Perps: Why do it? Why Become One?

AKA2D '91 · #1 05-08-2002, 07:01 PM

Members of the Greek world, please share any stories that you may have of these perps. How were these so and so's "busted"? What happened after? Please give us all the good, bad, and ugly details.

Non-members, why do you all think that one has to go to GREAT links to PRETEND that they are a member of an organization? How would you, handle the situation if it were ever presented to you? All the facts are presented before you and voila Jane/John Doe was a perp.

SweetestDiva · #2 05-08-2002, 07:21 PM

I haven't run into any perps in my *brief* AKA career, lol. But a lot of folks on the internet are suspect. On the bet.com boards after the step-off, I can count the number of "sorors" on one hand who listed when/where they were initiated. Which is all fine and good, but don't top that off with a hearty "SKEE-WHHEE", "SKI-WHEE" or any other random spelling of the call! I also saw a "Delta" who ended with a "WHOO-OOP"... if you're going to be lame enough (and yes, please believe I do mean LAME enough) to perp, you would think you would at least pay attention to little things like that.

AKA_Monet · #3 05-08-2002, 07:42 PM

I personally think that it just goes to show that 'nalia doesn't make the member, the enriching process of membership and brother/sisterhood does...

Anyone can purchase 'nalia and wear it, hell, my Soror Mom MADE me throw out some of my old 'nalia to be given away to Salvation Army... Even after I pleaded with her not to do that!!!

But alas, she and her silver star says that wearing the letters don't mean squat if you ain't gonna work in the Sorority...

So, what can I say?

Enforcer00 · #4 05-08-2002, 07:47 PM

I didn't meet this "Soror" myself, but one of my LBs ran into my "missing Duece" while he was in the mall. She had the nerve to claim that she was from my chapter and Spring 2000 (it was fall of 2000 at the time). I don't advocate perping of any kind but if somebody is just dying to perp why are you going to claim a chapter from the city that you are visiting? 9 times out of 10 the person you are talking to knows you're lying.

AKA2D '91 · #5 05-08-2002, 07:53 PM

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Originally posted by Enforcer00
I didn't meet this "Soror" myself, but one of my LBs ran into my "missing Duece" while he was in the mall. She had the nerve to claim that she was from my chapter and Spring 2000 (it was fall of 2000 at the time). I don't advocate perping of any kind but if somebody is just dying to perp why are you going to claim a chapter from the city that you are visiting? 9 times out of 10 the person you are talking to knows you're lying.

your LB?
Are you in a co-ed organizaton? ON a co-ed line?

Enforcer00 · #6 05-08-2002, 08:13 PM

I'm a Zeta my LB is a Sigma.

AKA2D '91 · #7 05-08-2002, 08:26 PM

oohhhhhhhh! make it plain...sista

make it plain...

LMAO!

Enforcer00 · #8 05-08-2002, 08:38 PM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91
oohhhhhhhh! make it plain...sista

make it plain...

LMAO!

Gotta keep folks guessing

Sugar_N_Spice · #9 05-08-2002, 09:35 PM

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Originally posted by SweetestDiva
On the bet.com boards after the step-off, I can count the number of "sorors" on one hand who listed when/where they were initiated. Which is all fine and good, but don't top that off with a hearty "SKEE-WHHEE", "SKI-WHEE" or any other random spelling of the call! I also saw a "Delta" who ended with a "WHOO-OOP"... if you're going to be lame enough (and yes, please believe I do mean LAME enough) to perp, you would think you would at least pay attention to little things like that.

LMBAO!!!!!!!! Oh, the hilarity!

RedefinedDiva · #10 05-08-2002, 10:02 PM

Well, well, well. I will be the first to comment from the prospect's perspective. Some "perps" just do it for the attention. Plain and simple. Most perps do not know the extent of what it really takes to become a member of a GLO. They think that you just have to learn the names of a few founders, learn a few chants and party walks, a smidge of history, and it's all good.

