line sisters

onesavvydiva · #1 03-13-2000, 10:06 PM

Hello ladies,
I just wanted to ask a question on behalf of my good friend. I alreadly told her what I thought, but I guess she wants to hear from someone who's gone where she is going.

There is a female, that she has had serious issues with. I don't want to go into intimate details, b/c I don't want to reveal anyone's i.d. (you never know who is watching). Anyway, they have some deep- rooted dislike for each other...and guess what, they are going to be line sisters. When she confided in me, I said that the best thing to do would be to squash it, squash it dead...but she is really perturbed about this. I don't know if it's that simple, I know she really wants to be an AKA, and it's not like she is going to quit line, but I was wondering if anyone else has been it this situation, and could over some friendly advice.

Thanks in advance

AKAtude · #2 03-14-2000, 09:46 AM

Captivator#6 can back me up on this. One of our line sisters had a deep-rooted problem with one of the AKAs. They were friends and something happened along the way that caused them to go their separate ways. Anyway, the sorors made them settle their differences. And knowing what I know, their lines sisters will make them do the same. Part of developing a bond among your line sisters is being united as one and knowing that you can trust one another. If they are at odds with one another, they are going to put additional stress on their line sisters and that is NOT FAIR to them. Whatever it is, they need to squash it right now. Alpha Kappa Alpha has no room for immaturity or pettiness. Tell your friend to let it go.

Captivator#6 · #3 03-14-2000, 05:42 PM

Basically..my soror AKAtude said it all...however I would like to make one more statement...

When you become an adult you should throw away childish things...We bring strong minded, educated WOMEN into Alpha Kappa Alpha..not GIRLS that cannot come to an understanding for the "greater good"

Your friend will come to realize that at times her line sisters may be all she has...

AKAtude and I still know where EVERYONE of our LS's are today...Makes you think doesn't it?

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Naka2nv · #4 03-14-2000, 07:38 PM

A linesister and I had this exact same experience--we absolutely positively hated each other before our entrance into AKA and although its easier said then done, your friend NEEDS to be the bigger person and let her hatred for the other young lady go! Being on line and dealing with "big sisters" is a difficult experience and the last thing youre going to need is to have division between yourselves as linesisters. To top it off being on line is about becoming ONE and if youre "big sisters" see that youre not, it only makes the experience harder than it has to be--the two young ladies may not become best friends over night but the things they will endure together on line will hopefully bring them closer--as for my linesister and I, although I love all my LS's dearly, this particaular linesister and I are the TIGHTEST out of all of us....AMAZING, we are like two peas in a pod!

onesavvydiva · #5 03-14-2000, 08:34 PM

Hi Ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha,

I am OneSavvyDiva's friend, I decided to post under her name to be discreet. I thank you ladies for all of your advice

. I knew what I had to do, but like nAKA2nv said, it is easier said than done. I believe I can forgive and be cordial for the sake of my quest to AKA, (and because it's the Christ-like thing to do. I cannot go into details of what the circumstances are, but believe me they are not trivial or childish, and I cannot see myself getting to close to this person again. Anyway, like I said, I just wanted some affirmation that it is possible to survive line w/o being on the best of terms with one of your ls's. Thank you sooooo much.

Much Love
Me

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home1981 · #6 03-28-2000, 12:16 AM

I think that your friend needs to get over the past and get ready for a future of life long commitment. When joining a sorority you need to remember that sisterhood is a must in order for that organization to survive. So your friend should think about the outward image she is portraying about her organization, when the public can see that there is obviously some issues between her line sister and her.

LadyAKA · #7 03-28-2000, 05:27 PM

I must speak up on this topic here ....
First I will agree with soror Captivator#6 in that 'We bring strong minded, educated WOMEN into Alpha Kappa Alpha..not GIRLS that cannot come to an understanding for the "greater good"'. I had three line sisters I was the tail and I am only close with my number3 and the rest of us just get along! I, of course am no longer in my undergrad chapter but when I was there - we worked hard at functions and chapter meetings and when it was over I went my way. Sometimes you can't deal with everyone. This is a big sorority and it would be great if we could all be one, but that just isn't realistic, is it? Now for all those that think I have no heart please scroll through some past post that I have posted and you will see that I usually end with I love my sorority and I love my sorors and it is true, I got your back and your front, but sometimes you just need to go your sperate ways. I now yall understand so I will quit now