What Do You Guys Think?

bgsugirlie · #1 07-17-2003, 09:04 AM

Alrighty, here's the situation...

My friend is having her wedding next month...I really want to go and see her at her wedding, but two of my exes are going to be there and one was a very messy break-up. Right now, I know that both of my exes have new girlfriends...but I decided to take a break from the dating scene and just have fun with the girls for awhile so there's no new guy in my life right now. The problem is that I feel kind of retarded showing up at a wedding dateless because both of them have moved on and deep down I still kind of care about what they think (ahhhh I need to stop doing that

). Anyways, I thought about bringing one of my guy friends along as a date, but most of them are home for the summer and the few that I have around here have girlfriends and I don't want to cause any drama in their lives. Soooo, my question basically is do you guys think it's rude if i brought one of my friends along (a girl)? I just need someone there for moral support because of my exes, but I don't want to bring her if it's rude. What's your take on it?

mu_agd · #2 07-17-2003, 09:29 AM

i think it depends on the situation and who the friend is that you bring. here are my examples: my sister got married almost three weeks ago and two people brought guests that weren't a boyfriend/guy friend, whatever. one of the bridesmaids brought her sister along as her guest. now my sister didn't really feel that that was appropriate, but she wouldn't say anything. she knew this girls sister for awhile, but the sister wasn't invited, there were no intentions of inviting her, etc... i think she felt that this bridesmaid turned the trip into more of a family vacation, her mom came up for the week too, since it was in a beach town. when we did stuff for my sister, or my sister had stuff planned for all the bridesmaids, this girl didn't always come because she was off doing stuff with her mom and her sister, and i think that really bothered my sister. now on the opposite spectrum of that, one of my sister's good friends and her boyfriend broke up a few weeks before the wedding. she didn't really want to come alone so she called my sister up and asked if it would be ok to bring her aunt, who she's really close with, they're not too apart in age and stuff. now my sister didn't mind that. obviously she wasn't planning all along to bring her aunt and she wasn't too sure about it, so she checked it out. if you need some moral support there and would like to bring a friend, i might just check it out with the people getting married, just kind of give them a bit of a heads up as to the situation.

sigmagrrl · #3 07-17-2003, 09:30 AM

My personal take is: don't worry about it so much.

Having a date to a wedding is NOT a big deal. Worry about having fun without paying a dime of attention to your exes. It's more trouble to concern yourself with making sure someone else is having a good time! Is this REALLY that important? Will you know anyone else at the wedding besides these exes? There may be other singles there to have fun with and meet. I'd rather leave open the possibility of meeting new people than draggig someone else along...In the scheme of things, this is not that important...

Go by yourself, show yourself that you are a strong individual without a "date", and have fun!

justamom · #4 07-17-2003, 09:53 AM

An Emily Post moment-
Unless your invitation says, " bgsugirlie and guest", you may want to check it out before inviting someone. Usually it's not a problem, but some guest lists are limited for a reason.

I agree with sigmagrrl!
I know how you feel, but if it's a "youthful" guest list, going it alone could have positive results. I guess it would depend on
if you know a lot of the people who will be attending or not.

PM_Mama00 · #5 07-17-2003, 09:58 AM

If you are allowed to bring a guest, see if one of your guy friends will come up and go with u! They could come up and spend the weekend. Or, this is what I did at my friend's wedding. I didn't have anyone to bring to her wedding, and her brother happened to be my ex. One of my really good guy friends was dating one of my close sisters, so I asked her if it would be cool if I took him because when my other date ditched me (my hot Italian... we were fighting), he said he'd go with me. She said yes because she knew she'd be helping out a sister.

So maybe if you talk to one of the guys that has a girlfriend, and explain that it is just as a friend, the girlfriend might not care. Of course it'll be easier if you actually know the girlfriend.

Peaches-n-Cream · #6 07-20-2003, 08:08 PM

A wedding is a great place to meet a single guy. Have your friend introduce you to some of the groom's friends, brothers, and cousins. You can have a blast without a date and you might meet someone!

docetboy · #7 07-20-2003, 08:10 PM

I don't know if I want to go to this wedding in august, it's a friend of the families that I haven't seen since I was like 7 years old. They good news is I know there are hot single girls that will be there

CatStarESP4 · #8 07-21-2003, 02:04 AM

I have gone to weddings recently stag, but I have not met any guys at all!