Most of the time "perps" want the love and attention that is attached to being a member. NO, I am not a perp, but this example fits the topic. In undergrad, I used to hang with girls in XYZ Sorority, Inc. They often took me along to various greek events that happened on other campuses. When they ran into their sorors, it was all hugs and kisses. Since I was along with them, they automatically assumed that I was a member and extended that love to me. It was on ME to inform these ladies that I was not a member, but merely a sisterfriend. Funny thing is, the love was no different (well, maybe slightly, but you get my point) Some perps would have capitalized off of that.

That's just one thing. With the widespread usage of the Internet and all the technology involved, people can create a new identity everyday. Everyone thinks that they are anonymous. If they lie about being a member, how will you know? If they get found out, they can just create a new user name and come back tomorrow. It never ends. Even in person, if go to Florida and rep a Georgia chapter, how will you know? By the time you try to blow up the spot, I'll be on the first thing smoking back to Florida.

My overall opinion is that it is for the love. Just for a second, sit back and think about what it was like before you became a member of you respective org. Then think about how your whole circle of friends and "family" changed after you gained membership. Some people seek that. All sisterfriends can admit that they feel a small sense of envy (regardless of how slight it may be) when a former sisterfriend crosses those sands or members are simply giving "soror only" shout-outs. We all seek that. That's why we are all here. However, the sensible, logical, and most SERIOUS population of us want our props the legit way... when we EARN them!

OneOneTwo · #11 05-08-2002, 10:47 PM

I'm sorry ya'll I just can't get with it. I realize I'm not Greek but I'm willing to wait FOREVER for the benefits of belonging into my choice BGLO before ever, Ever, EVER claiming to be a member. I want the opportunity to become a MEMBER, not to go around "pretending" (I put it in quotes because you can't) to be one.

When I was a freshman, I've had several people claim they might have been in an organization and they weren't. How did I find out... I visited the chapters website or for the org of my interest, I went to the events they held or for orgs I weren't interested in, I just went to a function an noticed how all the members were wearing one thing and they another. Some people were legit, they just weren't a member of that chapter but some were proven to be otherwise. And with those people, I had to cut off all ties with them because if they were going to lie about something as serious as this, then what else would they lie to me about?

And you know what else? I hate it when after certain organizations (this one at my school for instance) bring out their new members for their coming out show; you see just about everyone and their momma wearing that orgs colors. And it's not just the wearing of the colors but it is them accepting congrats for being new members of the chapter THEY KNOW they were not apart of. Makes me sick. And the funny thing is that some of these girls will make up stuff about what they did while they were "On-Line", and me and a REAL member of the organization or a group of new members will just be standing there listening. Of course the girls are dumb enough to give their real name so when folks go to the website and see their name is NOT listed, then they are already caught. Stupid people.

So in a nutshell perping is not worth it. I wish someone could point me in the direction of one of the forums where folks were talking about people switching orgs. I got some comments for that one too (if I can have permission to post them). Okay ya'll I found the thread, it is on the Delta Sigma Theta board called A(nother) Word of Advice and it is at or NEAR the top.

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Happydaysf91 · #12 05-08-2002, 11:15 PM

I don't like it at all...but if you do run into a person that you feel is 'suspect'...I suggest that you find out her name, contact the particular chapter that she is claiming...and if the person is really out there wearing paraphanalia and etc....I suggest that you send in the name to our National body (or suggest so to the chapter)...so that that person will never become a part of our illustrious sisterhood.

And Soror Monet is right.....anyone can wear letters. We as greeks don't 'own' the alphabet.

SORORS when you meet ladies on the street or etc. be careful when talking about our business. Find out where the person was made, when -- ask something that only an AKA would now....see what Sorors in the city she knows.

I'm not too concerned with these pari-wearing-lying-young-ladies that say that they are part of our illustrious organizations. You bust her out...she doesn't know anything...is not part of the organization...you report her to the national body and try to make sure she never becomes a member. However, I am concerned with these 'ghost' perpetrating members ----- and this is A big problem among all greeks -- especially among fraternities!

I tell you....

