sweethearts?

[dstbrat]

ok sorors i am a little peeved. in another forum, a sweetheart asked how sororities view sweethearts. in my area, they are not respected. when i told her that, she went off on this tangent about how their bruhs look out for them etc. my question is why do these girls expect us to validate their choice to be a sweetheart? i could really care less about how wonderful it is to be a sweet. why do they seek our approval for something that has nothing to do with delta?

I think it depends on the individual. My line of 24 had 3 girls who were sweethearts. The thing is that they were not wearing sweetheart shirts one day and at a Delta rush the next. Some girls just don't know or they are told it will "prepare" them for when and/or if they decide to join a sorority. From where I went to school, the little sister organizations were composed mainly of freshmen, transfers, and those who couldn't get into other organizations. I don't have a problem with them, just as long as they realize that if they join Delta, it is time to work and not more of a reason to fraternize with the bruhs.

[dstbrat]

it's not that i really have a problem with them as much as it gets on my nerves when they act like they don't understand why some sorors may have a problem with them. especially, when they call each other soror and step and disrespect other sororities.

I understand because the sweethearts where i went to school had a "probate show". Before I graduated we had a little issue with some sweethearts because their "call" was made to sound like ours. Therefore we wouldn't return the call until we saw it was a Soror.

[DST897]

The only reason that I can think of as to why these ladies feel as if they need or look for validation from the members of sororities is because they want to be a member one day. And feel they need you to understand why they became a sweetheat (or what ever aux they might belong to) so you won't hold that against them when they step up to the sorority looking to get in because you "understand". (??? I don't know) I also don't have a problem with the women who join these groups (not saying that you do dstbrat) but you will have needed to show me that you can set aside the principles, goals, ideas what ever else you do in that group and are fully devoted to the principles that Delta stands for to get my vote. If you are still activly living the life of a sweetheart, you aren't ready for THIS sorority.

And another thing, I think they (members of these groups) think that since they became "INCORPORATED", that it puts them on the same level as us. So they do the calls and have sorors. I don't remember on which KKI site it was on, but they were giving the dicionary meaning of the word sorority. I guess to give meaning to why they feel they should call other members "sorors".

[DST897]

Oh and dstbrat, what fourm is this?

[dstbrat]

the forum is for woemn who are interested in delta on collegeclub.com i am so through with the whole thing. some of those girls have gotten downright rude about there clubs.

[DST897]

I can think of a few clubs that fit that description off hand. Which one? What others do you belong?

DST897,
I feel you Soror. And my question is, how can you be incorporated when you go to different schools, these aux. groups have different names. ex: diamond here, kourt there, and gem here and pearls there. No consistency. I mean you go to any school and Delta Sigma Theta is Delta Sigma Theta. Just MY opinion...

[dstbrat]

that is very true there is no set program in any of it. in some place the sweethearts cross each other in other places they are crossed by the fraternity. some take wood among other things. and not all chapters recognize them. i know they don't get any respect on my yard.

[crimsonsoror1913]

Hello Sorors,
Fisrt let me say that before, I pledged our glorious sisterhood. I was a sweetheart to the Ques. I saw it as a borrowed letter and a heart. I had no sorors or sands, Just other sweetheart sisters. The reason? the chapter I pledged undergraduate was inactive at the time. And no lie, it allowed me to party and get to know the sorors and bruhs. But when delta called and I answered that beloved call, I put away the childest things and moved on. My point is that, some young ladies need to be accepted and sweethearts fits the bill. But, it is up to us, the Sorors to be rolemodels and let them know DST
is the only way and accept no substitutes. What do you think?

