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CodeBlue_R3 · #1 04-07-2001, 05:28 PM

OKAY LADIES AND GENTS IF YOU PASSING THROUGH...

HERE'S A SUGGESTION LET'S MAKE A LIST OF ALL THE IMPORTANT QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE AND RIGHT AFTER ENTERING A RELATIONSHIP!

LETS SEE WHAT YOU CAN COME UP WITH HERE'S A FEW TO GET THE BALL ROLLING

IS THERE ANY OTHER WOMAN OUT THERE IN THIS WORLD INCLUDING THE PAST TWO MONTHS THAT COULD CLAIM YOU AS A BOYFRIEND, BABY'S DADDY, HUSBAND, SEX PARTNER, ETC.?

ARE YOU AVAILABLE?

DO YOU HAVE ANY KIDS?
IS THERE ANYONE THAT HAS KIDS AND CLAIMS THERE YOURS?

HOW'S YOUR CREDIT?
CAN YOU PROVE IT?

EVER BEEN TO JAIL?
WHY?
CAN YOU FURNISH A CRIMINAL RECORD?

WHAT KIND OF CAR DO YOU DRIVE?

DO YOU HAVE ALL YOUR TEETH?

WHAT'S YOUR WORST HABIT?

DO YOU SNORE?

WHAT ARE YOUR VIEWS ON MARRIAGE?

IS IT OKAY TO TAKE THINGS WITHOUT ASKING...ALWAYS SOMETIMES OR NEVER

DO YOU HAVE A JOB?

NOW IT'S YOUR TURN...WHAT CAN YOU COME UP WITH?

MeezDiscreet · #2 04-07-2001, 06:21 PM

what is your relationship with God?

std's past and present?

do you have a history of mental illness?

do you have any jealous and/or crazy ex-girlfriends?

any "special" tendencies? (if you read any of e. lynn harris' books, you will learn that this is an IMPORTANT question)

are you, in any way, affiliated with suge knight? (that biggun is supposed to be getting out next month. i don't know him but i'm scared tadef)

what is the relationship between you and your mother and father? (has the movie, "the brothers" taught any of us anything?)

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Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you're a mile away and you have their shoes.

Maybe in order to understand mankind, we have to look at the word itself: "Mankind". Basically, it's made up of two separate words - "mank" and "ind". What do these words mean ? It's a mystery, and that's why so is mankind

SweetestDiva · #3 04-07-2001, 06:23 PM

1) Are you still in love with/do you regularly sleep with anyone from your past?
2) Do you read? Not CAN you read, but DO you read books? What's the last book you read?
3) Do you believe in God? Go to church?
4) Is your family crazy as hell?
5) Are YOU crazy as hell?

That's it for now but I'm sure I'll be back.

CodeBlue_R3 · #4 04-07-2001, 06:31 PM

LOL DIVA GIRL YOU ARE CRAZY, BUT THAT IS A GOOD QUESTION. I'M FEELING THE ONE ABOUT STILL BEING IN LOVE WITH THE EX I'VE BEEN THE ONE SAILING THAT BOAT BEFORE.

sweettgabrown · #5 04-07-2001, 06:49 PM

Me naw Jewish,
Howeva, sumpthin' ain't kosher with this topic and the questions....

Film at eleven...

Sexy Mocha · #6 04-07-2001, 07:30 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by sweettgabrown:

Me naw Jewish,
Howeva, sumpthin' ain't kosher with this topic and the questions....

Film at eleven...

WTF?

Exactly what is not kosher about this topic?

jali0004 · #7 04-08-2001, 02:31 AM

Have you ever been with a man?? In the last two months???

You never know up here in Minnesota...

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"I am not yet the author of my life; I am still it's unenlightened protagonist"
---Unknown

tickledpink · #8 04-08-2001, 03:01 AM

In addition to all of the above:

Do you still live with your parents?

Have you ever been prescribed Lithium (indicative of manic/ depressive)?

Do you occasionally wear clear nail polish?

