IS IT REALLY WORTH IT??

AKA2D '91 · #1 01-18-2001, 03:53 PM

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Originally posted by naturalbeauty08:
Is there a way to combat this thinking?
MATURITY

Do you think the absence of our organizations would make it easier for us to get things accomplished for the greater good of our Black community?

NO!

DISCLAIMER: This is just my pondering. I am in no way displaeased with my Sorority. All of my experiences with Alpha Kappa Alpha have been positive. It's the overall BGLO community that I'm concerned with.

I am in no way judging your satisfaction with the Sorority based on this post, I hope noone else does, either....

naturalbeauty08 · #2 01-18-2001, 03:59 PM

Thanks Soror!
I really agree with being mature. Why is it so hard for people in the Black community to be mature? Especially BGLO members?

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AKA2D '91 · #3 01-18-2001, 04:08 PM

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Originally posted by naturalbeauty08:
Thanks Soror!
I really agree with being mature. Why is it so hard for people in the Black community to be mature? Especially BGLO members?

I don't think you can ONLY limit it to BGLO members.

I think that one's life EXPERIENCES or lack of constitues one's maturity level.

That pettiness that you speak of PRIMARILY can be found among YOUNGER individuals 18-21 year olds. Since you are on a university campus, it is more normal to come into contact with immaturity than not.

Professor · #4 01-18-2001, 04:19 PM

I agree that affiliations can sometimes divide us as a people. For example, I interview for a job with a man that was a member of XXX fraternity. I went back for the second interview and he saw my key chain and things wend downhill. I know I was the best qualified for the job and really could have raised HELL about not getting the position but chose not to pursue the effort. I say Greeks need to embrace each other to bring about change as a whole.

AKA2D '91 · #5 01-18-2001, 04:28 PM

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Originally posted by Professor:
I agree that affiliations can sometimes divide us as a people. For example, I interview for a job with a man that was a member of XXX fraternity. I went back for the second interview and he saw my key chain and things wend downhill. I know I was the best qualified for the job and really could have raised HELL about not getting the position but chose not to pursue the effort. I say Greeks need to embrace each other to bring about change as a whole.

Maybe that is his character flaw. I don't think that you can judge the GROUPS AS A WHOLE...but the individual.

Like my grandmother would say...
The WORLD is not evil/underhanded,etc....it's the PEOPLE in the world who are evil/underhanded, etc

naturalbeauty08 · #6 01-18-2001, 04:46 PM

Soror, I defnitely agree with it being an individual thing.
I have only been out of undergrad for a short time. So are you saying that this type of behavior decreases with age?
Do you have any suggestions for how we can get our BGLO members to think more as a collective?

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AKA2D '91 · #7 01-18-2001, 04:59 PM

I will say that it is an individual thing...MOST people's level of maturity does increase with age...

At least, I hope so...I cannot speak for everyone, only myself...

AKAdemic1 · #8 01-18-2001, 05:25 PM

Soror AKA2D-
While I do agree that you cannot judge an entire group by the actions of individual members, I have to disagree about pettiness decreasing with maturity.

Four years ago, my chapter participated in a local black heritage parade. Some of us younger sorors, all decked out in para, came across some older members of "xyz" sorority, and spoke to these ladies. On top of the relatively nasty looks we got, they acted like it hurt them to open their mouths to say hello. These women were in their 40's and 50's (at least).

Also, there were one or two "seasoned" sorors in my former chapter who were practically obsessed with showing up the "xyz's" with every event/activity that we did. You WOULD think that people would outgrow this kind of insanity as they age, but I guess that some just don't get it.

AKA2D '91 · #9 01-18-2001, 05:29 PM

That's why I said "MOST"

And too, I can only speak for myself and my experience(s)....

AKAtude · #10 01-18-2001, 05:30 PM

Soror Naturalbeauty 08, I've had similar experiences with greeks and non-greeks. I must say that the incidents I do remember happened while as an undergrad.

I agree that some people get caught up in the colors or specific organization and lose sight of the purpose and what is really important. I've also noticed that some of those people I've come into contact with since our undergrad days have left that immature mentallity behind.

PositivelyAKA · #11 01-18-2001, 06:33 PM

a little healthy competition is fine, like at steps shows, parties etc. but even within greek organizations there is division among who is or is not "real" so it would be a miracle if those same people would show love to someone in another organization. some people are just childish and superficial at best, so when i walk by in my AKA and a XYZ or a group or them roll their eyes or stop and stare i just keep my head up and go about my business, many times i will say "hi" and they are like "oh, hi" kill em with kindness sorors.

AKA_Monet · #12 01-18-2001, 11:01 PM

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Originally posted by PositivelyAKA:
a little healthy competition is fine, like at steps shows, parties etc. but even within greek organizations there is division among who is or is not "real" so it would be a miracle if those same people would show love to someone in another organization. some people are just childish and superficial at best, so when i walk by in my AKA and a XYZ or a group or them roll their eyes or stop and stare i just keep my head up and go about my business, many times i will say "hi" and they are like "oh, hi" kill em with kindness sorors.

Amen Soror, Amen...

naturalbeauty08 · #13 01-19-2001, 01:47 AM

Hi Sorors, Greeks and Sisterfriends!!
I have a question to ask that I have been pondering ever since I joined the wonderful SISTERhood of Alpha Kappa Alpha.
I've noticed while our organizations do WONDERFUL things in the community, on the same token our organizations seem to cause divide in the Black community overall.
Example: I was the Co-pres of the NPHC chapter at my school during undergrad. It was sooooo hard to get our orgs to work together... just on the srength that they could not get a long because I'm an AKA and you're a Delta,Zeta,SGRho, etc.
It seems that a lot of members get caught up on colors and such and can't see the greater good.
And the sad thing is it isn't just the attitudes of undergrads (although it is probably a bigger problem in undergrad). There had been a Black woman I had been cool with... when she found out we were in different organizations I got the cold shoulder. Does anyone else face this kind of pettiness? Is there a way to combat this thinking? Do you think the absence of our organizations would make it easier for us to get things accomplished for the greater good of our Black community?

DISCLAIMER: This is just my pondering. I am in no way displaeased with my Sorority. All of my experiences with Alpha Kappa Alpha have been positive. It's the overall BGLO community that I'm concerned with.

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