stress

phimugrl_tiff · #1 06-23-2003, 02:28 PM

I love phi mu, but right now I am feeling pretty stressed and discouraged about everything. Does anyone else ever get this way? If anyone wants to talk my screen names on aim and yahoo messenger are both jiffaney.[COLOR=deeppink]

OUlioness01 · #2 06-23-2003, 05:45 PM

it happens sometimes. you just need to step back for a second and remember the reasons you joined in the first place. it's like any other group of friends, sometimes you just get tired of everything and need a little break. luckily it's summer and you have time to jsut relax and destress. just remember to keep on smiling

pinkyphimu · #3 06-23-2003, 11:02 PM

yep. i think this especially happens as an undergraduate. you are with a large group of women, you are all trying study, find out who you are, grow into a leadership style, and a zillion other things. the end of a semester is always difficult. people are trying to catch up on all of the studying they didn't do for the past 3 months...and there are always a ton of sorority related things that need to get done. the end of spring semester is also tough. seniors are barely there (even if their bodies are there, their minds aren't) and this causes conflict with the other members. people you really care about are moving to other cities, etc. hang in there. these feelings are completely natural. and they are not only phi mu related...lol. by the time the summer is over, you will be all gung ho for phi mu!

phimuantique · #4 06-24-2003, 09:13 PM

I hope you did not take that last posting seriously. How sad, rude and uncalled for, to step in to any thread and offer advice (if you can call it advice) that was so negative. It says more about her than you, so let it roll off your back and move forward.

I would say that it's hard to be a part of a large group sometimes. I think that it can be a challenge to stay committed to any organization, but remember that we are all here to support each other. If you would like to email me privately to discuss your specific situation, I'm happy to try and listen and offer any positive advice I can give.

Phi Mu is for a lifetime. Whatever you are currently feeling is only a small part of what can otherwise be a positive long term experience. Hang in there and email those of us who care.

dzandiloo · #5 06-24-2003, 11:12 PM

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Originally posted by sleazydz
if you don't feel comfortable with it, then I advise you to quit...sorority's are not for everyone, and I guess you just might be one of those people!

Pardon my crashing, but I want to apologize for that post...suffice it to say that no legitimate sister of mine would select a user name like that. This person is nothing more than a troll who is out to create drama on the boards (as evidenced by several of her other posts today).

Phimugirl_tiff, you have gotten some good advice here--everyone goes through this...hang in there! The lifelong rewards are worth the bumps now!

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #6 06-25-2003, 01:04 AM

DZs are cool, and so is dzandiloo.

Moving right along...

can you be more specific about what the problems are? I've found a lot of women have trouble adjusting in the period right after they're initated -- the thrill and secrecy of pledging is gone, and now the realities of chapter life -- no, not everyone gets along and yes, there are problems -- is very sobering.

we're rooting for you!

Hootie · #7 06-25-2003, 11:46 AM

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Originally posted by phimugrl_tiff
I love phi mu, but right now I am feeling pretty stressed and discouraged about everything. Does anyone else ever get this way? If anyone wants to talk my screen names on aim and yahoo messenger are both jiffaney.[COLOR=deeppink]

I think that what you're feeling is something that a lot of people feel at one point or time in their Greek Career. I remember my Sophomore year I was feeling a little tired of certain things and totally discouraged. So I intended on quitting and wrote a letter to all those on executive board. OH MY GOSH! I had my phone ringing off the hook with people concerned. I guess I didn't think anyone would care about me leaving cuz I wasn't necessarily involved within the sorority politics and such - I did more school activities. But the women wanted me to stay so badly they were crying and trying to get me to stay; and once you hear how much people love ya it makes you want to stay.

So although my reasons were different I think it's safe to say that you're not the only one to go through this. I wish there was a clear cut answer to give ya but in the mean time ride it out and possibly this could be because of the summer months. Once school starts back up you may change your mind. Plus you can always talk to a few people about your concerns.

Good Luck!

phimugrl_tiff · #8 06-25-2003, 01:09 PM

Well I don't really want to go into all the specific problems I'm having, at least not on the message board....if you want to know more about them either im, or e-mail me. Thanks for all the responses, you guys are great!

Hootie....the problem is, some of my sisters know that i'm seriously thinking about quiting, but they don't seem to care.

OUlioness01 · #9 06-25-2003, 01:49 PM

don't give up! i had some of the worst things in my chapter when i was an active member, but i wouldnt' give up that time for anything. pm me if you ever need to talk about the stress or anything.

dixie_phi · #10 06-25-2003, 04:31 PM

Tiff, I LOVE you so much!!! I did't know that you were so stressed out. We are all having a hard time of it right now with the challenges we are facing. Just remember how important you are to our group. You are a piller of strength, quiet, understanding and a joy to be around. Right now we need you more than anything. Everyone is thinking very singlemindedly but it is just because each of us is concentrating on what we must do to get through this. No one is forgeting you (how could we) we are all just feeling alot the same way. It will get better I swear ( but it would be impossible without your help), stick in there and see what we can accomplish together. Love you sweetie.

phimugrl_tiff · #11 06-26-2003, 02:34 AM

thanx for caring....I was actually cool with everything and all pumped up about rush and stuff and building the best chapter we can. But then, I missed that last rush workshop, the one we had on that Sunday night because it wasn't very well planned, and very inconvient....i had already said that I would pick my granny up from the airport that night, and I was scheduled to work the next day...so I called and left a message saying that I was going to miss and why. So then they called back and said that it didn't matter and I would be fined 100 dollars for missing....which really got to me. Because I've been to all the other one's and stayed the WHOLE time working my butt off while others just got up and left. It seems like a lot of BS right now, there is NO way I can pay that 100 dollars, that workshop wasn't even on the list of dates they gave us at the beginning of the summer. That really irritated my parents and they are really encouraging me to quit, because they don't like seeing something that is supposed to be such a good thing stressing me out so much, ya know?