***Repeat of a previous question:*** Do you read and what have you read lately?

What are your plans in the next 5 years?

What did you get your mother for her birthday (indicative of his thoughtfulness)?

Have you ever gotten into a disagreement with your mother & how did you handle it (indicative of his respect)?

Did you vote?

I have quite a few more, but I won't give them away... I know you brothers are out there watching/ reading!

[This message has been edited by tickledpink (edited April 08, 2001).]

sweettgabrown · #9 04-08-2001, 01:36 PM

Miss Sexy Mocha:

lastpoetnsite · #10 04-08-2001, 02:00 PM

much respect...

hmmm...my list would be...

1. are you an intellectual? *this doesn't mean have you gone to college because there are some idiots in higher ed*

2. can we have a conversation about other things besides entertainment, sports, and sex?

3. have you slept with the opposite sex recently? because i'm not into bi women...i only want to be with a woman who is out and proud! oh yeah and include in this if you have a baby daddy...i'm not interested. (oh i'm sure someone will make a derogatory statement about this one)

4. are you spiritual? do you believe in a higher power *not necessarily religious*

5. do you have goals? and have you acheived any of them?

6. do you watch movies that aren't just blaxpoitation? *yes folx most black movies today are just that!*

7. do you vote?

8. do you have a desire to uplift people of color and stop ignorance through educating people on a positive level?

9. do you like music other than hip-hop? i love my hip-hop but you have to have a larger collection than da souths booty hits.

10. can you cook? i mean can you at least make a decent vermacelli with sauce?

11. do you like to express your emotions? can you laugh, cry, be angry, be happy...in a healthy way? and don't give me that "i've been hurt b.s. everyone has been hurt...move on!

12. is your library larger than black formula books? i love my eric jerome dickey and bebe moore campbell too...but dayum i would hope that there is something else that stimulates your mind like...maybe..."being black: zen and the art of living with fearlessness and grace" or how about "The Century"

13. do you love your mtv, bet, AND CNN?

14. can i take you to parties held by my profs and not worry about what you are going to say?

15. can you change to fit the situation? *kind of a follow up to #14* can you chill with my friends or listen to a seminar at a wine and cheese social?

16. are you cool with doing activities that don't always cost an arm and a leg? *i'm a college student...so go figure*

17. is your reputation untouchable? i don't want to hear about how many folx you have been with when i introduce you to my friends.

18. do you love yourself?

19. are you proud of who you are? and what you have acheived?

20. are you open to other ways of thinking, other cultures and beliefs?

21. last but not least...can you be trusted?

OhSoPrettyNikki · #11 04-08-2001, 03:27 PM

Here are a few from my "list"
Keep in mind that it is imperative to ask these questions (at least the most important ones)when you first meet. Unlike Chris Rock ("when you meet someone you don't meet them, you meet their representative!"), I believe you probably get the most honest answer from someone in that initial conversation. Simply because they have no idea what you like or dislike, yet? Just a thought, now with that said here we go:

1. Do you have a career? If not, then do you have a job? How long have you been working there? (stability, yall)

2. In what salary range are you ? 30,000 - 40,000...41,000 - 50,000...etc. (for financial compatibility, who wants to take care of someone)

3. Do you live alone/roommate/with parents/siblings?

4. Do you/have you ever used drugs? any type

5. What is your belief on religion? Are you an active member of any church/temple/synague (sp?)?

6. What are your goals? Long and short term? ( really important)

7. Where were you educated? Did you graduate/what kind of student were you?

8. Are you homosexual/bisexual/homophobic?'

9. What are your prejudices? (come on now we all have some)

10. Any children/suspected children/expecting a child? If so, do you support them financially/emotionally? Do they live with you/how often do you see them?

11. Are you in a relationshop now? or sleeping with anyone? How do feel about your previous relationship? Are you bitter? How long have you been single? ( don't want no hostile, angry, scorn bag handlers,ya know!)