Soror AKA2d...are you on the Vine...I just ask something similar to this on there! (smile)

OhSoVeryLadylike · #13 05-09-2002, 12:45 AM

I came in close contact with a perpertrator of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Incorporated. She worked in my office with me. But, as an interested person, I felt who was I to question her a MEMBER. So I just went along with whatever until things started to not add up like when we went to events together she would stand in line with me instead of going to ladies table get her “love” she her “love” and get in free, she would pay her dollar like everyone else. Then my close friend who is a member of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity Incorporated who is the PR person for my school’s pan-Hellenic council saw me at a game with her beside her car with the “AKA 1908” license plate and asked whose car was I in, he know I did not go and cross without telling him. He continued to go off on a mad tangent I finally got him to calm down and told him whose car it was. And he was like you should ride back to school with me and he told me in the car he did not she was Greek, which he knows most Greeks on our campus and around the city. Then when we could go to her apartment and she would make us wait at the door and one time I went into her bedroom and saw that all of her “greek apparel” was gone. She said that she was made at a city-wide chapter in California (I later found out it did not exist) she was also heard said she was made at our school’s chapter (she was 32 so she could have been, but she was not). She was found out at graduation when wore an AKA stole and no body knew who she was, I do not know the exact details of what went down. I do not know why she did it, but I later found out that she often reinvents herself.
Now when I meet people I look and casually bring up their name to people who I know are members. I know it’s not my place but I can’t look to someone I can not trust for advance about how to pursue an organization she is not even a member of.
I know me personally I want all the rights and privileges of a MEMBER of this great organization, I don’t want to have to watch every word I say, just to get FALSE LOVE because someone thinks I am member and I am really not, because one day I would be found out. It is not worth it. Not AT ALL.

I want all sides of the DEAL I want the working side and showing side. I want it ALL. And if I am BLESSED I will get it all. And if I never do then, it was not meant to be and I will definitely not pretend to be a member. My mother, grandmothers, cousins, aunts and friends would kill me for dishonoring their beloved organization it is not worth it, NOT AT ALL.

AKA2D '91 · #14 05-09-2002, 08:09 AM

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Originally posted by Happydaysf91

Soror AKA2d...are you on the Vine...I just ask something similar to this on there! (smile)

I was "booted" in November.
LMAO

techie_girl_44 · #15 05-09-2002, 12:40 PM

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Originally posted by OhSoVeryLadylike
Then my close friend who is a member of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity Incorporated who is the PR person for my school’s pan-Hellenic council saw me at a game with her beside her car with the “AKA 1908” license plate and asked whose car was I in, he know I did not go and cross without telling him.

She was found out at graduation when wore an AKA stole and no body knew who she was, I do not know the exact details of what went down. I do not know why she did it, but I later found out that she often reinvents herself.

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Originally posted by OneOneTwo
And you know what else? I hate it when after certain organizations (this one at my school for instance) bring out their new members for their coming out show; you see just about everyone and their momma wearing that orgs colors. And it's not just the wearing of the colors but it is them accepting congrats for being new members of the chapter THEY KNOW they were not apart of. Makes me sick. And the funny thing is that some of these girls will make up stuff about what they did while they were "On-Line", and me and a REAL member of the organization or a group of new members will just be standing there listening. Of course the girls are dumb enough to give their real name so when folks go to the website and see their name is NOT listed, then they are already caught. Stupid people.

Okay I am not a member of any Greek organization but these posts shock the mess out of me!

License plates and stoles at a campus where there is a chapter full of people who can bust you out?!? Saying what you did "on-line" in front of people who just crossed? Are people that bold? At my old school the Greeks were considered a bit "bout it" and all these folks would have caught some serious chit.

I have never personally come in contact with a perp but to be honest, I don't know how I would tell the difference between a real member of an organization and a perp. If all I know is what a GDI is allowed to know how am I going to "call out" someone with my little bit of information? I think if I suspected someone was a perp I would pass that info on to a member of the org. the person was perping and let them handle that.