Back to BSU?

DigitalAngel126 · #1 07-06-2003, 09:48 AM

Need some advice ..... (Imagine that)

I "Quit" (read: withdrew to figure out what I wanna do) school in spring of 2002 to get my life back in order. I now (finally) have a few things figured out..I have a job I mostly love and an apartment I adore.. I don't particularly LOVE the town I'm in, but it is where I've mostly lived for the last ten years, so it's not too over the top horrible. I left school, basically, because I was too busy being social and not busy enough being academic. I'm not positive if I'd even get accepted back in because of how horribly I let my grades slip. Most of the time I miss it because I miss the social interaction, I miss my sisters (duh!), I miss being on campus, I even KINDA miss class (but not TOO much

)...I just don't know if I should try to go back. If I do, it will require MAJOR effort on my part and will TOTALLY be my last chance....Because if I fark it up again, my father will lose all faith in me...And actually I will too...So I don't know what to do. Opinions?? Advice, PLEASE?!?!

SilverTurtle · #2 07-06-2003, 10:10 AM

If you go back, would you plan on majoring in the same thing? Maybe part of the reason you let your grades slip is because your chosen major didn't really interest you enough to make you want to study, etc.

I'm a big fan of college. I think that, even though right now companies mostly want experience, having a degree can make a huge impact on your future...depending on your chosen career.

That being said, my sister left her 4 year university after 1 year (she also got married & moved to another state with hubby) and transferred to a 2-year tech school. So she's got a certification. She enjoys her job, but now thinks she might want to go back to a 4 year school.

The longer you put it off, the harder it is to go back. Good luck with your decision!!

Tom Earp · #3 07-06-2003, 11:02 AM

Digi,

The hardest thing for anyone to do while just a Newbie to College is to get a study mode.

Easiest thing is the Social which is so much more fun!

If you decide to go back,to school ( I Hope ), make up your mind to study during certain times of the day or night. Period!!!!!

First College I attended, studied in library. No Greek Org. Got booted out.

Second school, changed Majors, joined a Fraternity and got boot out of it!

Started my own, and had to study to make sure we had a good GPA, by me not dragging the Chapter down.

Greek Orgs. used to require study times for New Associates, but Da, beleive it or not made it a part of the Hazing Thing!

Hell, the idea is for Members to make higher grades to get Initiated, and to stay active. DA Dam Da!

When you get back in School, make yourself study and if you need help get it!

DeltAlum · #4 07-06-2003, 12:22 PM

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Originally posted by DigitalAngel126
If I do, it will require MAJOR effort on my part and will TOTALLY be my last chance....Because if I fark it up again, my father will lose all faith in me...And actually I will too...

To be brutally honest, it sounds to me like to you want to get back to the social aspects of college and sorority...not the academics.

Maybe your decision is whether the academic work it will take to succeed is a price worth paying.

A college degree is worth having, but not a necessity in this era, so you just have to decide whether you really care about that, or really want to be back to the social life.

If the latter is true, maybe you should find a job in the university setting or town, and live there until you outgrow the need for the atmosphere.

It sounds like you're a little down on yourself -- but remember that not everyone is meant for the academic challange. That doesn't make you less worthy of your father's faith or of your own good self image.

Good luck.

DigitalAngel126 · #5 07-06-2003, 12:36 PM

Re Silverturtle: I never declared a major because there were so many things I was interested in, I coudln't decide on just ONE thing I wanted to do. Now that I've been at my job for little while (CNA @ a nursing home), I've decided (with pretty strong convictions) that I do want to go into nursing. That is what I really want to do, and I know it does require schooling.. I believe now that I've had the chance to grow up a little bit more, that I could produce the motivation to do so. But I'm not positive.

Re Tom: I hear you about required studying, but I don't know if it's been ruled hazing in all instances...I know we ('we' being my chapter @ BSU) still has study hours and round tables, so... We'll see. Their mistake with intiating me was that they wanted me so bad, they slid my through by saying they could only get ahold of my high school grades at that point in time (which was only partially true). Thanks for the advice, I think the biggest help for me will be establishing an actual time to study, and stick with it...Studying at different times before kinda got to me...So I didn't feel like doing it with any regularity.

Re DeltAlum: To be equally as honest, I DO want the social aspect back. I am very much a people person and being back in the town I went to high school in with no one I know around any more is kinda depressing to me. Whether I focus on a job, academics, or otherwise, I don't function real well without a lot of interaction. I do miss seeing my sisters, just like seeing any of my other friends, but that doesn't mean that I will re-activate if I were to go back...For many reasons. Also, as I said before, now that I have something that I do know I'd truly like to get into, I believe I could get into the academics part again. I've always had a thirst for knowledge, I love to learn, and I honestly do like school, I just was young(er) and dumb(er) when I went the first time. Leaving school has definately taught me a major lesson that I don't intend forgetting.

Thanks for the thoughts thus far.

alphachiohmy · #6 07-06-2003, 01:04 PM

How far along in college were you? Are you adamant on going back to the same school full-time or would you consider other options - part time college, online courses to slowly catch up to where you want to be?

pinkyphimu · #7 07-06-2003, 05:40 PM

is there a school in your hometown? maybe you can go part-time, instead of trying to go fulltime. my friend kept transferring from school to school, but just never was really happy. she is also a very social person and just couldn't focus on the school work. she took some time off and realized that she is not ment to be at school full time. right now, she is a nanny and takes 2 classes per semester. she doesn't have to take out a ton of loans, and she is able to put her best effort into her school work!

cuaphi · #8 07-06-2003, 06:17 PM

For the record, I dropped out of college for a semester, moved back home, got back in and graduated at the end of my fifth year. It can be done it just requires a complete change of attitude. My first time around I didn't have a job, didn't have any extra-curricular activities outside of my sorority and lacked focus for why I was in school besides the fact that I thought that's what you were supposed to do after high school. The second time around I had spent my semester off working the kind of horrible temp jobs one works without an education. By the time I went back to school I was waiting tables to pay all my own bills and keeping busy which required a better sense of time management. This time I knew why I was there and wanted to make it happen so much more that the results were entirely different.

Your last message made it sound like you've grown up a lot and refocused your sense of priorities as well as found out what you're missing out on by not being there. I think you'll do fine, just hold on to what you've learned.

DeltAlum · #9 07-06-2003, 08:41 PM

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Originally posted by cuaphi
It can be done it just requires a complete change of attitude.

Absolutely agree.

I had an English Prof who believed that nobody should be allowed to go to college directly out of high school. He said we should all have to take two years in the Armed Forces (not a popular stand in the middle of Vietnam when I was in school) or the Peace Corps or in a job.

His hypothesis was that during that time a person would grow, mature and learn how to organize and use time better.

While I don't buy into that for everyone, I do think it would be better for some. Perhaps DigitalAngel is one of those.

DigitalAngel126 · #10 07-06-2003, 10:49 PM

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Originally posted by DeltAlum
I had an English Prof who believed that nobody should be allowed to go to college directly out of high school.

While I don't buy into that for everyone, I do think it would be better for some. Perhaps DigitalAngel is one of those.

Funny that you mention that, I've been saying that since the day I came home from school. I think that had I worked after high school, as opposed to going right into college, I would've had a better appreciation for why I was there.