12. Tell me about your parents, siblings?
Where is your family from? Were you born here/are you a US citizen?

13. What was the last gift you bought/and for whom?

14. What books/newspapers/magazines do you read? What programs do you watch?

15. How often do you socialize? Where do you go? Do you travel?

16. Any STD's, past & present? Any former lovers with STD's/any illnesses?

17. Ever been to jail/accused of a crime/or committed a crime and not been caught?

18. How is your credit? Proof?

19. What kind of car do you drive? Where do you live? (shows priorities, if he lives in the PJ's and drives a Lexus, Benz, Beamer, then his priorites are not in order) Or if he drives a great car, lives in a great neighborhood, but is sitting on crates in his living room, his priorities are not in order!!!

20. Ever sought/recieved psych treatment? do friends and family suggest you do?

21. Ever hit a woman?

22. How do you feel about voting/death penalty/the president/abortion/marriage & family/legalization of marijuana/stealing/criminal activity?

23. What are your views on morality/ethics,etc?

Sorry for the long post but "the list" goes on and on. And yes, I actually have a book with this "list" in it?

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"Don't hate me because I'm beautiful"

When da EAST is in da house....Oh my GOD!!!! DANGER!

[This message has been edited by OhSoPrettyNikki (edited April 08, 2001).]

Rain Man · #12 04-08-2001, 05:31 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by CodeBlue_R3:
OKAY LADIES AND GENTS IF YOU PASSING THROUGH...

HERE'S A SUGGESTION LET'S MAKE A LIST OF ALL THE IMPORTANT QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE AND RIGHT AFTER ENTERING A RELATIONSHIP!

LETS SEE WHAT YOU CAN COME UP WITH HERE'S A FEW TO GET THE BALL ROLLING

IS THERE ANY OTHER WOMAN OUT THERE IN THIS WORLD INCLUDING THE PAST TWO MONTHS THAT COULD CLAIM YOU AS A BOYFRIEND, BABY'S DADDY, HUSBAND, SEX PARTNER, ETC.?

ARE YOU AVAILABLE?

DO YOU HAVE ANY KIDS?
IS THERE ANYONE THAT HAS KIDS AND CLAIMS THERE YOURS?

HOW'S YOUR CREDIT?
CAN YOU PROVE IT?

EVER BEEN TO JAIL?
WHY?
CAN YOU FURNISH A CRIMINAL RECORD?

WHAT KIND OF CAR DO YOU DRIVE?

DO YOU HAVE ALL YOUR TEETH?

WHAT'S YOUR WORST HABIT?

DO YOU SNORE?

WHAT ARE YOUR VIEWS ON MARRIAGE?

IS IT OKAY TO TAKE THINGS WITHOUT ASKING...ALWAYS SOMETIMES OR NEVER

DO YOU HAVE A JOB?

NOW IT'S YOUR TURN...WHAT CAN YOU COME UP WITH?

I'm bored. I'm gonna answer some of your questions:

1. Tentatively, no (I am in a courtship)
2. No & no.
3(a)Not bad (b) I closed on a mortgage last fall.

4(a) No (b) n/a (c)Sure
5. 1988 Honda Accord w/180K miles--PAID FOR!!
6. I have 29 1/2 teeth (1/2 being an impacted molar)--the other 2 1/2 hasn't grown in yet.
7. Wanna start alphabetically or in order of importance?

*LOL*
8. Of course not; I stayed up all night once to see if I snored and I didn't.
9. It is a holy institution ordained by God.
10. No
11. Does temp work count? (waiting to hear back from a brokerage firm)

RM

AKA2D '91 · #13 04-08-2001, 05:34 PM

LOL@ ALL of you all!

Here's one to add to the list:

Do you have benefits, retirement plan, 401k, IRAs/ROTH account, etc?

