S/O dating/marriage recruitment

[AKA_Monet]

Did any of you specifically "recruit" your significant other to date or marry?

Meaning, did you ask your friends/family/etc to set you up knowing that you will have a relationship with your significant other?

What was your "recruitment" strategy if you had one?

[AKA_Monet]

I PRAYED to GOD to meet my husband. I did not KNOW who he will be, what he would look like or where he would come from, but I definitely prayed to meet the man I would marry...

I almost screwed up, because when the idea of the man was presented to me, I almost said "no, I don't want to meet him". But somehow, my mind was changed...

I did not think he was my type nor was he the usual attractive man I would date or even marry!!! But, I knew he was a "good" man, he treated me a whole lot better that I had eva been treated and he was truly sweet.

The one thing I did differently, this time, was I told my man up front what I wanted in a relationship and if he choose not to do it in a certain respectable time frame (meaning not years and years), then hey let me find someone who will want the same wants as me... Don't leave me hangin'... He knew if he wanted to "keep me around" he would have to do something on the lines of that what was "sparklely"(?) in order to maintain my interest...

I am so glad I choose to forego my idea of what I wanted and decided to base it on faith...

[AKA2D '91]

LMAO @ my soror!

Only you...that's all I gotta say!

[ckretintress]

Well, it was the other way around for me. I met my husband through his cousin, which was a close friend of mine at the time. Actually this was during high school. Here's the story... I went to the store with my aunt and my little cousin, Chekevia, who begged me to go to the store with them. I wasn't into it because I was just getting up, and I wasn't dressed. So, when we got to the store, this guy got out of his car. He was soooo cute. I told my cousin to look at him. So we had the eyeball thing going on. Then he went over to talk to my aunt. I was thinking, dag he must be related to me or something because he hugged my aunt. So, I am sitting there in awe and waiting for him to talk to me. He then goes to his car and get in. I get out of the car, and he blows for me. I'm looking around like who is he blowing at. He motions for me to come over. I did. He asked my name, I tell him. He asked where I lived. I told him next door to my aunt, who he hugged. I asked his name. He told me. I was like, what is your last name. He told me his first name was all I needed to know. You know that was a turn off. He told me he had just got off of work because I was noticing how dirty he was. A couple of days later, he got one of his friends to bring him over my aunt's house and walk across to my house to get me to come out side. My grand dad wasn't going. He said if that boy wants to talk to me, he has to come over here. I toldhis friend's that I didn't want to talk to him. So, he knew me and his cousin went to the same school so he went to her for the hook up. The next morning I got on the school bus, she was like, Cave, I know someone who want to talk to you. I was like who. She told me it was her cousin that I met at the store. She said that he was begging her to get us together. So I was asking his cousins about him. They assured he was straight. So one day I saw him pass by my house, so I told my cousin let's walk to his cousin's house, about two houses down. I knew this man had to come back through there. So on our way to his cousins, he came back down the street. I flagged him down and got in the car with him. We have been together for 13 years and married for 11 years. I landed a good catch.