rockheads

The Original Ape · #1 03-24-2001, 09:44 PM

Since there are so many mature minds on this thread, I thought I'd ask a question on relationships. Do any of you out there know any women that(from a man's point of view)are impossible to love? By this I mean, they are too stubborn to have/maintain a lasting relationship with a man.

sweettgabrown · #2 03-24-2001, 09:52 PM

Hello There Mr. Ape Man,

You gave very little detail on such a loaded topic. Please provide some examples,that is if you are NOT being hypothetical.

And I promise you, almost every woman in this forum will respond!

CrimsonTide4 · #3 03-24-2001, 10:41 PM

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Originally posted by The Original Ape:
Since there are so many mature minds on this thread, I thought I'd ask a question on relationships. Do any of you out there know any women that(from a man's point of view)are impossible to love? By this I mean, they are too stubborn to have/maintain a lasting relationship with a man.

MY AUNT. She is HARD to love. She is a B**** on WHEELS. who is HARD to love and once you are on her bad side, you are there FOR LIFE. She was married once for less than a year and I cannot imagine living with her that long.

She has been mad at my mom, her sister for officially 8 years now but she told me it goes back to before i was born which means close to 26 years.

Inquisitive · #4 03-24-2001, 11:01 PM

That about sums me up.

herutopia · #5 03-24-2001, 11:06 PM

The Original Ape:

I laughed at the topic "rockheads" which I am assuming to be the name that you give these individuals ... !

On topic however, I know women that have been scarred so deeply that they will not even entertain the thought of a relationship, my aunt for one. But she is a very lovable, attractive and amiable person, she simply won't allow men in her life.

In a way though, it may qualify her as a "rockhead"!

(BTW: Some of these people I know are male rockheads!)

Interesting topic!

SweetestDiva · #6 03-25-2001, 03:28 AM

Okay, so now I'm a rockhead?

I wouldn't say I'm *impossible* to love, but it's close. I'm not all that old, but I've been hurt so many times already that everytime somebody gets a little too close to me I just feel the need to turn around and run away. So I do, and who knows how many good men I may have missed out on that way? I just can't stand feeling vulnerable at all, and I know that's something you have to be if you ever plan to truly love... guess I gotta work on it!

silver · #7 03-25-2001, 11:08 AM

I guess I am a semi rockhead in that I am very selective in who I allow to get close to me.I am a firm believer in if you mess with me once,shame on you.If you do it again,shame on me.
My boss,who is a close friend of mine,is a person who is hard to like sometimes ,let alone love.Her insecurities make her exremely controlling and manipulative.She has lost family,friends and clients over it but unfortunately no matter how much you tell her that she has a problem and to get help,she won't.In her eyes,it is never her fault.It is a shame because she is intelligent and attractive and has a lot to bring to the table but she is missing out.

exquizit · #8 03-25-2001, 11:27 AM

In my opinion, I thinnk I've met several women who seem to be hard to love. Either they're far to self centered to share anything in a relationship, or just dead set on "I wear the pants in this relationship" mentality. To be partners means just that 50% on each side of the bar, and there's no "I" in "WE" you feel me?

AKA2D '91 · #9 03-25-2001, 03:58 PM

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Originally posted by exquizit:
In my opinion, I thinnk I've met several women who seem to be hard to love. Either they're far to self centered to share anything in a relationship, or just dead set on "I wear the pants in this relationship" mentality. To be partners means just that 50% on each side of the bar, and there's no "I" in "WE" you feel me?

I wouldn't say all that!

But, I think Sweetest Diva summed it up well for me!

Ideal08 · #10 03-25-2001, 07:57 PM

I guess I would be a "rockhead," too. Or at least, that's how it seems. *SIGH*

LadyAKA · #11 03-26-2001, 12:08 PM

I think I care too much and I *sometimes* nag too much that would make me a rockhead and *sometimes* hard to love!!
When I say I care too much I can almost fall into the category of loving my man as if he were my son (which I don't have) ... I will tell you what to do when, why, where and how - but to me it is out of love but to some it is very bothersome. I guess the caring turns into nagging and it anit pretty I will admit it, but you live and learn and golly gee am I learning! My rockhead must make the soft @$$ I keep falling on

Miss. Mocha · #12 03-26-2001, 12:30 PM

My cousin.

And I'm not just talking men not loving her butt, either. She's mean, stubborn, and she thinks the sun doesn't shine until she gets out of bed in the morning.

The worse thing about her, though, is that she thinks that she's the QUEEN of the world, therefore she finds it dificult to acknowledge me, the PRINCESS of the world, as often as she should.

I love her to death, and nobody else better say a word about her, but sometimes I could just slap the Sugar Honey Ice Tea outta her!

Miss. Mocha

(Can you tell that she pissed me off this weekend?)

RaHel · #13 03-26-2001, 12:50 PM

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Originally posted by silver:
Her insecurities make her exremely controlling and manipulative.She has lost family,friends and clients over it but unfortunately no matter how much you tell her that she has a problem and to get help,she won't.In her eyes,it is never her fault.It is a shame because she is intelligent and attractive and has a lot to bring to the table but she is missing out.

This sounds like a case of Narcissistic Personality Disorder: characterized by manipulation, grandiosity, and everything else you named about her. I'm not joking, she needs help!!

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*selah*

LadyAKA · #14 03-26-2001, 12:55 PM

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Originally posted by The Original Ape:
Since there are so many mature minds on this thread, I thought I'd ask a question on relationships. Do any of you out there know any women that(from a man's point of view)are impossible to love? By this I mean, they are too stubborn to have/maintain a lasting relationship with a man.

So we have tried to answer and honestly at that - care to let us in to where you were leading with this? Or as someone mentioned is this hypothetical?

The Original Ape · #15 03-26-2001, 02:19 PM

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Originally posted by Discogoddess:
Bruh:

I can get with you on the emotional issues thing, but what do you mean about "too stubborn"? In my mind, many brothers assume that because a woman has her own mind is prepared to use it on a daily basis, that she is "stubborn" or "too sassy" or whatever. Of course, I do feel that many times we (as in all people) must go along to get along, but I also don't feel like I should hide the very asset that attracted the brother(s) to me in the first place (outside of the physical), my MIND and its ability to express itself.

I'm reserving judgement on your question until I hear back from you...

[This message has been edited by Discogoddess (edited March 26, 2001).]

There is a difference between being an independent thinker, and simply stubborn/hard-headed.