Lets say you dig on someone...

lifesaver · #1 05-02-2003, 07:00 PM

How do you get them to notice you in THAT way?

Say you like this girl. I'll use my good friend Cream for example. (because I am notorious for using fellow GC'ers names in place of those in my real life situations.) Anyway, lets say that ktsnake has known Cream all through college. ktsnake even remembers when Cream was a lowly freshman (how could our girl ever be called lowly?) Ktsnake and Cream were friends, and sort of ran in the same circle, had the occasional class together, whatever.

Anyway, about a year or two ago, ktsnake begins to notice Cream on a different level. He sees how cool she is, how funny, sweet, kind, intellegent, loyal and smart she is. He then begins to wonder what it would be like to date Cream. He never lets her know what he thinks, because she is always dating another guy or really busy with school or work. He is also afraid to mess up their friendship. But yet he cant shake his crush for her.

Well, they both graduate, but stay in the same town and still rin in the same circle, just with all their graduated friends. Ktsnake confides his thoughts on the subject to their good friend, (whom we'll call Arya - who also hangs out in their group) three weeks ago, but Arya tells ktsnake to take it slow, because he suspects it might startle cream and push her away. He tells ktsnake to take it easy and just let things develop naturally. Our boy ktsnake understands and agrees. After a while, he just kind of gives up on the idea.

Well, in the last few days ktsnake hears a few encouraging remarks on the subject. First that our girl Cream is ready to start dating again, and secondly, would like a guy who coincidentally matched the very charasterics of ktsnake. Arya, of course speaks up for ktnsnake in an indirect way. Mentioning that there are people in their circle of friends who fit that bill, and wouldnt it to be great if the one she seeks was in front of her all the while?

so my issue is this. How does ktsnake work it? I am thinking a slow, cautious approach would work best, with subtle hints thrown in. Time is ktsnakes ally here. I am thinking an approach of always being around Cream and helping her and being a really good friend would work in ktsnakes favor, and is the approach needed. I firmly believe that they would make a great couple for each other and they could make each other happy. So any suggestions. ktsnake just mentioning his feelings to cream is not an option, because it would indeed, scare her off. Its just the way shes built.

So what do ya'll think?

Edited to add that I noticed that this was post #1733 for me, and IT JUST SO HAPPENS that 1733 is 'Creams' apartment number. Fate? I dunno.....

Peaches-n-Cream · #2 05-02-2003, 07:46 PM

Tell her that you're never gonna leave her
Tell her that you're always gonna love her
Tell her, tell her, tell her, tell her right now.

I think that you should tell Cream that you are interested in having a relationship with her!

Just ask her to go to the movies or out to dinner. Good luck!

James · #3 05-02-2003, 08:13 PM

How about casually mentioning that you have a 10 inch tounge with alternately rough and smooth surfaces? Would that impress a lady?

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Originally posted by Cream
Tell her that you're never gonna leave her
Tell her that you're always gonna love her
Tell her, tell her, tell her, tell her right now.

I think that you should tell Cream that you are interested in having a relationship with her! Just ask her to go to the movies or out to dinner. Good luck!

librasoul22 · #4 05-02-2003, 08:30 PM

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Originally posted by James
How about casually mentioning that you have a 10 inch tounge with alternately rough and smooth surfaces? Would that impress a lady?

I think ktsnake has the right idea. You will def. be able to tell if she is digging on you too. I also agree with Cream. Invite her to hang out in a nonchalant way.

Sadeyes21 · #5 05-02-2003, 08:38 PM

They (whomever they are) that the ones that are perfect for us our usually right below our nose.

This opportunity sounds too good to pass up.

Attractive#7 · #6 05-02-2003, 11:01 PM

Personally I think you should go with the approach of your friend droppin hints to cream b/c what if she doesnt like u then you'll be hurt, but if you go through your friend she's kinda testin the water...

Tom Earp · #7 05-02-2003, 11:14 PM

All Right Cream You Hussy, is it going to be me or some dang Kid?

Now remeber, you have to come to Kansass Dorthy!

I need 2 things , to have navane send me some English Tea, and some Cream to go with it!

Oh well, My Heart is once again Broken via the ficcle finger of Fateless!

