Mother's/Father's pins

[aephi alum]

There's a thread in the DG forum with a discussion of whether or not it's appropriate/acceptable to give your mom a DG mother's pin if she's in another GLO, and whether she'd be likely to wear it. (Pretty pin, btw )

I know a bunch of GLOs have mother's and/or father's pins (AEPhi, sadly, not being among them) - so I was wondering:

Ladies:

If your daughter joined your sorority and gave you a mother's pin, how often would you wear it? Alone or with your badge?

If your daughter joined a different sorority from yours and gave you a mother's pin, how often would you wear it? Alone or with your badge?

If your son joined a fraternity and gave you a mother's pin, how often would you wear it? Alone or with your badge?

If you had several kids who went Greek, how would you handle your collection of mother's pins?

Gentlemen:

Same questions, with the obvious reversal of gender

Also: For those of you whose orgs offer mother's/father's pins, what rules do you have regarding where and when they're worn? (e.g. must be in pin attire, not to be worn while consuming alcohol, etc...)

[aephi alum]

1. N/A since AEPhi doesn't have a mother's pin. If we were to offer one, I'd wear it proudly with my badge - particularly to sorority functions.

2. I'd probably only wear another org's mother's pin to functions hosted by that org (e.g. my daughter's chapter has a Mother's Day brunch). Probably with my badge, unless the org's "mother's pin rules" said otherwise.

3. Ditto for a son.

4. Since I'd probably only be wearing a mother's pin to one of my children's GLO's event, I'd only be wearing one at a time. (I threw this question out there, in part, to see how carnation would answer it... )

[IvySpice]

This is totally hypothetical of course, but as long as the rules allowed it, I'd wear everything at once! That'd be especially true, say, if I had a bunch of kids in different GLOs. I think it would be great to show that rivalries are silly and that the family is bringing it all together.

Ivy

[AOIIsilver]

My mother usually wears her AOII mother's pin by itself whenever we go somewhere together. We have been shopping and at a flower show and were stopped by women stating, "Oh, I have one of those!"

She wears both her mother's pin and her AOII badge at AOII functions.
Silver

[Kevin]

You'd never see a Sigma Nu's father wearing his badge.

The only place you'd be likely to see a Sigma Nu's mother wearing his badge is to his (the Sigma Nu's) funeral.

[AlphaPhiBubbles]

Erm...well Alpha Phi doesn't have anything like that but I'd have to say I'd be really hesitant to wear a pin from another sorority, just because it would be showing my loyalty to another sorority, not my daughter. I think I would wear it at one of her events though...and I wear my active pin now any time I dress up (even if it's just for school) so I will probably do that when I get older too.

It wouldnt be that different for a fraternity pin/my son...cuz it would just be weird wearing a frat pin...like i said i would wear it to his functions though.

[AGDAlum]

I gave my mother an AGD Mothers Pin (no apostrophe, per AGD). I think she wore it once. (I ought to see if it's in the jewelry box that my sister inherited.)

That said, I think it could certainly be worn if the mother is in another GLO. It is a Mothers (Mother's) Pin, not a badge. If the mother chose to wear it with her badge, the pin would go under hers, the same way that a men's badge would be worn. (IMO).

[Lil' Hannah]

I think there may be some confusion...

Organizations (such as DG) have special pins that are only for mothers of initiated members. So it's not the actual anchor badge, but a pin that is a suggestion of our Pi Alpha new member pin.

Here's the original thread, with a picture of our Mother's pin.http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...threadid=39630

That being said, I would probably wear only the mother's pin to her functions, but if I had a son I think I would be more comfortable wearing his mother's pin with my anchor badge.

[dzandiloo]

I think mother's pins are really special. I hope to get one someday! My thoughts on your questions:

If your daughter joined your sorority and gave you a mother's pin, how often would you wear it? Alone or with your badge?
I would wear it alone AND with my badge in any situation calling for badge attire...I don't think the mother's pin has the same rules that the badge does, so I'd probably get to wear it more often.

If your daughter joined a different sorority from yours and gave you a mother's pin, how often would you wear it? Alone or with your badge?
I'd have to check and see if our rules conflict, but I think I would wear it to functions sponsored by her sorority, but with my golden lamp badge, placed just below (if the situation required badge attire). I know we can wear fraternity badges of our husbands or Order of Omega pins, but they have to be below the DZ badge. If it was not badge attire, I'd wear the mother's pin, but then wear my DZ crest necklace to show my affiliation. I think to receive a mother's pin would be incredibly sweet, and I don't really think it would signify my being loyal to her sorority, but supportive of her membership in that sorority....

