Why do I like this guy?

annice22 · #1 08-01-2003, 03:09 PM

Has there every been a guy that you like but you just can't have? That's what I'm going through right now, there is this guy at my school and he's so hot and he's in a fraternity on campus. He is a complete jerk but yet I like him. He's a womanizer, drinks too much, and slut. What I've figured out recently is that old saying You want what you can't have. I have always gotten the guy that I've liked before. I'm sure I could get him if I lowered my standard and sleep with him. But that's not what I want. I know that he's a player but he is cute.

Is there a guy that does that for you?

bethany1982 · #2 08-01-2003, 03:14 PM

I hope you don't lower your standard, but I understand.

Lady Pi Phi · #3 08-01-2003, 03:16 PM

OMG, story of my life. I like a guy that I pretty much can't have. Well in my case I don't know what's going on. As far as I know he's not a womanizing alcoholic. We've known each other for 2 years, yet nothing has happened between us. We're not even really good friends. He keeps making plans to see me, then standing me up. He'll getty pissy with me when I call him on it too. A smart girl would just forget about it and move on, but I can't. I don't know what it is about him, but I can't seem to move on. Any other I guy and I would have dropped him like a ton of bricks.

But definitly DO NOT lower you standards.

Sverige · #4 08-01-2003, 03:20 PM

I just think it's the fact that in both cases both men don't give a shit about either of you and don't give you the attention you need. It kinda turns you on because it's a challenge. About as much attention you'll both get from either of them is a call at 3:00am and between the sheets .

Lower your standards, just this once.

annice22 · #5 08-01-2003, 04:14 PM

This guy I like came up to school one weekend to visit his fraternity brothers that were here for the summer. Well we talked but he still picked up the sluttiest girl (some crazy drug girl) and took her home because he knows that I won't touch him.
He also told me he can't waite to come back to school in the fall to see me.

But yet I can't get over him. Like lady Pi Phi said if it was any other guy I would have gotten rid of him a long time ago.

MeLikey · #6 08-01-2003, 04:38 PM

There was this guy, a GDI (but a hot wrestler), who I didn't like (in that way), but he was cute and fun... great to dance with... and one night at the bar we were dancing for a while and he tells me that he has a girlfriend and he met her before me and turns out he's been with her for 2 years (I only knew him since this past fall)... after he told me that he was taken, I actually wanted him, hence I wanted what I couldn't have. A few months later, we were dancing at the bar and he kissed me... I went with it, but was also like no you have a girlfriend. He told me the next night that his girlfriend and he had broken up a few months ago and we hooked up. After that though, I wasn't interested anymore-- I guess since the thrill of the chase was over.

justamom · #7 08-01-2003, 07:37 PM

I used to do something similar except, I would date guys I KNEW, KNEW, I would NEVER EVER EVER marry. I did this to kill time till I was ready...in between spells when Hubby and I would break up. Maybe you aren't READY for a real commitment and this is a way for you to delay it.

IheartMATT806 · #8 08-01-2003, 07:41 PM

Yes it is VERY true that you always want what you CANT have!! I know exactly what you are going through and I can say I would never do it again..NEVER! I did sooo many things to be with this one particular guy or at the very least for him to notice me. He was everything i thought i needed but i was nothing he should have got. I would have done anything..and i did..except there was no glory in it AT ALL! Once you get what you want then its no fun. I think there should always be sumthing that you were not meant to have. Would you really be satisfied if you had to go to all ends and sleep with this guy for his attention? I dont think its worth it at all...once you are right where he wants you then what do you have to look forward to. Sounds to me that he is just living his life and having fun..there is no need at all to go out of YOUR way to make him want YOU! Have sum will power and make him WANT YOU!!! Do what needs to be done or move on..there are plenty of others out there. Open your eyes and see past the lust because when that gone whats left?

blueGBI · #9 08-01-2003, 08:12 PM

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Originally posted by annice22
Has there every been a guy that you like but you just can't have? That's what I'm going through right now, there is this guy at my school and he's so hot and he's in a fraternity on campus. He is a complete jerk but yet I like him. He's a womanizer, drinks too much, and slut. What I've figured out recently is that old saying You want what you can't have. I have always gotten the guy that I've liked before. I'm sure I could get him if I lowered my standard and sleep with him. But that's not what I want. I know that he's a player but he is cute.

Is there a guy that does that for you?

This is like the story of my freshman year! Ok, I worked with this really hot guy, he was in a fraternity, he was REALLY cute (he looked like Goran Visjenic(sp) from ER), had a really nice body, an Italian Stallion type.

He also drank waay too much, was a slut, and his brain skills were lacking. For all of 2002, I was lusting after him, but I never really went after him because I had some bf issues of my own to work out, I didnt want to be known as the job ho

, and I was on my (continuing) abstinence run (really long story behind that. boys and I dont get along). So I find out after he graduates that he wanted to hook up with me too but he thought I was a prissy stuck-up b&*ch.

Oh well, at least I never lowered myself to his level.

AchtungBaby80 · #10 08-02-2003, 12:09 AM

What about when the guy you can't have is supposed to be your own &#@%$! boyfriend???

IHeartAXO · #11 08-02-2003, 12:31 AM

Story of my life. I always like the ones with girlfriends or the assholes. I work with probably close to 40 guys or so in my restaurant. Which one am I crazy over? The one who I'm friends with and while he can be nice, he's mostly an ass. I don't know why I like him, but I just do. There are plenty of guys who I work with who are super cool and so great, including some of the nicest guys I've ever met, yet I fall for the jerk. He's not even THAT cute. Grrr.

But, on the other side... I also have a crush (that sounds so juvenile!) on the hottest guy who works there. We call him Malibu Ken because he's all toned and tan. Most people have problems with him, but no one can deny his hotness. He's either an ass, or a player, etc- which is probably very true. He's hooked up with a huge chunk of the girls at my restaurant and as hot as he is, that kinda skankiness just doesn't appeal to me (especially because I know the girls and eww, they're gross and trashy). He is SO hot, though. I act like a giddy 12 year old girl whenever he's working. And when he talks to me or acts flirty with me, I just kinda melt. It's so pathetic.

Lady Pi Phi · #12 08-02-2003, 01:52 AM

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Originally posted by ariesrising
Hmm. We must know the same guy lol.

Ahhhh, so you're the other woman

Same guy, tells me he's interested in another girl. I, of course am upset. But whatever. 2 days later, he's over this girl because she's suddenly gone psycho. What the hell happened in 2 days??!!