he calls "his maidly duties" every day for her. He says she creates a mess so he can clean up after her. hehehe. She just tells him that's she's not messy because she's intelligent and creative and what he calls a mess is just a by-product of her genius.

[Munchkin03]

This year will be my parents' 30th wedding anniversary, and they're still very affectionate. Sometimes it's a little much to bear, especially when my mommy calls me out on being too affectionate w/ Boy.

I've seen them disagree, but never fight violently or loudly. I can only imagine that seeing your parents fight all the time does not give you the greatest relationship model.

[sororitygirl2]

I knew of a couple who was together for 50 years+. On their 50th anniversary when someone asked how they did it, she said something about how they always loved each other, but that there were times for days, weeks, months, even years where they weren't in love. That at times it was just friendship, and at other times it was lovey-love. That may sound depressing to someone, but I thought it was sweet that they knew the love would return and that they stuck it out.