If your son joined a fraternity and gave you a mother's pin, how often would you wear it? Alone or with your badge?
Same as above, but I'd probably wear it to my own sorority functions as well...

If you had several kids who went Greek, how would you handle your collection of mother's pins?
I only have 2 kids, so it would probably be manageable...but more than that, I'd probably just wear them one at a time.

For those of you whose orgs offer mother's/father's pins, what rules do you have regarding where and when they're worn? (e.g. must be in pin attire, not to be worn while consuming alcohol, etc...)
I'm not sure there are any written rules regarding our mother's/father's pins...maybe some other GC DZ will know? I've never given one b/c my Dad wouldn't wear it (he's in construction!) and my mom passed away before I got to college....

[LionTamer]

I was so proud to present my mom with an "ASA Mom" coffee mug at a mother's day brunch we hosted one year.

When I got home, I found out she had designated it to soak the kibble in hot water for the dachshund's dinner.

God only knows what she would have done with a pin....

More seriously, we have a nice "Mother Patroness" pin, which we gave to girl's moms who were really helpful with our chapter. We're so geographically isolated - 2 1/2 hours from the nearest city - that we had very little alumna/advisor support. We had to rely heavily on the parents of the girls who had grown up in State College - there were always one or two in the sorority - for advisor/adult help/ "borrow your house or hunting cabin/borrow your pickup truck" type stuff, and we either made them a Phoenixman or Mother Patroness. http://www.burrpatt.com/alphasigmaalpha/ASAPins.asp

I don't think most of our moms would have any conflict with wearing it, though; since this was a state college in Pennsylvania, most of our moms had not been in sororities when they were in college (if they had even gotten to go to college).

[GeekyPenguin]

My mom is starting to look into AI and should she choose Gamma Phi, she has said she wants to wear the mother's pin as a guard on her badge. Should she choose another GLO (causing me to disassociate myself from our family ) I think she'd wear it under the badge, similiar to how sweetheart badges or Order of Omega badges are worn.

[KillarneyRose]

Originally posted by LionTamer
I was so proud to present my mom with an "ASA Mom" coffee mug at a mother's day brunch we hosted one year.

When I got home, I found out she had designated it to soak the kibble in hot water for the dachshund's dinner.

God only knows what she would have done with a pin....

And I thought I was the only one subjected to stuff like that

I took my mom to a mother/daughter brunch in college and she spent most of the ride home making fun of things like our friendship circle and how emotional our alumnae got when we were singing "Delta Zeta Lamps are Burning"

My mom's actually not an uncouth person, but she certainly doesn't "get" the greek thing

[honeychile]

First of all, if a daughter of mine pledged a sorority other than ADPi, she would need to listen to the commitment she made to honor her group first, and realize that I must do the same. This would be assuming that she survived the obvious guilt trip.

Yes, I would wear a Mother's pin. Yes, it would be worn at the same time as my ADPi pin, but just under it. And yes, I would wear both at the times I usually wear my pin. Ditto for a son (except the guilt trip, that is!)

Has anyone ever seen photos of DAR women who wear a gazillion pins, each signifying a Revolutionary War ancestor or something similar? When I read this thread, I immediately pictured Carnation wearing something similar, albeit in Greek mode!

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally posted by ktsnake
You'd never see a Sigma Nu's father wearing his badge.

The only place you'd be likely to see a Sigma Nu's mother wearing his badge is to his (the Sigma Nu's) funeral.

Mothers/Fathers pins are different from the badge.

Pi Phi has a Mothers pin. I thought about giving one to my mum, but I don't think she'd wear it.

Although if I had a daughter and she gave me a mothers pin, regardless of organization I would wear. But I think I would only wear it to functions hosted by her organization, and I would wear my badge with the pin (if rules permitted it) to show my affiliation.

Same if I had a son.

[Kristin AGD]

I really, really hope that I get to wear the Alpha Gam mother's pin someday. But I have to wait thirteen years to find out! And I am not in any hurry.

But if I do I would wear it as we wear anything else with our badge, to the left and slightly lower than the badge.

And if my daughter were to join another group, I would wear the mother's pin proudly. The only time I probably would not wear it would be to official Alpha Gam events like helping out at rush or convention.