[StarJC2002]

SORRY BOUT THAT’S LADIES DISREGUARD THAT POST THIS IS MY FIRST TIME ON HERE
WELL I'M WRITING ON BEHAVE OF AN ALPHA ANGEL WHICH IS INTERESTED IN PLEGEUING DELTA NEXT YEAR AT PENN STATE!
As a freshmen I was one of those girls who was told it would
Prepare me for pledging a sorority and give me just a lil inkling of what I would be getting in to.
- And in all actually I think that’s doing that it did serve that purpose just alil bit. Because as a freshman I came in to the Greek word blind!!! When I first started my process I made so many lil mistakes like being on the internet chatting it up with alpha and angels while I was on and if I was to that while I was pledging delta that’s would of been my ass. And the funny thing about it is I though it was on cause I wasn’t talking 2 them on the phone or direct. So I was just some lil thing that I learned that I would not have known that will now save my ass when I go on for delta.
- I also think being in an auxiliary opens your eyes about what Greek life is really about. Although we are not Greek we have the change to see what actually goes on in the Greek system being that we work hand and hand with the Alphas. Speaking for my self an Alpha Angel has experience allowed me to get close to other Greeks and see what definite each Greek from another and I will always cherish this experience because with out it I would still think Greek life is about who can step and party walk the best. Being in an auxiliary showed me that what Greek life is about which is who can make the biggest helpful, learning, beneficial difference in the world while holding up a strong sister and brotherhood. And From All My Studies and Observation I Have Found Delta 2 Be That Noble Bold Honoring Change Making Sorority Which I Would Love to Be Apart
- PS SORRY FOR THE LONG MESSAGE LADIES HOPFULLY I WILL SONE B A PROUND MEMBER OF DST

[Diva_01]

This is funny because I discussed this befire on gc...

I was, and still am, an Iota Sweetheart. I agree that there are inconsistencies from chapter to chapter, but from my experience as a Delta, there are also inconsistencies in our sorority from chapter to chapter as well. I admit, I love being a Delta, I love the sisterhood, I love my sands. I love Delta and all our sorority stands for. It enhanced me, not made me. But being in an auxillary group also gave me sisters, and a companionship with the Iotas. I can't speak for other groups, but we are called Iota Sweethearts everywhere. I don't step at parties as a sweetheartm because I see the disrespect, and we do not call each other soror in the auxillary group because we are not sorors. We are recognized nationally through the fratenity, and recieve certificates upon initiation. We also have workshops at the Iota's conclave, and open invitations to their regionals. We are sisters to them because they were founded so late they don't have a sister sorority. We are thier sisters. We do planning, we do community service, we do fundraisers. I don't know about other chapters' auxillary groups, burt we do fundraising and have meetings, and such, similar to sororities. The reason I'm still active as a heart is because when I needed help, before my sands were there, the bruhs(Iotas) were there. After my sands were here, my bruhs were still there. I'm not going to give up on my auxillary group and leave behind friendships, memories, and brothers. They are a part of my life just as Delta is.

I know some girls who give up on their auxillary groups when joining a sorority, which I would advise if all you do is party and have fun with the fratenity you are affiliated with. I know some sorors and other sorority members who are more active in their auxillary groups because there's more community activities and such to be done than in their sorority chapter, unfortunately. Some, like me, are tied to both. Like being a friend and sister, or a student and leader, they are both different parts of me. They both enhance mylife. I can't speak for others, but only for myself...

[miss priss]

Originally posted by StarJC2002
SORRY BOUT THAT’S LADIES DISREGUARD THAT POST THIS IS MY FIRST TIME ON HERE
WELL I'M WRITING ON BEHAVE OF AN ALPHA ANGEL WHICH IS INTERESTED IN PLEGEUING DELTA NEXT YEAR AT PENN STATE!
As a freshmen I was one of those girls who was told it would
Prepare me for pledging a sorority and give me just a lil inkling of what I would be getting in to.
- And in all actually I think that’s doing that it did serve that purpose just alil bit. Because as a freshman I came in to the Greek word blind!!! When I first started my process I made so many lil mistakes like being on the internet chatting it up with alpha and angels while I was on and if I was to that while I was pledging delta that’s would of been my ass. And the funny thing about it is I though it was on cause I wasn’t talking 2 them on the phone or direct. So I was just some lil thing that I learned that I would not have known that will now save my ass when I go on for delta.
- I also think being in an auxiliary opens your eyes about what Greek life is really about. Although we are not Greek we have the change to see what actually goes on in the Greek system being that we work hand and hand with the Alphas. Speaking for my self an Alpha Angel has experience allowed me to get close to other Greeks and see what definite each Greek from another and I will always cherish this experience because with out it I would still think Greek life is about who can step and party walk the best. Being in an auxiliary showed me that what Greek life is about which is who can make the biggest helpful, learning, beneficial difference in the world while holding up a strong sister and brotherhood. And From All My Studies and Observation I Have Found Delta 2 Be That Noble Bold Honoring Change Making Sorority Which I Would Love to Be Apart
- PS SORRY FOR THE LONG MESSAGE LADIES HOPFULLY I WILL SONE B A PROUND MEMBER OF DST

