starting over!

[God's child]

I need some advice from anyone that's ever been in my situation. Today, the guy that I have been seeing for the last six months told me that he didn't want to have a relationship. I have grown to care sooo much about him over the last few months and I was hoping that we would one day live happily ever after. Now I am crushed! How many of you have been in my situation before and what did you do to get over it?

[sunnydays96]

I would say, just move on. Maybe it's a sign that he wasn't the one for you. Moreover,(not saying that this is you) I haveknown friends to spend less time with their girls because they have a new guy in their life and to an extent that's understandable. So I would say go out with your girl-friends and have a ball. You may find someone else better and someone who wants what you want.

My motto: "Ex to the next".

[God's child]

I've had hours to think about this now and I've thought about all the positive things that can happen with me not being with him or anyone else right now. I have much more time to focus on myself and get the things accomplished that I need to get accomplished. I think he was standing in my way of happiness anyway because I was sad more than I was happy because I was always thinking about how he felt about me and now I know. And Inquisitive, I like that phrase: "every rejection is God's protection", that is so true!

[AKA_Monet]

Gwril, It's time to put on that sexy dress with a gel-filled bra and goto to the clubs, get one drink and get your groove on!!!

It'll be a boost to your ego. And go in with the understanding that nothing is serious 'til he says it and "lights up" your left 4th finger... I'm serious as a heart attack!!

Nothing's wrong with starting over. At least you get a chance to start over. Some women never get over to start...

Remember, if you're truly one of God's creatures, then He had a plan for you and thankfully, that man was not it. I'd rather be crying for 2-3 days than be with a fool for a year that isn't worthy of my love... Just a suggestion, it has been my experience that one knows the quality of the relationship inside 3 months. After that, I would be chasing the wind for nothing...

How old are you? Are you 19-25 years or older? Really, age has nothing to do with it, but experience does and just living longer in life makes one realize how precious life can be. I say this because your statements seemed like to me that you defined yourself by this "heart robber" . You seem like you have declared spiritual bankruptcy... I've been there, done that. Just know this, that God will never foresake you--He won't declare bankruptcy on you! Remember, His Eyes are on the sparrow...

Just my $19.08 to lift your spirit higher...

[Inquisitive]

Let me just say this one more time "EVERY REJECTION IS GOD'S PROTECTION" (Singin' Badu) Girl I know sometimes it's hard and we can't let go, Oh when someone hurts you oh so bad inside! But seriously there's someone else out there better for you and when it's meant to happen again it will happen. Focus on loving yourself for now and not some dude.

[AKA2D '91]

Soror,

you do have a WAY with words, sometimes...

Anyway,
God's child...you will be fine! We all have our Season, in time, your Season will come where the right person will be "delivered" unto you.

At the same time...one of my assistants, a few years ago told me while "in the valley" and I will tell you the same thing...

God's child, you better "LOVE who LOVES YOU!"