bonds within the chapter

[TexasAGD]

Are there members in your fraternity or sorority that you do not talk to? If so, is it becasue you choose not to or because they don't want to? I just wanted to know because when I was a member, there were a couple of girls that didn't give a sh*t about me and vice versa. Probably not because they didn't like me, but because they were just closer to some of the other girls. We just saw each other in chapter meetings and functions and that was it. Is this common in other chapters? Also, after reading threads with chapters at 150+ members, how can one get to know each other? I see it as more of a couple of small groups within a large group, and if your not in any of it, then don't even bother talking to them. Just like high school all over again.

[sherbertlemons]

Our chapter's pretty good sized, about 140 women. I think we do tend to divide up into smaller groups, and know those people in our smaller groups much better. (There aren't enough hours in a year to learn everyone's life stories, after all.) However, I feel there isn't a sister in my chapter that I couldn't sit down with and talk to. We're all pretty welcoming of each other.

It helps too that our chapter likes to shake things up. Room assignments when we're staying at a hotel for a sisterhood retreat are randomized, as are our Kores. Also, some of the people from more active committees have gotten to know each other quite well, also.

[CardinalSM]

I think our chapter is the perfect size at 75 members. You really get to know every sister and not many small groups are formed. I love being in a medium sized chapter, it really does feel like one big homey family!

[Kevin]

We're around 25 strong right now. I can safely say there's not a member in the chapter (alums included) who I can't hang out with. If we're all sitting at a table for example, it's not a clique type situation where you know someone will always sit by someone else. We just sit down.. and wherever you sit, that's where you are.

[LeslieAGD]

I've never met anyone who said they absolutely loved every single person in their chapter and meant it.

[PhiSigFly]

We have about 30 girls in our chapter and there are some groups that form, but I wouldn't call them cliques. Like, the girls that like to party go out and party together, girls that like going to movies see movies together, etc. But we all go out for dinner after meetings and a bunch of people go and we can all sit and talk to each other. I'm not going to say I hang out with everyone, but I can easily have a conversation with anyone. I know what everyone majors in, who's dating who, stuff like that. I like the size of our chapter, but in any organization, groups are always going to form. But as long as the groups can also mingle with everyone else, I don't see it as a problem.

[astroAPhi]

My chapter is at about 40 girls, and I'll admit that we're even split up into about 3 groups. However, even if I don't get along with a sister all that well, I can still talk to them at meetings or hang out with them in the Student Union cafe.

[aephi alum]

My sorority was quite small when I first joined (12 total counting my pledge class), and even with such a small group, there were two distinct subgroups. Not "we can't get along" subgroups, but people tended to hang out more with people in their own subgroup than with people in the other.

We almost doubled in size following fall rush during my junior year. A handful of the new girls had absolutely no respect for us older sisters. They formed their own little clique, and the leader of said clique is a large part of the reason why I didn't have anything to do with my chapter for a while. They wouldn't spend time with other sisters unless it was a sorority function, and they were outright rude to some of us (including me) ... except around election time, oddly enough...

Aside from these few girls, though, I never had a problem spending a few minutes with a sister, grabbing coffee or whatever.

[Winterbloom]

We're at about 60, counting graduating seniors (both my bigs gone in 5 days, oh no!) and there are a lot of different groups. Generally, the music majors hang together because they have the same classes and more in common. Families tend to hang out, because girls tend to take their friends as littles, and generally hang out anyway. We all get along, but when it comes to eating meals and sitting around the common areas, groups form. It's a neccessity with the size of the sisterhood. Any group over 10 tends to start to form sub-groups. It's the physics of inter-personal relationships.

[Moxie]

almost all of the chapters at LSU are near 200 women. i'm haven't gone through rush yet, but have often wondered how such a large group of girls form bonds. i guess there may be a downside, but i also assume that with such a large number, there will always be someone around interested in what you are interested in =)