I am glad that your experience in your auxillary was a pleasant one,.....BUT from my understanding there is NO such thing as an Alpha Angel, LGB(ladies of black and gold) or the likes since the early nineties. They only have the Alpha Wives which is in no way apart of the official organ of APHIA. This group is an acknowledgment, by the men of APHIA, that their wives are the supporters of their men and that they happen to be married to a man of APHIA. Although, some cities do have an AW Club and are incorporated bodies, they recieve no "real" financial support from the nationals nor are they involved in the voting processes involving APHIA, nor can they attend any meetings of APHIA,etc.
From my understanding those organizations, like the one you mentioned, is NOT officially recognized by the men of APHIA.

I am saying this to you because as SF we must be careful about the orgs. we join because they can be viewed by various greeks (esp. in the D9) as you are trying to be a wanna-be. if you are meant to be a member of a said org. your time will come if it is meant for you. My advice to you is to be careful! Eyes and ears from Philly are watching you!

Sidebar: I think this is where we fail our college freshmen/high school seniors in the orientation process of college life. Oftentimes, they are not given the real low-down on the ins and outs of the school esp. if they are interested in becoming greek. Not to say that they should not do their research but I think that they guidance process is weak ( not just in reference to becoming greek but majors and careers as well).

[ladygreek]

Originally posted by Diva_01
This is funny because I discussed this befire on gc...

I was, and still am, an Iota Sweetheart. I agree that there are inconsistencies from chapter to chapter, but from my experience as a Delta, there are also inconsistencies in our sorority from chapter to chapter as well. I admit, I love being a Delta, I love the sisterhood, I love my sands. I love Delta and all our sorority stands for. It enhanced me, not made me. But being in an auxillary group also gave me sisters, and a companionship with the Iotas. I can't speak for other groups, but we are called Iota Sweethearts everywhere. I don't step at parties as a sweetheartm because I see the disrespect, and we do not call each other soror in the auxillary group because we are not sorors. We are recognized nationally through the fratenity, and recieve certificates upon initiation. We also have workshops at the Iota's conclave, and open invitations to their regionals. We are sisters to them because they were founded so late they don't have a sister sorority. We are thier sisters. We do planning, we do community service, we do fundraisers. I don't know about other chapters' auxillary groups, burt we do fundraising and have meetings, and such, similar to sororities. The reason I'm still active as a heart is because when I needed help, before my sands were there, the bruhs(Iotas) were there. After my sands were here, my bruhs were still there. I'm not going to give up on my auxillary group and leave behind friendships, memories, and brothers. They are a part of my life just as Delta is.

I know some girls who give up on their auxillary groups when joining a sorority, which I would advise if all you do is party and have fun with the fratenity you are affiliated with. I know some sorors and other sorority members who are more active in their auxillary groups because there's more community activities and such to be done than in their sorority chapter, unfortunately. Some, like me, are tied to both. Like being a friend and sister, or a student and leader, they are both different parts of me. They both enhance mylife. I can't speak for others, but only for myself...

I guess my biggest question is how did/do you find the time to do both? With Rho Xi being a relatively young chapter, it seems it would have consumed all of your time. No intent to offend, I'm just curious.