Blackplanet dating?

[Convinced]

Soror AKA2D'91, I did a search and didn't come up with anything. Please forgive me if this is a duplicate.

I've been exchanging emails with a guy from BP. After months of exchange, he gave me his phone number. I called, and we have lots in common. We're in the same city and attend the same church. (I did do a little test to make sure he wasn't lying!) Anyway, he is very intelligent and seems really nice.

Well, my question is: My line sister thinks that I am totally OUT OF MY MIND to even consider meeting this guy somewhere. She says that he could be a weirdo. I told her that it is no different than meeting someone in class, the mall, or at the club. I assured her that I'll meet him in a public place, but she still thinks I'm crazy. What do you all think? Would you do it?

[mccoyred]

I hope you don't mind me jumping in , but why not meet him at church. It's kind of odd that you attend the same church and have never met (unless you attend one of those mega churches!). Maybe arrange to sit together at a church service? He couldn't possibly try to act up if all the church folks knew he was interested.

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[nikki25]

I agree with the previous posting. Meet up with him in church. Perhaps you can go to Denny's/IHOP afterward to discuss the sermon...this way you can know if he is a man who seeks God's heart or not.

My best advise would be for you to pray about every move you take with this brother. In Matthew 6:33, Jesus states (it's in the red writing--so take it seriously)that we should seek the Lord first, and then all other things will be added unto you. Seek to know the will of God first; and then you will have your answer.



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[SweetestDiva]

Convinced -

If he's not willing to switch to the third service one day to meet you, maybe he's not the kind of guy you're looking for anyway.

On another note, I'm only offering advice because I have done this - very recently. I met a very nice guy on BlackPlanet, and it turns out that we were at the same school. I was still very skeptical about meeting him, and all my friends called me crazy too. We agreed to meet in the library (I agree with the public place suggestion), and things have been on and kicking ever since.

As long as you're safe and make sure you both have the same intentions, everything should be okay. Good luck!

[toocute]

Originally posted by mccoyred:
I hope you don't mind me jumping in , but why not meet him at church.

I agree. Meet him in church. Your first COUPLE of meetings should be in a public place. You're not crazy. I know people that have met through BlackVoices etc and they have been fine. If it wasn't a "love connection" they found a new friend.

[Convinced]

Originally posted by mccoyred:
I hope you don't mind me jumping in , but why not meet him at church. It's kind of odd that you attend the same church and have never met (unless you attend one of those mega churches!). Maybe arrange to sit together at a church service? He couldn't possibly try to act up if all the church folks knew he was interested.

My church has three services; he attends the first, I attend the third.

[Taykimson]

Originally posted by Convinced:

My church has three services; he attends the first, I attend the third.

Soror, you do attend a mega church - 3 services?...Does your church have a singles ministry? Or some other activity that you two could get involved in? This would be one way to get to know him. It would be great if you could find someone you trust that also knows him that can tell you something about him.


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