Do I really want to live in?? I'm kind of rethinking it....

absolutuscchick · #1 12-03-2003, 03:38 AM

Ok, heres the thing. I'm just not sure about living in next year. I've lived in an apartment for a year and a half and just this past semester, I have gotten used to having my own room, my own huge closet, privacy, etc.... but next year I'm supposed to be living in at Adelphi. This means I'll share a room like 1 1/2 times the size of my room right now, have half the closet space (AHHHHH!!!), have to deal with a roommate, and have no space for all my crap (and I have ALOT ALOT of stuff)
On the flip side, I really want to live in so that I can get alot closer to the girls in my house, and form stronger friendships. Another thing that I would have that I'm really lacking right now are girls to borrow clothes from, girls to put on my makeup, girls to go out with all the time, and alot of sisterhood.

BUT...I'm sort of having a dilemma on what is more important to me...my own room or sisterhood and all the benefits of living in. I know that I should probably live in but I'm just having some doubts right now...

Does anyone have any advice for me?

TigerLilly · #2 12-03-2003, 04:11 AM

I'm guessing there's no way that you could get a single room if you lived in? All the benefits of sisters next door and right down the hall, without having to share a tiny room again.

Moxie · #3 12-03-2003, 04:13 AM

talk to the other girls in your house, dorm, suite, or however your housing is - see how they feel about living in and if they shared any of the same concerns before going in. i think it would probably be a good thing, though. if it doesn't work out, you can always move out after the semester is over. i've had my own, huge room for years now, but i still can't wait to live in the DZ house! think of it as an adventure...

also, do you know of anyone that you think you could get along with as a roommate? i mean, sisters are one thing, but there are some girls that are my closest friends that i could not STAND to share a close-living-space with - at least not if i was expected to keep my sanity.

absolutuscchick · #4 12-03-2003, 04:21 AM

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Originally posted by Moxie
also, do you know of anyone that you think you could get along with as a roommate? i mean, sisters are one thing, but there are some girls that are my closest friends that i could not STAND to share a close-living-space with - at least not if i was expected to keep my sanity.

I'm not sure....we got an email with all the girls that were supposed to be living in, but it seems that not all of them are going to be living in, so I kind of have to find out more of that...but I agree I really need to look into finding a roommate!!

PhiPsiRuss · #5 12-03-2003, 06:55 AM

"Closet space or sisterhood, that is the question." Many people don't know this, but that is an original Shakespeare quote. Anyway, you only get one chance in your life to live in cramped quarters with your sisters, and the memories will last a lifetime. Go for it.

GeekyPenguin · #6 12-03-2003, 02:52 PM

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Originally posted by russellwarshay
"Closet space or sisterhood, that is the question." Many people don't know this, but that is an original Shakespeare quote. Anyway, you only get one chance in your life to live in cramped quarters with your sisters, and the memories will last a lifetime. Go for it.

I agree, although I'm a little doubtful on the Shakespeare.

When I lived in, at the time all I could think was that our house was messy, I hated sharing cleaning duties with some of those girls, and I was sick of having to SHOVEL. I moved in during winter and since I was the newbie I got to shovel lots o' snow.

However, now that I'm not there anymore, I remember staying up late with my sisters watching cheesy TV, dancing around the living room to cheer up one of our roomies who was sad, knowing I could wake up my roomie at 3 am after coming back from a bad fight with my boyfriend...and none of the other stuff seems all that important anymore.

ThetaPrincess24 · #7 12-03-2003, 06:44 PM

If you are able to live in, i recommend it. My chapter doenst have a house, but we have designated/official sorority floors in the dorms. I lived in and got my own room because of being a lil control/neat freak, never having shared a room with anyone in my life, and wasnt about to start(plus i was a junior/senior so i had that priority.

Living in can be as fun as you make it, in addition to being a great eye opener to yourself. While i had many fun times on the floor, there were also nerve wrecking times that pissed me off as well. However, i learned a great deal about myself and other people by living there, and I believe i'm better for it. I wouldnt have learned from that experience otherwise, and despite the bad times of it, I wouldnt trade that experience for anything either.

While some of the rules by living in seem a drag, and there are other downsides to it, it's still an experience that you should have, so I would highly consider living in if you can. After one semster or two if you truly feel that you cant handle living in and it's not for you(granted it's not for everyone) then that's okay. Atleast then you'll know, and you'll still have the experiences.

kddani · #8 12-03-2003, 07:18 PM

Go for it.

You have the rest of your life to live in your own apartment or house.

You only have a very short time to get this sort of experience and bonding with your sisters.

It drove me nuts now and then, but it was also incredibly fun and I echo the sentiments that it enables you to learn a lot about dealing with people, sharing, patience, and yourself! It's also nice to be able to roll out in your PJs to turn in something or go to committee meeting, etc.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #9 12-03-2003, 08:44 PM

I would have to agree wih what's been said. I'm an only child, and I had always had my own room (two of them to be exact) but I LOVED living in the house and don't regret it for a minute. I learned so much and loved being right in teh middle of everything going on.

As they said, you'll have years to live alone if you so choose take advantage of this opportunity.

MeLikey · #10 12-03-2003, 09:38 PM

I lived in the house for 2 years, and I loved it. While living in may not be for everyone, I definitely recommend it. I can relate with you about the closet space--but you just learn to deal with it and it all works out. I probably had the most clothes out of everyone in my sorority and I managed. I also had a lot of stuff that I had to cram in my room, but when you're faced with the challenge, you'd be surprised at how much stuff you really don't need (and just leave the unnecessary stuff home).