S.O. Support?

ADPi-Jen · #1 10-05-2003, 10:24 PM

Hi,

I'm just curious, and I suppose this will be mostly directed at those who have a Signif Other who is GDI.

Are your SOs supportive of your GLO involvement? I hope to hear from both collegians and alums on this one.

My husband just doesn't get it! I know he probably never will. It sucks that he doesn't understand, or care (or pretend to even care to hear) about something that is so important to me.

erniegurl00 · #2 10-05-2003, 10:38 PM

My boyfriend doesn't get it either! He attended Wabash college as a collegiate, and for those of you who are familar with Wabash know how strong fraternity life is there. However, he does support me. He knows how important Pi Phi is to me.

Sistermadly · #3 10-05-2003, 10:45 PM

MisterMadly doesn't get the whole greek thing, but he's super supportive, and is so glad I've found friends and a group to call my own. I feel bad about leaving him at home sometimes, but he assures me that he enjoys being a PHI-Male.

winnieb · #4 10-05-2003, 11:08 PM

My husband is very supportive. I spend alot of time on Alpha Gam stuff. He is always more than happy to keep our boys or whatever else so I can be active as an alum.
My husband pledged while in college. The university we went to, had Alpha Gam's and one IFC group. The guys were a colony and were never chartered. He misses what he had as a pledge, wishes he would have initiated, therefore he would never think of taking that from me.

-wendi

Kevin · #5 10-05-2003, 11:46 PM

My girlfriend copes alright. Now that I'm an alum, I'm still fairly active in alum and chapter support functions. She deals with it I guess

She's always been pretty supportive though.

breathesgelatin · #6 10-06-2003, 12:44 AM

My boyfriend is very supportive. He loves my sorority sisters!! (then again, he's not a GDI!)

AXO_MOM_3 · #7 10-06-2003, 01:05 AM

My husband was a GDI, and is unsupportive of any activity I do relating to my sorority. I've tried to explain why Alpha Chi Omega is so important to me, but he still does not get it. He thinks it was a college thing, and should remain just that.

adduncan · #8 10-06-2003, 01:25 AM

It's the other way around w/ me.

Mr. Adrienne taught me more about what Greek life means than I ever learned in college. If anything, I'm the one encouraging HIM to spend some more effort w/ the alum chapter here.

lauralaylin · #9 10-06-2003, 08:15 AM

My husband has always been great. When I rushed we had been dating for about 3 years, and he was a little nervous at the time. He knew a few Alpha Phis though, so he felt more comfortable that that was the only house I was interested in. But since then he's always helped me with my positions. He is a computer guy, so he's made COB fliers for us in college. Since I became an alum he's been even more helpful. He helped me make the newsletter for my alum chapter, and just this weekend he wrote a website for the chapter too! And he doesn't complain at all during rush when I am totally MIA, and so stressed out when I am around that I am no fun.

MereMere21 · #10 10-06-2003, 08:56 AM

Mr. MereMere has supported me the entire way from rush to alum. He gets a little agitated when I spend money without telling him but thats the only thing really. Besides, he becomes Mr. Popularity at the firestation when his wife and her sisters come visit

honeychile · #11 10-06-2003, 09:09 AM

My fiance went to a school that didn't have a Greek system, so he doesn't get it at all!! I sometimes think it would be easier if he had at least been exposed to Greek life.

He tries to understand, he really does, but I can see it's not clicking. We were at a mall once, and while I was in a store, he saw a woman who had gone to his school but transferred. I came out, saw a (beautiful) woman in a light blue t-shirt walking away from him, waving, and he told me who she was. We ran into her again at another store, and I said, "[Mr. honeychile] didn't tell me that you're an ADPi!!" She responded, "He didn't tell me that his fiance was an ADPi, either!!" He honestly didn't get our excitement. *sigh*

MysticCat · #12 10-06-2003, 09:29 AM

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Originally posted by adduncan
If anything, I'm the one encouraging HIM to spend some more effort w/ the alum chapter here.

That's sort of our story, too. Ms. MysticCat is a Kappa, and as our children get older (and easier for one parent to deal with) we find that I'm encouraging her to be more involved in Kappa alum activities and she's encouraging me to be more involved in Sinfonian alum activities. Of course, neither of us has an ulterior motive for our encouraging the other.

ztabchbum · #13 10-06-2003, 09:32 AM

My boyfriend doesn't understand at all and it can be really frustrating at times. He didn't go to college so it's even harder because he is literally clueless about Greek Life. Zeta has been a HUGE part of my life since day one and he only got to see the very last part of me in college and at that time I was having problems with my chapter. So he doesn't know the good - he only got to see the bad. But, I will say this - I talk about Zeta just about 24/7 and I know it drives him crazy but he deals with it very well. He knows that Zeta will be a part of me for the rest of my life so he supports me nonetheless.

ZTAngel · #14 10-06-2003, 10:21 AM

During my freshman year, I joined ZTA while my HS Sweetheart stayed independent. He just didn't get it. He could never understand why I had to be at the ZTA house every Sunday at 7pm for meetings instead of hanging out with him. He hated when I went on socials. Also, since we were together during my new member period, there were a lot of times that I had to be at the house for new member meetings, study hours, etc. He made it seem like I was choosing my sorority over him although it was my obligation to be at the house.

He refused to go to my semi-formal since there would "a lot of annoying frat boys there".

His roommate, who I have still remained friends with (well...he is engaged to my best friend), told him, "You need to be more supportive of ZTAngel's involvement. You need to go with her to formals and date functions and stop giving her a hard time when she goes to socials. If you don't, she's just going to get more aggravated and she'll end up meeting some fraternity guy who is 100% supportive, she'll end up cheating on you with him, and that will be it."

Of course, my boyfriend took what his roommate said with a grain of salt. The weirdest thing is that his roommate was totally correct in his assumption of what would end up happening. I eventually got really tired of my boyfriend getting on my case about my sorority involvement. I went to a social, met a guy in a fraternity who 'wooed me' (and who of course I understood why my sorority was important to me). And, oops, ended up cheating my boyfriend.

Needless to say, me and the boyfriend broke up. Best decision I ever made. After that, the guys I dated were all in fraternities. I liked it more because I never had to justify my sorority involvement to them...they already understood.

For 2 1/2 years, I have been dating a Kappa Sig. He never gets on my case when I have to sorority stuff.

33girl · #15 10-06-2003, 11:19 AM

My boyfriend went to the Art Institute so needless to say he wasn't Greek. He's liked all the sisters he's met though, and he's really good about listening to me crow or vent even if he doesn't completely understand it. He went to a reunion that was all sisters and that was fine - however, I will never again take him to homecoming because he couldn't handle the crowds and me flitting everywhere.

Most of his friends are musicians, eclectic and very anti-Greek. I've definitely made them think about their perception of what a sorority member is. It's still cool to meet someone and offhandedly mention sisters and have them be like "YOU were in a sorority?" because I know it's a compliment coming from them.