Oh, Earp Speak = Icicle of Fate!

Peaches-n-Cream · #8 05-02-2003, 11:43 PM

Ah Tom, you are the hussy! lol!

Optimist Prime · #9 05-03-2003, 02:41 AM

Hey, man, don't call her a hussy.

justamom · #10 05-03-2003, 08:15 AM

I think you need to set up a situation.
There are times when friends go out as a group and not everyone is equally "into it". As the evening drags on, the group can splinter and go different directions.

If you are observant, you may be able to notice an evening she isn't into and offer an escape. Like-hey, have you been here or have you heard this group...try to get her somewhere that has a really different atmosphere and yet allows you to talk. If she goes, the door has opened. If she brings everyone along...well,
you have a little longer to wait.

James · #11 05-03-2003, 11:47 AM

Kind of what justamom has said. Its a bit difficult to totally plan seduction, which is what you need to do, because you can't force her to follow your script. But you can try to plan a little.

So some tips. I don't know how intrinsically flirty you are, but you need to up your flirtiness with her and probably in general.

You need to pay more attention to her in a flirty way. Often times flirtiness is what determines the difference between someone being considered a love interest and a friend. Seriousness kills.

You also have to turn that off and on. Flirtiness adds intensity to any relationship. So you want to be flirty, attentive and present, and then walk away for times. You don't want to overwhelm in the beginning.Plus it creates a desire for your prescence because you are friend.

I am sure I don't have to tell you about the different types of touching that go along with flirting tophysically attune you to each other . . . I don't want to give away too many secrets.

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Originally posted by justamom
I think you need to set up a situation.
There are times when friends go out as a group and not everyone is equally "into it". As the evening drags on, the group can splinter and go different directions.

If you are observant, you may be able to notice an evening she isn't into and offer an escape. Like-hey, have you been here or have you heard this group...try to get her somewhere that has a really different atmosphere and yet allows you to talk. If she goes, the door has opened. If she brings everyone along...well,
you have a little longer to wait.

Peaches-n-Cream · #12 05-03-2003, 01:00 PM

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Originally posted by Optimist Prime
Hey, man, don't call her a hussy.

Thanks!

justamom · #13 05-03-2003, 04:36 PM

YES, YES, YES!!! What James said...to a T!

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You need to pay more attention to her in a flirty way. Often times flirtiness is what determines the difference between someone being considered a love interest and a friend. Seriousness kills.

You also have to turn that off and on. Flirtiness adds intensity to any relationship. So you want to be flirty, attentive and present, and then walk away for times. You don't want to overwhelm in the beginning.Plus it creates a desire for your prescence because you are friend.

Peaches-n-Cream · #14 05-03-2003, 05:41 PM

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Originally posted by James
Kind of what justamom has said. Its a bit difficult to totally plan seduction, which is what you need to do, because you can't force her to follow your script. But you can try to plan a little.

So some tips. I don't know how intrinsically flirty you are, but you need to up your flirtiness with her and probably in general.

You need to pay more attention to her in a flirty way. Often times flirtiness is what determines the difference between someone being considered a love interest and a friend. Seriousness kills.

You also have to turn that off and on. Flirtiness adds intensity to any relationship. So you want to be flirty, attentive and present, and then walk away for times. You don't want to overwhelm in the beginning.Plus it creates a desire for your prescence because you are friend.

I am sure I don't have to tell you about the different types of touching that go along with flirting tophysically attune you to each other . . . I don't want to give away too many secrets.

Please give away your secrets. This guy needs advice!

lifesaver · #15 05-04-2003, 06:52 PM

Thanks for your input everyone. Its just really frustrating, becasue cream went on a date last night and I feel like I am standing idoly by on the sidelines. Liek I am out with an injury or something. I really wanna say something and cream is all I can think of lately. UGH. We'll see what happens.

BTW thanks Cream for the "tell her" song reference. Takes me back to my days as a lifeguard. That song was one that they always played on the loudspeakers at the park. My second season, the tape jammed in the player, so it would only play 14 songs, then rewind and start all over. Imagine hearing that song 20 or 30 times a day. Anyway, it made me laugh.