Rain Man · #14 04-08-2001, 06:03 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by OhSoPrettyNikki:
Here are a few from my "list"
Keep in mind that it is imperative to ask these questions (at least the most important ones)when you first meet. Unlike Chris Rock ("when you meet someone you don't meet them, you meet their representative!"), I believe you probably get the most honest answer from someone in that initial conversation. Simply because they have no idea what you like or dislike, yet? Just a thought, now with that said here we go:

1. Do you have a career? If not, then do you have a job? How long have you been working there? (stability, yall)

2. In what salary range are you ? 30,000 - 40,000...41,000 - 50,000...etc. (for financial compatibility, who wants to take care of someone)

3. Do you live alone/roommate/with parents/siblings?

4. Do you/have you ever used drugs? any type

5. What is your belief on religion? Are you an active member of any church/temple/synague (sp?)?

6. What are your goals? Long and short term? ( really important)

7. Where were you educated? Did you graduate/what kind of student were you?

8. Are you homosexual/bisexual/homophobic?'

9. What are your prejudices? (come on now we all have some)

10. Any children/suspected children/expecting a child? If so, do you support them financially/emotionally? Do they live with you/how often do you see them?

11. Are you in a relationshop now? or sleeping with anyone? How do feel about your previous relationship? Are you bitter? How long have you been single? ( don't want no hostile, angry, scorn bag handlers,ya know!)

12. Tell me about your parents, siblings?
Where is your family from? Were you born here/are you a US citizen?

13. What was the last gift you bought/and for whom?

14. What books/newspapers/magazines do you read? What programs do you watch?

15. How often do you socialize? Where do you go? Do you travel?

16. Any STD's, past & present? Any former lovers with STD's/any illnesses?

17. Ever been to jail/accused of a crime/or committed a crime and not been caught?

18. How is your credit? Proof?

19. What kind of car do you drive? Where do you live? (shows priorities, if he lives in the PJ's and drives a Lexus, Benz, Beamer, then his priorites are not in order) Or if he drives a great car, lives in a great neighborhood, but is sitting on crates in his living room, his priorities are not in order!!!

20. Ever sought/recieved psych treatment? do friends and family suggest you do?

21. Ever hit a woman?

22. How do you feel about voting/death penalty/the president/abortion/marriage & family/legalization of marijuana/stealing/criminal activity?

23. What are your views on morality/ethics,etc?

Sorry for the long post but "the list" goes on and on. And yes, I actually have a book with this "list" in it?

More replies. Enjoy!

1. Switching career from accounting to personal finance--Currently quit my current job to seek employment in another field. Was there about a year.

2. I make enough. 'Nuff said.
3. I live alone.
4. Yes; I have been a major caffeine addict since I was 14 years old.

5. I am a saved, sanctified, holy-ghost-filled, tongue-talkin' monotheistic, church-attending, man of God. 'Nuff said.
6. I reference you to my recently written Personal Development Plan available via email upon request (and will be used as a companion to my resume for interviews).
7. I have attended four different colleges and currently attend a fifth for grad school. I have an A.A. and a B.G.S.
8. None of the above
9. You will have to learn that through my character.
10. No or N/A
11. While I am now in a courtship, my last relationship was 3 1/2 years ago; I was married. I have been single since. Me and my ex are on good terms and I am fully at peace with myself.
12. In a nutshell, I am the 5th of 7 siblings, ranging from 18 to 40. I have 23 nieces and nephews and 1 grandnephew. My maternal roots trace back to Buckingham County, VA and my paternal roots trace back to North Carolina.
13. B-day present for my younger brother--last month.
14. Columbus Messenger & Business Week. I don't watch TV.
15. Once to 2x a month. Either a church fellowship function or a 1st Fridays party.
16. None that I know of.
17.-19. See response to Code Blue's post. I live in the 'burbs and my home is fully furnished.
20. Yes, the ministers and pastors prayed 'dem demons outta me and I never had a relapse.
21. Strictly in the sexual sense of the word

22. Too lenghy to discuss here.
23. I reference you to my papers I written in Ethics class back in late 1999. Available upon request.

Toldja I was bored.
C yall later.
RM

Sexy Mocha · #15 04-09-2001, 12:19 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by sweettgabrown:

Me naw Jewish,
Howeva, sumpthin' ain't kosher with this topic and the questions....

Film at eleven...

I received your email...thanks for clearing things up for me!