Need advice....

RedFox · #1 11-25-2003, 01:49 PM

So I talked to one of the girls I went through recruitment with last night. Her and I managed to stay very close...and she (now a sister) was talking about COBing me and really wants me to join her sorority. She's a sweetheart and she's like I'm going to give your name to the COB chair (who is her grandbig) who I remember meeting during recruitment who was a sweetie. We may be having dinner or something to get to know one another. If we do go out to dinner...what do I talk about? I'm having mixed thoughts on this situation. I mean, recruitments over, COB seemed to be over, what am I supposed to think? If they like me can they just say here's a bid? Do I have to go through an entire pledging period? I still plan to join SAI in the spring, ahh I'm so confused! Any insight would be awesome!

Greekgrrl · #2 11-25-2003, 01:52 PM

As far as I know, the whole point of COB is that it's continuous ... if the chapter isn't at total, there are theoretically at least bids to be had.

I joined my chapter after informal rush proper was over, as a COB, and it was very laid back and nice. I just joined the pledge class that had come in through informal a few weeks before.

At any rate, it can't hurt any to go hang out with your friend and her sisters to get a sense of what the chapter's really like when they're being laid back and informal.

Hope that helps.

aephi alum · #3 11-25-2003, 02:22 PM

Greekgrrl is right on. If the chapter didn't meet quota or is below total, they can extend COB bids whenever they want; it doesn't have to follow a formal COB rush week or anything.

If they're interested and can extend COBs, they'll probably make sure you meet a bunch of the sisters. Then they'll go through whatever membership selection process they have to decide whether to extend you a bid. If you get a bid, they may do a special new member education period just for you, or have you hold off if they're planning a spring rush.

As for what to talk about, just relax and be yourself. Have some questions about the sorority ready to ask. Do your homework... all the advice we normally give PNMs for formal recruitment

Good luck!

sairose · #4 12-01-2003, 11:45 AM

Well if you do choose to join the sorority, I would NOT do it at the same time as SAI. Pledging two sororities would be overkill! And yes they can still hand out bids if they didn't make quota. And yes, you would still have to pledge.

UKDaisy · #5 12-01-2003, 12:46 PM

I was reading sairose's post, Redfox check and see how busy your SAI chapter is planning the semester. Some chapters do different things. At UK we had several freshmen pledge TBS and SAI at the same time, which as far as I know was never a problem with time and such. But it all depends.....so check with your SAI girls and see! It might be you have way more than enough time to do both, or it could be the opposite!

I'm on the positive end, so I think you can do both. I'm not trying to go against what SAIROSE is saying, but I think you should look into it.

erniegurl00 · #6 12-01-2003, 03:52 PM

I agree. If you're still interested in joining a social sorority than I say pledge both. If you're worried about the work and stress load than ask the girls while you're attending COB events. Also, I had some close friends of mine pledge my house while at the same time pledging an academic sorority. It can be done. Just do what feels right for you.

sairose · #7 12-01-2003, 06:09 PM

Hmmm...I guess it could be done.

Before you decide either way, I would find out what all the required events/etc are for both SAI and the social sorority, and then you can judge for yourself whether you'd be able to do it. It all depends.

Let us know either way what you decide!

SparkliiQTMTSU · #8 12-01-2003, 11:16 PM

I would definitly try and look into it, I mean if youre interested and all anyways. Im sure you'll be fine either way it goes. but I agree with the others in talking to some of the SAI's and see if they think its possible for you to do that. Im sure it would be alright though. lemme know how it all goes sweetie!

Nichole

sarahgrace · #9 12-01-2003, 11:35 PM

I pledged SAI and Theta at the same time, and it was fine. I had about a two hour per week time commitment to each group plus extra activities on top of that. it may sound like a lot, but it was quite managable. It helped that pledging was at the beginning of spring semester before homework got too intense. We have delayed recruitment for NPC groups on campus, and SAI happens to follow the same pledging schedule, although we give out SAI bids before winter break. Of course, it probably depends on the school you're at / the chapters on your campus.

Sarah

sairose · #10 12-14-2003, 03:03 AM

hey Redfox, ever decide anything?